Used to be a game, now she's serious

[lockedbywife]

Heh, alright, I give up. Guess this was the wrong place for me.

Possibly but i think you need to realise your first post read very much as if you were suggesting you didn't want this !! even suggesting you were more or less forced into chastity on your return from work every day, something that's patently not possible !! (my keyholder struggles to lock me up even when i want Her to !!). If this was not what you wished to convey then you need to look at the way you write a FIRST post on a forum that's generally made up of genuinely chaste guys and their equally knowledgable KeyHolders. Even as new as i am to this at only four months in, felt that your post was fantasy more than fact. Had you made it obvious that this was all a "mutual play" between you and your KeyHolder i'm sure you would have recieved a more sympathetic response all round.

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It's all good. I guess from my perspective, the reason for explaining it that way is I just can't wear my device to work or out in public in general, or we just aren't in a place where we're comfortable doing so. That doesn't change the fact that it's understood I am not to orgasm. Is she physically forcing me into chastity when I come home from work? Of course not. But generally when I walk through the door, she tells me to put it on, and I comply. That's just simply a detail of how our arrangement is working.

I've submitted to her will from the beginning, and obviously if her head is in a place where she wants me in chastity, I'm going to respect that. In order for it to be "real" though in my mind it's important that she makes it a point to keep me under lock and key every opportunity she has. That's something she's never made much of an effort to do until now (for example - I always have to sleep in my device), and I'm finally at a point where I've been denied long enough that it's affecting me psychologically. When I made my first post, as you might be able to tell, it was at a moment where I had just been teased relentlessly and denied. She went to bed and I was just insane with lust. I wanted release very badly in that moment, even though the deeper fantasy is to remain chaste (which I still am).

I suppose I could have been more clear on certain points. I wrote it from a perspective of fantasy I guess because it has always been a fantasy. Everything we do though is of course consensual. She makes the rules, I agree to follow them. Sorry for any confusion. As I said I'm new to this community and it's very possible my situation doesn't fit in here. It just seemed like the most logical place to share.

[slave d]

i think you'll fit in just fine but your first post may have been a bit OTT and "fantastic" in a way that others (as i did) may well have assumed you were telling a pretty tall story. First posts here are usually more "Hi, i've been doing this for a while and i've joined here to learn and share" !! than a hard-core story of a situation that suggested you were being forced to do this !!

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[locked4her55]

Hey lockedbywife, I too also think you will fit in well here but I agree with slave d that my first impression was leaning a bit towards the fiction side.

Sometimes making your first post in the "Hello" thread (per the suggested rule) is a way of introducing yourself to the gang before jumping into your situation.

That said, I look forward to hearing more about your journey.

[lockedbywife]

Point well taken. I'd do it over again if I could guys. I guess the wife and I have been together a long time and I wasn't aware of this forum during our initial experiences with the subject. Certainly 5 years ago, my initial post would've been much more exploratory and not nearly as sensationalistic. I can completely see how it read as fiction. I guess I'm fortunate that something really happening can seem like fiction.

Much of this experience is still new to us and that may be why it's so over the top at first. It's only been a month, so maybe in a few weeks she grows tired of all this, who knows. I could see it fizzling out, but I'm hoping she keeps her drive. I know it's working for us so far.

This weekend has been a challenging one for me, but not her, only because we've had a fair amount of social plans. While I'd much prefer to get attention in the bedroom, we went out with friends instead last night. We get such little time during the work week that I really look forward to the interactions we get on weekends. This is one of the challenges, just getting through another work week and going through more and more days without release. It's selfish but I guess I just want this to be at the forefront every day. She has no idea just how much this is always on my mind while she has no problem just going on with life as if everything is normal.

I'll check in here now and again, but given the way I got out on the wrong foot maybe won't be too much of a regular. Just felt the need to share this with somebody out there! Obviously stuff like this can't be shared with friends and acquaintances in every day life!

Thanks for your understanding and I do apologize if I came off like an ass on a first impression.

[TwistedMister]

I'll check in here now and again, but given the way I got out on the wrong foot maybe won't be too much of a regular...Thanks for your understanding and I do apologize if I came off like an ass on a first impression.

Don't worry about it, and don't let it keep you away. This is generally a fairly 'forgiving' and tolerant crowd, unless you're completely off the rails.

I'm interested in hearing more about how it goes for you this time around.

[locked4her55]

It's selfish but I guess I just want this to be at the forefront every day. She has no idea just how much this is always on my mind while she has no problem just going on with life as if everything is normal.

This statement is absolutely spot on!

Life continues rather normal for your wife. For you it's entirely different, especially in the beginning. You have this thing that's locked onto you and because of it you're horny most of the time. It's pretty much all you can think about, come on, we're guys. Would you expect anything less.

In the beginning for us I was Mr. Information Overload. It took a week or two, but I could tell I was overwhelming my wife with all this. Almost to the point that she was ready to call this whole thing off.

I backed off and let her get used to this and daily demonstrated the benefits to her.

Now going on 4+ years I find she's the one making many of the innuendos.

[lockedbywife]

In the beginning for us I was Mr. Information Overload. It took a week or two, but I could tell I was overwhelming my wife with all this. Almost to the point that she was ready to call this whole thing off.

This is me for sure right now, but fortunately, she has previous experience with it, and like you I'm starting to get a sense for when to back off. I think it took her a really long time to realize when I get frustrated or demanding, it isn't personal. Her feelings couldn't handle it before, but now she just knows me so well that if I get angry about the situation (like lack of attention), she'll pretty much just laugh in my face, or use it as fuel for further punishment. If anything the passion turns her on now. Years ago she'd take it so personally that this just couldn't work.

Saturday night we were out late and she didn't feel well the next day after having a little too much to drink. It really derailed our entire Sunday and I was left to my thoughts for much of the day. While I was waiting for her to get up and about, I drafted up kind of a list of ideas of what she could do to keep up the suspense and to allow our experiences to flow into the week and not be so focused on the weekends. That kind of bit me in the ass, as one of my ideas led her to lock me up (handcuffed to the bed) all night last night. Before bed she got off in my face and pulled her soiled panties over my face, leaving me with that reminder all night long. I was in bed next to her cuffed to the bed, with device off the entire night. Every couple hours she woke up, reached over and did enough to get me hard, then went right back to sleep. It was incredibly arousing but some of those ideas are probably going to cause me a lot of inconvenience in the near future. While it was nice to have my dick free, I realized just how difficult it is to sleep with arms cuffed above my head. Sometimes I guess I'll take any attention over none at all. Of course, the thought of her continuing to do stuff like this to me continues to be a turn on, so I guess it's working.

As I write this, I've been home from work for about 45 minutes. She had somewhere to go but once again, the moment I walked through the door she made me put my device back on and took the key with her. She continues to be really on top of this. I just wish I hadn't chosen the wrong pin for my CB6000S! It's a little too tight and she might not be home for a few hours lol.

Thanks guys for sharing your experiences. In addition to some of your feedback I've gotten some pms and had a chance to share thoughts with a few people. This is exciting stuff to me and I really find it interesting what others have been through. Through others experiences I'm sure that there's a ton we can leverage in our relationship.

[ptharv]

Cuffed to the headboard all night would be uncomfortable, so try using fist mitts next time. They are comfortable but extremely frustrating to have locked on while your cock is free.

[lockedbywife]

I'd definitely like to look into something like that. I think she enjoys the discomfort I'm enduring on some level, but there's got to be a better way to be in bondage longer term without just killing my arms. Anything more than 2-3 hours and you really start to feel it.

[Michele]

We have bed restraints and mitts ance I use both. I prefer to have my boy comfortable for the longer times he is restrained.