Penalty for cumming without permission?

[mellyshubby]

My loving wife who holds the keys to my happiness (in many ways) is considering what kind of penalty she should impose if I am unable to exercise willpower when I have opportunity, but not permission to cum. I am most vulnerable during PIV when on top. So far, she thinks she would impose a lockdown (device does NOT come off) of 1 week for first offense, 10 days for 2nd, 13 days for 3rd, etc.

I know that many of you guys have done that kind of time many times over, so don't laugh too hard. I am married for 28 years to a wife who gave me PIV or a blowjob at least 4 days a week (yea, I had it good). Chastity is great fun, but I was used to getting my rocks off regularly. Longer stints are going to have to be eased into for me.

Anyway, I was curious what some of you have worked out with your key holder as suitable punishment for going without permission.

Thanks

[RegularJoe]

My loving wife who holds the keys to my happiness (in many ways) is considering what kind of penalty she should impose if I am unable to exercise willpower when I have opportunity, but not permission to cum. I am most vulnerable during PIV when on top. So far, she thinks she would impose a lockdown (device does NOT come off) of 1 week for first offense, 10 days for 2nd, 13 days for 3rd, etc.

I know that many of you guys have done that kind of time many times over, so don't laugh too hard. I am married for 28 years to a wife who gave me PIV or a blowjob at least 4 days a week (yea, I had it good). Chastity is great fun, but I was used to getting my rocks off regularly. Longer stints are going to have to be eased into for me.

Anyway, I was curious what some of you have worked out with your key holder as suitable punishment for going without permission.

Thanks

It ruins the fun if I suggest suitable punishments; it implies a degree of control, and Beth plainly doesn't like it. Topping from the bottom just doesn't fly with her.

I too once enjoyed frequent orgasms, but those days are gone....And I've been pushed through thresholds of sexual frustration triggered by extended stimulation and denial that I had never experienced. You'll be surprised at what you can bear, though it won't come easy.

Beth is the one who saw the spike strip option on the MM website, and insisted on its purchase. She's used it sparingly, for which I'm quite grateful because, frankly, I'm terrified she'll one day punish me by sentencing me to an entire day wearing the JB with it in place. I know it's coming, but I don't know when.

[TwistedMister]

Oddly enough, I can't recall that we have discussed that particular situation. However, I would think that [for me] it would be the same as for willful defeat of the device and 'cheating' (self-induced orgasm)- first offense, 3 month extension of the Period of Service and no orgasms permitted for the next 3 months; doubled for second offense; doubled again for 3rd offense, etc.

[mellyshubby]

We did discuss the spike strip, but she thinks it would be too cruel for overnight. Oddly enough I find it quite comfortable during the day, as long as I'm busy doing other things. I'm not sure if keeping the little guy in solitary confinement for extended periods wouldn't be harder than one night with the strip.

[Michele]

I thought I'd reply here as a Keyholder... we're not into physical pain or corporal punishment which works for some people as punishment. We've had to get creative with punishment since a longer denial time our longer chastity time would be enjoyable for hubby lol

For us actual punishment would be for deliberately disobeying me or breaking a "rule" in our agreement and for hubby his punishment comes in the form of NOT playing... he will not get any t&d or chastity play for a certain amount of time. He basically will lose access to something he enjoys. For example he got bitchy a week or so ago and was very sassy in talking to me (I won't get into detail) but I had to punish him... and yes, even though we talked about it and he apologized I still had to enforce the punishment because it is in our agreement. His punishment was that he could not look at or touch my breasts for an entire week (he absolutely loves them so this was very hard on him) and I had a lot of fun changing in front of him and making him look away haha sometimes just in the middle of conversation I would lift my shirt haha.

Anyway, you get my point... a punishment has to be something that will be very UNenjoyable for you.

[Aarkey]

I wouldn't want to suggest I know appropriate punishments for another's relationship dynamic, however if you find that you're having problems controlling yourself during sex, perhaps what we sometimes do could help you.

My keyholder enjoys sex a lot, and if she wants my denial to continue, we use a numbing condom, with a second condom over it. Experience has taught me not to roll the numbing one down fully, so that the second condom fully covers it - that prevents any of the numbing cream from touching her. Also give the condom a minute or two to start to work its numbing effect.

I know some men find its too numbing for them, others it doesn't numb well enough. But it works well for us, might work well for you too.

[locked4her55]

I'm with RegularJoe on this one. My wife would be hesitant to impose anything I suggested. She also isn't into pain at all so the spike strip wasn't even discussed when purchased.

I do have a couple of things that are not sexual in content that would make me think twice about breaking the rules but she does read my posts from time to time so I will keep them to myself.

[bratboy]

In the past my punishment for cumming without permission would have been to consume the mess.

This go round that is happening most times when I have permission to cum (so disgusting). So frankly I don't know what her punishment would be. She does do corporal punishments for disobeying but for something like this I would guess probably an extended time until my next chance to cum.

[danj]

My wife is pretty lax on this compared to many keyholders. That said, I'm better behaved than in the past, but had an unauthorized cum a while back. I came clean and was told I couldn't play with our dildo for one week. The dildo is my only solo form of fun I'm allowed when my wife is away.

[Oldtimer]

My wife used to add a few more days but now she had me order a CB6000 to wear every time we are in bed for sex. This way she can prevent accidents and also add a new element to her fun, erection control.