Vanilla Goals, Hot Results

[fuzzydunlop]

So, it is Day 12 of my orgasm diet, after initial goals of 7 and 10 days. Mrs. says relief will come some time this long weekend, which I have mixed feelings about. I am suddenly waking up early which is rare for me.

Last night was my first night in a CB6000 and it went well. My wife woke up early and we had some good snuggling.

Any ladies out there will probably think I am a huge doofus, but I am learning some patience. For one, I have upped my efforts to NOT mention my chastity too much, instead focusing on very non-sexual topics that interest my wife (duh!).

After a few minutes of talking about some things that are important to her (home, family, her career), the snuggling warmed up very fast, and she ended up having an extended Hitachi session. I liked talking about these things, but I am often way too quick to turn things sexual, which can make her standoffish. It's weird how the obvious suddenly shows up.

I don't think the idea of me having an orgasm even crossed her mind. This is the best combination of her having an increased sex drive and me staying chaste that we have ever had. We have gone much longer, but that was shen she was expecting. I wonder how the weekend will go.

[Locked by LRC]

When we started full-time chastity I think you would find a post of mine that had a similar theme. I have discovered that when it comes to intimacy there is conventionally two sides.

Female – closeness, hugging, caressing, etc.
Male – intercourse.

Another thing on day-to-day chastity living that I have heard frequently is something that is unknown to most non-chaste men, communication, talking, listening.

Don’t worry about being a doofus when it comes to patience. This is another area that was a major learning curve for me. When we first stated it got to the point that LRC told me that it would be two weeks after my last request to be uncaged before she would consider uncaging me. I learnt fast to keep my mouth and innuendos away from any release requests. Now that I have been “trained” a rub of the cage is acceptable. I am still not allowed to verbally ask to be released. I also quickly learnt that a release from the cage doesn't equal orgasm.

All of this didn’t come overnight. LRC and I had a lot of trial and error things and lots of talking. Something we never did before when it came to our sex lives. Before, I was the man and I knew what she wanted. She was the woman and she accepted it. I feel that our sexual relationship is better now even though I get 90 percent less orgasms than before.

Sounds like you are off to a good start. Enjoy!

[fuzzydunlop]

Thanks for the comments. We have dabbled on and off for a long time. Due to having careers and a young family, we can drift back and forth. She's known about my chastity interests for years and years. This time around, she has a rebounding sex drive and a lot of confidence, so it has been a lot of fun. One of my biggest struggles is that I can get a little manic and I have to slow down or it can understandibly get tedious. I also don't want her to think my better behavior is just kink---I LIKE the better behavior. How long have you used chastity?

[Locked by LRC]

Again, your story sounds similar to ours. Chastity was a week end game we played, then a week, then two weeks. When we were doing this we would sometimes go three of four months without chastity involved. I can't remeber when we started but, the CB2000 was the newest "mainstream" device.

May 2010 we discussed a three month chastity and I've been in chasity except when LRC decides she wants me out.