Does She "Feel" the Power?

[wishful4]

Last night, as we lay in bed in the dark, my spouse rolled her back up against me in the spoon position and I immediately started to swell. We were both awake and I asked her if she felt like a dominant keyholder. She replied that she does feel the power she has over me. I said that I certainly feel it in this position. Lying up against her, my arm around her, my cock just inches from her pussy just throbbing in the cage and unable to do anything about it. We lay in silence another few minutes then I asked her when I would be allowed to cum. After a short moment, she replied, "I don't know. I let you stroke for a few minutes while I showered tonight, wasn't that fun?" I thanked her for letting me stroke even for such as short time. Yeah, she "feels" it!

[wishful4]

Just an update. I was allowed a release day before yesterday. It was mindblowing after almost 2 months of being chaste. I have been feeling the normal letdown afterwards and haven't been as attentive or helpful. Today as we were out for lunch, she said " I don't like your attitude since your orgasm the other day. It will be awhile before the next one". I had hoped to keep up my attentiveness and service to her, but she definitely noticed the difference. It's a tough thing to deal with. I don't want it to happen, but it does. How do you guys handle this? Do you think going right back in your CD makes a difference? She has allowed me to be unlocked for a couple of days because she knows I won't be interested in stroking.

[poor]

I'm unaware of the cum-down. I thought I was handling it fine until Chatelaine said "And here comes the most miserable bastard in the house.."

[Atone]

my wife never understood why I would be grumpy after getting what I wanted. That was pre-chastity so she was aware on here own, long before I was.

-A

[danj]

I don't think I get grumpy after I orgasm. Though I do get less attentive and less focused on my wife. She has noticed this since we started playing with chastity last year. I've never asked her point blank, but wonder if that is why my orgasm frequency has been dropping.

[Belle]

Jnuts gets hit with the letdown pretty hard. The first week of a new cycle can sometimes be bad for us. I will admit it plays a large factor when determining when he will orgasm for me. We have talked about it, and he feels it and recognizes it. It is also part of the reason he likes to be denied, he doesn't want to deal with it either. I have had 2 children, years of fertility treatments and then birth control pills. I know what hormones can do to a body. This is the same thing.

[Atone]

I don't get grumpy right after an orgasm, I get grumpy the day after an orgasm.

-A

[Belle]

I don't get grumpy right after an orgasm, I get grumpy the day after an orgasm.

-A

That is Jnuts as well. his tends to last 3-4 days sometimes. We have found that the number of orgasms that he has affects the length of time that it takes him to get back in to the zen he likes. The more orgasms while out, the longer it takes.

[fuzzydunlop]

I have all kinds of trouble getting on track. This seems to be common for those of us who have a lot of life obligations that distract us from our relationships (family, career etc). I am not so much grumpy, but my gooey, clingy desire to serve goes away for a few days.

[poor]

Chatelaine is getting more comfortable exercising the advantage that I have given to her but I was surprised at this after she got off the phone to a friend of hers:

"Suzy is on her way round. Once you've made us drinks you'll have to find something to do in the garden for half an hour. We need to sort something out and I don't want you butting in".

Now Chatelaine could have asked and I would have obliged but this was an instruction, given with a slight smile. She is feeling it alright!