Question for all you "ex masturbators"

[denied_one]

.We are a certain type of people, guys.

Ex-masturbators...

On a daily basis I mean...for all intents and purposes

Not many guys can make that claim legitimately.

So here's my question...

What part of the day is the "worst" for you? I put worst in quote because "worst" can mean different things. Could be a time of day that is more stressful for you. Or it could be a certain time of day that you used to do it most frequently. There could be a daily "trigger" that you had to overcome, where it's still difficult at times when that trigger arrives.

The absolute most difficult time for me is in the early hours of the morning, 4-5 am.

That was my most "intimate" time with my own quiet thoughts.

Its a toss up if I get up "on the wrong side of the bed" most days.

Just curious about everyone else's more difficult times..

[Chosen_Jackal]

I used to masturbate pretty frequently. Almost daily in addition to sex with Red.
I thought it would be something I’d miss, but giving up masturbation has been the easiest part of chastity, so I don’t really have any "worst time of day".

[KnownAsHerbert]

I don't really have a specific time of the day either and most days I honestly don't think about it.

However, I used to use masturbation when I got badly stressed by things that cropped up. Somehow it helped and once I had come I could tackle whatever it was better.

There have been occasions when things have caused me to need to have a wank, to jerk off, whatever you want to call it. These are the times that I would have done so in the past. Now, there is just a silent acknowledgement that I can't.

So my triggers are mainly external factors, such as pressures and stress, rather than daily. I guess I can go for many days or weeks without these triggers. Depends on the luck of life.

[Nick0965]

For me, it is usually the morning shower. Everything is “just there” and no cleaning up needed afterwards. It was my morning jerk off sessions that made me realise my marriage was over. She had withdrawn from having sex with me; I sought my pleasure in the bathroom, and shortly afterwards discovered she was getting hers someplace completely different.

Bedtime masturbation was a different story. That was always more of a creating the situation. Getting the porn lined up, tissues for clean up, etc.

[Chosen_Jackal]

That sounds like a difficult situation Nick. I hope you’re doing well now.

[Tongue+groove]

I have always had a high sex drive, her too in her younger days. Then hormones changed, for both of us. I actually went for maybe as many as five years with low T. Then when it all got worked out I was 16 again. Muscle tone, energy and sex drive returned and she couldn’t keep up.

My masturbation got so bad that I bought a machine to do all the work for me. Then one day I realized the machine was starting to replace her. I am sure she saw it before me. Wives are just that way, and thankfully so. I usually stay pretty busy but if I don’t and get the least bit bored I m in for a good wank.

Stress relief, boredom, home alone or just plain horniness all factor in. Time of day or location really didn’t matter either. If a person could be addicted to a wank then it was me. Looking back I can honestly say that in the early chastity days I tried to cheat the system but with time my mindset changed.

Chastity has been a positive change for us. Lately she’s been messing with my head and probably doesn’t even realize it. In the past 4 months I have had a fair amount of activity with her but my only full Releases have been her about once a month, directing me wanking. She tells me how to do it and she expects fast cumming. No embellishing the pleasure, it’s purely mechanical. I’ve said before it’s like getting caught smoking a cigarette and made to smoke the whole pack.

The end result is , I want her so bad I’m dizzy at times. And I don’t need or want to wank even at her direction.

[Nick0965]

That sounds like a difficult situation Nick. I hope you’re doing well now.

It was over 10 years ago. The separation was gradual, until all of a sudden it wasn't.

I shall eventually get round to writing about my journey, but one of my issues is that I have very "thin" skin on my penis shaft, and it tears easily. That means a goodly amount of blood can come out, and cause scarring. Being caged prevents me masturbating, which prevents me turning my penis into a bloody mess.

[Chastityat60]

I think that men have a similar cycle as to women., I could manage to not masturbate for a period of time even outside of Chastity. As with all all of us, I believe we don’t need a cage to prevent us from masturbating. We can if we want to regardless, but for me, the point is not necessarily a trigger moment, or a specific stressor..
for some reason, I feel that a certain time of the month can have my brain swimming about nothing other, but if I make it through those couple days, I’m good again for a while. If I choose to, I can indulge at any time as you all know, my spouse does not play and self locking seems to be a game for one.
So for me primarily it seems to be cyclical.

[Tongue+groove]

. So for me primarily it seems to be cyclical..

I find this interesting. I have always been able to note the differences in my wife’s scent in general, depending upon the various times of the month. She has claimed that I was always hornier when she was most fertile. I’m sure much of it was subconscious it none the less I have come to appreciate the scent of a woman.

FWIW I’m also pretty good at identifying a pregnant woman by her behavior and skin tone. Mrs. G says I’m more accurate than any pee test.

[Chosen_Jackal]

. So for me primarily it seems to be cyclical..

I find this interesting. I have always been able to note the differences in my wife’s scent in general, depending upon the various times of the month. She has claimed that I was always hornier when she was most fertile. I’m sure much of it was subconscious it none the less I have come to appreciate the scent of a woman.

FWIW I’m also pretty good at identifying a pregnant woman by her behavior and skin tone. Mrs. G says I’m more accurate than any pee test.

I’ve never consciously been able to smell when Red is most fertile, but I’ve always subconsciously been more attracted to her at those times.
She’s jokingly told me she can tell how close she is to her period based on how animalistic I am towards her