Chastity as a single person

[Holdy]

Hiya

I’m new to chastity and this forum.

Question. Is it ok to enjoy chastity as a single person ?

I mean, it’s not as if someone else is controlling me. Indeed, only I have the key to use when I like. I kinda feel it’s self serving.

I have to say though, in a bizarre sort of way I feel more in control of myself. And it feels good.

I think I’m perhaps trying to give myself permission to enjoy something that’s secret. And secrets are often tempting……??

[atxmtb]

There actually are lots of people that self lock, both with a relationship and without. For many, the act of unlocking is enough of an obstacle, that they simple won't. There's also timed lock devices and remote key holders. So really you won't find it odd to do chastity single.

[Holdy]

Ty atxmtb. Sorry. I’m new and you just provided me really useful info and…… ‘permission’. Ty again.

Now I’m going shopping….. T….I….M….

[jsmith12]

Yes, it's still good to do solo.

You can get a lock with a digital timer on it, and then still feel a loss of control: you're not getting released until those X hours/days complete.

You can also go to chaster . app, and find a remote keyholder, paid or free.

I tried that for fitness - found someone that'd keyhold until I hit fitness milestones, using withings wifi scale for evidence. I got in shape fast : ) She also decided to have more fun with it than just my fitness goals, so I lucked out with a great KH.

[Chastityat60]

Was self locking for a while..loved it. It gave me the freedom to check out cage and ring sizes at my leisure.. bought several..got used to it rather quickly, wore it a lot… except when we were to have time together.. She never saw it.
Somehow I thought it best to have all the fitting and choosing out of the way prior to bringing it to the wife of over 30 years.. I was so excited to bring this new thing into our marriage … On a special weekend away.. as we relaxed in the room, I brought it up .,, asked her if she would be interested in participating with me being locked in a device..to be at her service when ever she desires..
I showed her my latest and greatest, newest , best fitting device .,
I was ready for a full approval ., and with any luck , by the end of our weekend, I would be “a man in chastity”..
Well, it was a lot for her to process ..
Answer : no.
I might suggest , if you are in a relationship, talk about your interests in chastity prior to showing up with one in your hand.. or on your person..
Wife or SO might like to grow into this with you,, and being a part of the picking and choosing.., sizing etc..
There seems to be a fine line when introducing this.
Just because it has become “normal “ for you ,. Casually and enthusiastically locking yourself up, please go slow,
And remember it is not normal for her..
not yet.and maybe not for a really long time..

[Tongue+groove]

@chastityat60. I went through the same process as you. However it only took my wife about 24 hours to agree with it. The one drawback is she refuses to cage shop or decide what I wear. So yes I absolutely agree she needs to grow with you and maybe more than you. It seems that when the wearer brings up the idea it can be a bit of a shock factor for the kh.

[sideswords]

I have to say though, in a bizarre sort of way I feel more in control of myself. And it feels good.

I self lock, what you said here is really why I'm doing it. I like that I'm able to focus on myself in some way, an element of control. I don't think I'm ready for a kh, not sure I ever will be, finding I'm a reasonable strict kh to myself. I would have masturbated a lot before to the point it was an activity I wasn't always enjoying. I'm now only allowing an O with a partner so that's when the cage comes off. Already the result is really enjoyable sessions and locking up afterwards feels oddly empowering.
So yea, doing this for you is absolutely fine. I've still a lot to learn, but I'm really enjoying my new relationship with my penis.

[realme1976]

I'm technically not single, but my wife is 900 miles away because of my job. So I self-lock as a way of staying faithful to her. I've done it for so long that the cage is now part of me...but part of my life on my own. My relationship is VERY vanilla, and I broached the subject once, only to be met with "are you kidding me?" and "That's a little too weird for me." So we dropped the subject, and she's not aware that I'm fully engaged in chastity here on my own. I've learned that it's OK to practice a kink like chastity because (1) a lot of you/us are doing it, as evidenced by this forum; and (2) my kink harms no one--"What you do in the privacy of your own home" and all that. I'm throbbing in my cage as I write this, but the feeling of being restrained and being unable to touch myself is as much a turn-on (and maybe more) than sex. So here I am with you all. You go through life only once...

[Mr Pickle]

I think it is too weird and a big no for most of our partners, mine included. To begin with.
Maybe find a better way to comunicate to start off with.

The real benefits are as a team.

Good luck

[Tongue+groove]

. The real benefits are as a team.

Mrs. G and live by the motto. “ the lack of communication is the source of all problems “ as tough as it may seem at time’s proper communication is key.