Penalty for cumming without permission?

[luckylocked]

This wasn't a penalty for cumming, rather for topping from the bottom. Tried something on Friday night she was very unhappy about and the penalty was I wasn't allowed to touch her and she was really cross. I spent the whole weekend doing whatever I could, sinking into a deep sub state and changing many behaviours just to get off the naughty list.
Finally got there by 11pm Sunday night where she had me thanking her profusely for being allowed to give her an orgasm.
I love it when she gets into her chastity nirvana which is she is in charge and I better not fuck up!

[Atone]

I love it when she gets into her chastity nirvana which is she is in charge and I better not fuck up!

I love this, never really thought about it before. My wife gets there occasionally and it is really good

[luckylocked]

Mrs K tells me it takes her about 4 weeks to get there and she says it always hits her when I am going down on her and she is sitting up. I always try and make eye contact and she says there is a point looking into my eyes as I am devouring her pussy that she realises how much she owns me and how powerful that makes her feel.
That's when the real fun starts and I have a true mistress looking after me and making sure that I am looking after her every need.

[reeve]

It depends on what would be the usual goal of not cumming.

Taking the normal time of not having an orgasm and doubling it seems like a good punishment.
If the sub cums again in that period of time double it again and make him wear the chastity cage until the punishment is done. So only eating pussy and fucking with a strap-on leaving the cock in the cage.

So if you're normally cum once a week, it will be 2 weeks and cum again it will be a month without stimulation of the cock.

[Oldtimer]

I read this somewhere and we tried it once. It is hard ball slapping. The number is determined on which offense it is. We have only had reason to do that once and it hurt like hell and have no intention of having any accidents again during our T&D sessions. In fact, it hurt so much that I ordered a CB6Ks which arrives tomorrow to prevent future accidents.

[kunst]

My wife decided that if I cum without permission I get extra 5 or more days denial, without any stimulation.
I was wondering if it would be worst having 5 days without any stimulation at all than 5 days of T&D without cum... what is your experience?

[reeve]

I think for me T&D would be more frustrating than no stimulation at all, but on the other hand if you really long for stimulation even if it will not leed to having an orgasm might seem frustrating too...

I think it depends on the person and the mood.

btw Kunst, are you dutch too? (the name "kunst" means art in dutch)

[kunst]

I think for me T&D would be more frustrating than no stimulation at all, but on the other hand if you really long for stimulation even if it will not leed to having an orgasm might seem frustrating too...

I think it depends on the person and the mood.

This is a point that is very difficult to explain to my wife. She thinks about chastity in terms of total abstinence from any form of sex, included stimulation of nipples.
The only T&D is when we do PIV without me being allowed to cum.

btw Kunst, are you dutch too? (the name "kunst" means art in dutch)

No, I am sorry, I am not dutch. I like german classic music, that's why my nickname (I am not german either, but if I have german grandparents).

[coffee]

my girlfriend uses several tools to punish me, the worst of them is showing her disappointment . She sees our agreement as a fundamental part of our relationship, and breaking it is like lying or cheating/deceiving her. She gets very sad and disappointed and that actually really hurts me and drives me straight into a strong submissive state trying desperately to make up for it.
apart from that, last time I came she punished me in these ways:
- cold showers for a week (it's below freezing temperatures here, so this really sucks in the morning)
- daily 20 canings with my least favorite whip for two weeks. (It's a really sharp cane-like whip, I absolutely hate the pain it gives me, it actually makes me nauseous).
- complete obedience and servitude until she has forgiven me.

[kjwar]

My wife's favorite SERIOUS punishment is wrapping my jewels with electrical tape so they are protruding out nice and tight, then makes me roll a die and the outcome of the die is the amount of times she takes a rubber band and snaps it on each ball. She uses this punishment for any point she really wants to get across. But a word to the wise, it's intense, I've almost use the safe word on my last punishment.