"I Just Don't get It"

[Tom Allen]

It would be one thing if you were talking to friends

I thought we were friends.

I'm assuming that you were being funny, but there really is a world of difference between talking to people that you know socially, and talking to people on the internet that you will probably never have to see in person.

Ironically, there is a certain Freemasonry amongst the anonymous internet kinksters; I'm reasonably certain that if I knew most of you in person that you wouldn't go blabbing about my kinks to my family and cow-orkers. I know for a *fact*, however, that some of my family and in-person friends will talk about such things, even after promising confidence.

[Tom Allen]

I'm not sure my wife will ever "get it" either, but she's game (most of the time) because she knows it's important to me. Sometimes I think that's all we can expect with our spouses.

And there you have it: Good, Giving , and Game.

[Atone]

I'm assuming that you were being funny, but there really is a world of difference between talking to people that you know socially, and talking to people on the internet that you will probably never have to see in person.

Yes, but serious at the same time. I think we are friends and are really interested in each other. My original response was "I thought we were friends but without all the baggage of most real world relationships" but I didn't really want to think it through too much so I dropped the qualifiers off it. You may be right about most on here not blabbing things to others. The one thing about "friends" on the internet is that they generally don't have any access to friends from a different slice of your life. It does make it a lot easier to share things that you wouldn't otherwise. Also, you are less likely to be subject to judgement from a group of similar minded people.

-A

[John]

One of the thing my wife and I are looking forward to now that we have decided to have another period of chasity, is sharing on this forum. We know we will learn from others, maybe offer our views at times, and so increase our enjoyment of my denial.
We do not use our real names, although we are absolutely genuine in all other respects. Let's call my wife Jan. We can stay anonymous and still share - that's got to be good. She is sat beside me as I write and confirms she is keen to be involved in the forum as time permits.
We just don't get the problem.

[Celtic Queen]

[quote="justplaying"]
Reading the posts here you find a lot of the KH /wive's have low sex drive or perhaps even low self esteem or just have some "issues" with sex. (with the exception of Celtic Queen and Dev, of course ).

LOL, thanks I think.

So here's a female confession straight from the mare's mouth.

I don't get it either. But I love the effect so I'll just play along, enjoy the output and look at all the other couples who can't sort their shit out together and be grateful that my adoring husband is happy to have his bits stuck in a cage all day.

With regards to sharing on the forum, it's the anonymity that makes for the confessional.

[Belle]

I will admit that that I don't get the whole kink of MC, but what I do get is that I love my husband and it is his. Don't get me wrong, I see and reap the benefits, so I am not complaining. I just don't think I could have a piece of metal between my legs 24/7.

As for the forum, I can sahare because you don't know me in my other life. The Internet makes hard to have discussions easy because of anonymity.

[justplaying]

Celtic Queen and Dev....totally meant as a compliment...glad you took it the right way....JustPlaying

[Kiki]

Reading the posts here you find a lot of the KH /wive's have low sex drive or perhaps even low self esteem or just have some "issues" with sex. (with the exception of Celtic Queen and Dev, of course).

Hi. Seems to me like different people are into this for many different reasons. I have yet to find a blog by someone whose situation matches mine... if I have any "issue" with sex it is that *I* am the one who wants it all the time. Poor Lukus has to lock himself away to get a break! Well ok not really, but I am definitely the friskier partner. (And I am utterly uninterested in being locked up myself, although I certainly enjoy the effects it has on him, and it does look really hot.)

I started with it just because he asked me to. If it makes him happy, and there is no harm in it, why not go ahead? Now that we've played a bit more extensively, I mostly like the fact that it seems to make him act like he did when we were first dating. It's a bit of power exchange, too...

[Dev]

Since I am the one who came up with the idea in our household, obviously I think the idea of a chastity device is hot -- on him, not me, that is! I don't like the look of the big belt devices (I know, lots of people think the Latowski is hot, but I'm not one of them) and since women's CDs are all belts, they don't appeal to me. Plus the idea of me being in chastity doesn't appeal to me. But having my husband locked up? Bring it on!

When I was young, I used to get told I was bossy. That wasn't a good thing and I learned to keep my bossiness in check. I am discovering with chastity I can let my inner-bossy Dev out and it's a lot of fun. Ab likes it too. I've always been an assertive woman which is one of the things that attracted him to me. Bossing him around is just taking it a step further -- and maybe not being quite as polite. Hm, maybe that's a way to think of it: assertiveness is just bossiness with please and thank you tacked on to the end of the sentence.

D

[Locked by LRC]

We started chastity as play for just a week or week-end. Chastity was always something I had initiated and LRC was indifferent towards it. After doing this for years I told LRC two weeks before her birthday I was going to be locked and she could “unwrap” it on her birthday. On her birthday she asked if I would be willing to do it for two months. I agreed, and after two months she was again asking for an extension of the time. This time I asked her why and she said this was the first time she had felt 100% confident that I wasn't cheating on her. I asked her why she felt this way because I had never consciously done anything to make her suspect my fidelity. She told me that she didn't suspect my fidelity, it was her past history. Most of the guys she dated before me had gone out on her while they were dating. Because of my chastity she feels secure. When I had been in chastity for a longer period this idea had come to her.