My wife does not exercise strict control over me. She has standing instructions to always lock myself up and I do for the most part. Sometimes I forget after I take a shower and then lock up when I remember. She checks me about once a day. Sometimes when I am sore, she will give me the keys rather than have me wake her up when she is sleeping. I gave my word that I would not masturbate and after 11 months, I have never gone back on my word. It is to the point that even I think masturbation is cheating, like she does.
I am more comfortable locked up as my BON4M restricts my erections and reminds me of what I promised not to do.