Used to be a game, now she's serious

[lockedbywife]

The expectations, or maybe not expectations but goals are sometimes on the unreasonable side. At the same time, it may be just a part of my personality but I tend to shoot for the stars. Worst case you don't quite get there but have fun in the process. Whether it's bedroom experiences, vacations, etc, I enjoy trying to make them epic. You live once, might as well experience as much as you can.

If you take your time, though, you can reach the stars without having to risk the "worst case" (which can be a lot worse than just having fun and moving on, trust me).

NASA didn't just stand up one day and say, "We're putting a guy on the moon," and then launch Apollo 11. They did test after test to make sure they could take the next step.

No need to rush things, imo.

Yeah, you're right. At this point I think all my crazy thoughts are out there. I really have no expectations. "Expectations" is kind of the key word to get away from.

[lockedbywife]

This remains on my boundary list lol.

Funny how we can have different reactions to different things- for me "fart play" is one of the [few] things that is "out of bounds" on my list of hard limits, as is "red wings" (no longer a concern with her anymore)...going "Golden" however, makes me hard as a rock, more so if she is telling me how 'dirty' I am because it *does* arouse me.

Yeah, it's weird isn't it? Like truly even posting anonymously on a forum I was embarrassed to make that post. Because there's sometimes no logic to what we're ok with and what we're not, and I'm not sure I could even try to explain it. Bottom line is it's just the way we're wired and there's little that can be done to change it.

[TwistedMister]

Bottom line is it's just the way we're wired and there's little that can be done to change it.

Actually, that isn't completely true. Many of our responses *can* be altered through positive/negative reinforcement techniques, just as in Pavlov's famous dog experiment. Our *initial* response may be one thing, but [in many cases] it can be changed by the appropriate conditioning.

[Michele]

Bottom line is it's just the way we're wired and there's little that can be done to change it.

Actually, that isn't completely true. Many of our responses *can* be altered through positive/negative reinforcement techniques, just as in Pavlov's famous dog experiment. Our *initial* response may be one thing, but [in many cases] it can be changed by the appropriate conditioning.

I've found I agree with CQ (I think it was) who said this CAN lead to the slippery slope - doesn't have to, but can.

[TwistedMister]

I've found I agree with CQ (I think it was) who said this CAN lead to the slippery slope - doesn't have to, but can.

I think that that is definitely a possibility, maybe even a probability. The thing is to be aware of it and to decide if one wants to go down that slope (or risk it), and to be aware of the consequences. In my own experience, the slippery slope exists [for us] and I can see how we have been going down it as I look back, from Mrs. Twisted's initial hesitation to her [more recent] comments alluding to a desire to keep me locked and controlled as a more permanent condition (and the rules/conditions provide her with the opportunity to do so indefinitely, if she so chooses).

I can discern our progress toward/down other 'slippery slopes' as well, as we make discoveries about the sorts of things that "turn us on". Personally, I get a 'kick' out of the risk of going down those slopes, sort of like a luge run, enjoying the hell out of the ride while aware of the danger that something 'unpleasant' could occur...and not being able to stop until you reach the end.

[lockedbywife]

Been away a while, sorry! Our interaction has definitely died down over the past week. Combination of a few things, but the most obvious thing is that in most situations I'm more focused on our interactions in the chastity department than she is. We had a recent anniversary and she decided to let me orgasm. I was a little surprised based on some of the recent talk, but she let me, no tricks or anything. While she felt like being nice and it was fun, I think we both kind of realized afterwards it was like the air came out of the room. We didn't know what to do with ourselves the rest of the weekend! While she intended to pick right back up with it she got a little sick during the following week and finally a break from everything just made the most sense.

I think we'll get back at this reasonably soon, but to this point it's been pretty consistent that once we get around a month she loses a lot of motivation. I do feel like there's more and more potential for a long term predicament each time, but we're just not there yet. Each time we go through something like this though, we learn a little more about each other. Without my having to say it, I think she could read from my expression that there's a big part of me that wanted her to really test my limits a lot harder. If that happens I'll be sure to check in and share those experiences! In the meantime I look forward to contributing more to the other discussions on the board.

[Little boy]

We have been together 20 years played around with it couple times and it is a mental game for shore took us 3 4 time of trying to get on same page and mindset

[locked4her55]

enjoying the hell out of the ride while aware of the danger that something 'unpleasant' could occur...and not being able to stop until you reach the end.

or.. crash before you even get to the end.