A different reason than most.

[Paulie67]

I am a single gay man, I live alone. This all began because of a massive masturbation addiction I have where I would masturbate/edge while watching pornography for 12 plus hours every day I was not at work, and on work days I would still find time to masturbate/edge for a good few hours often between 3 to 5 hours.... I just want my life back and have time to enjoy other things I enjoy. So far I have found it awesome, so many more hours in the day now. Because I can't masturbate I don't even think about it. I feel horny all the time but knowing I can't do anything about it is awesome and I don't even try to masturbate. I have so much more energy and life, the days seem longer, I am happier and more at peace with myself and the world around me. I am content to sit quietly by myself and enjoy the silence and the solitude, or clean the house of exercise. I am happy never to orgasm again, but it is at my keyholders discretion. He has agreed to take control indefinitely of an area of my life that I cannot control myself.... That is true friendship.

For me it is not about the sexual game, even though I like the idea of someone having that control and power over me to keep me denied indefinitely. My friend who is my keyholder is straight an I fully accept that there will be no sex between us. For me it is more a lot about having someone is control of me regardless of whether the exercise that control or not. Indirectly the fact that they have the key means they are in control of me, I cannot access my penis, I cannot masturbate and he knows this. While he knows I can't masturbate or have sex, he still enjoys sex with his girl friend and masturbates as much as he wants. I love that he is in control of me.

I don't expect any sex from him, I know I will have an effect similar to the Stockholm syndrome with him, Increased empathy with and for him, it has already started. I feel increased loyalty and will do anything for him to make him happy. I know he is not interested in sex with another guy, so to make him happy I will never try to initiate sex with him, because I want to make him happy and keep him happy, and not upset him by suggesting this he would not like. I love him very much as my friend and keyholder.

He is aware of the effect similar to Stockholm syndrome that will happen, and still he chooses to keep the key for me.

[Belle]

The dynamics of this are interesting. Jnuts was telling be about your situation (I seldom have time right now to be on the boards) and I wanted to tell you to keep us updated. I am interested in how the relationship you have with your friend will change. There are a few friends (Female) that know Jnuts wears a device. It has changed the way they look at me, and they are not involved. Good luck!

[Paulie67]

So far my friend still thinks highly of me and it has not changed how he sees me at all