Women experience men’s orgasm as a femininity achievement

[Tom Allen]

Women experience men’s orgasm as a femininity achievement, new study suggests

In a recent study published in the journal Sex Roles, researchers explored how women’s feelings of achievement and failure are influenced by their male partner’s orgasm during sexual encounters. The study revealed that women often perceive a man’s orgasm as an achievement of femininity, while the absence of a man’s orgasm can be seen as a failure of femininity, particularly for women who are more sensitive to traditional gender role expectations.

The motivation behind this study stems from a broader societal narrative that has long tied the quality of sex to the occurrence of orgasms for all involved. While these narratives promote mutual pleasure and equality in sexual experiences, they also create expectations that can lead to feelings of inadequacy or failure when these expectations are not met. This is especially true for women, who are often socialized to prioritize their partner’s pleasure over their own.

The survey included a series of vignettes where participants were asked to imagine a sexual encounter with a male partner who either did or did not orgasm. (The male partner was described as someone who typically orgasms with previous partners.) After reading the vignettes, participants were asked to reflect on their feelings of achievement, failure, femininity, and masculinity in response to the imagined scenario. The survey also assessed participants’ levels of sexual assertiveness and their stress related to conforming to traditional feminine gender roles.

[Mr Pickle]

That makes sense.
Im sure many beginners get that 'guilt' or miss the male orgasm because of this.

And I think if C didnt know she could make me come any time or way she chose, and within a matter of seconds. She wouldn't be as happy.

So. Is that you actually make him come, or that you know you can?

[mrrigid]

I don't think they were thinking of guys like us!
It's one thing to unsuccessfully attempt to reach orgasm - a very different one to successfully attempt not to orgasm!

[Tongue+groove]

I will admit that Mrs. Groove felt quit guilty in the early days of chastity. She admitted that she always felt it was her responsibility of sorts to provide for me sexually. In our 38 years she has rarely declined my advances.

As she is transitioning from vanilla to spumoni she has come to the realization that our sex life is more vibrant and less stressful than ever before. Our sex life was always healthy but now it’s extraordinary.

I think mrrigid says it best:

It's one thing to unsuccessfully attempt to reach orgasm - a very different one to successfully attempt not to orgasm!

I am confident that Mrs. Groove would agree. Or as some have called her, Mrs. Spumoni.

[Nikki6]

Well, don’t you men feel accomplished when you make a woman come?

We feel the same. And yes, I realize it’s typically a lot less of an accomplishment. But we see your erection as a sign that you desire us. We see your orgasm as a sign that we make you feel good. It’s hot that I can make a man come even when he is trying his best to hold off.

So nothing new here really. My pleasure in making J come is one factor in how frequently I allow it.

[Tom Allen]

But we see your erection as a sign that you desire us. We see your orgasm as a sign that we make you feel good. It’s hot that I can make a man come even when he is trying his best to hold off.

So nothing new here really. My pleasure in making J come is one factor in how frequently I allow it.

I try to get this point across whenever guys wonder why their partners just do not go for "permanent" caging & denial. My wife really enjoys the idea that even at our age she can make me excited enough to come in my cage, without even touching me there. She has said that it makes her feel sexy and powerful to get me to that point.

Of course, now that she knows she can do that, she now feels sexy and powerful getting me 99% of the way there and then denying me.

[Tongue+groove]

she now feels sexy and powerful getting me 99% of the way there and then denying me.

Definitely a power trip for Mrs G.