What age did you start...

[pamdipot]

It's been interesting for me to read about how many married couples start getting into chastity after years of marriage. That got me to thinking:

At what age did you first become interested in chastity?

And, at what age did you first start playing with chastity?

For me, I first became aware of/interested in chastity after seeing a segment of The Daily Show that featured the CB-2000. I really wasn't aware of MCD's prior to that. It got my attention when I was a freshman in college (age 18).

However, I didn't actually get one locked on until after I started my first job, about 4.5 years later.

[Dev]

It was never on our radar screen until last summer, when I read an erotic story that featured chastity. So, 55 for me, 57 for my husband after 32 years of marriage.

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[michaelnmelissa]

I was turned on by the idea through erotic fiction some 10 years ago. I never mentioned it to my wife and she never even knew the idea existed. She thought chastity devices were a thing from the Middle Ages.

We've been at it for 98 days now. I am 40 and she is 32. We've been married 7 years. We're also white. I wonder what the racial make-up of chastity couples is?

Michael

[danj]

I first read about chastity about 10 years ago. It turned me on, but never really thought it was something I would pursue further. My wife and I played with short term denial a few times over the past several years, and then last fall we tried it again, with more intensity. The device arrived last month, and its been up and down...some great fun, but also times of little to no engagement from her.

I'm 40 years old, and my wife is in her 30s.

[prthomas]

I was 39; my wife was 41. We've been in chastity for about a year, but only using a lockup device since last May.

How it started, for the most part, is that I was initiating sex way too much (for my wife's taste) and she was not initiating at all (duh!). This was a problem for both of us. Our sex life was maybe a 5 on a 1 to 10 scale. After many hours of discussion over several day's time, we agreed that I should no longer initiate sex. At that point, we didn't even know that long-term chastity devices existed.

We also agreed that I should no longer masturbate. So, automatically, what this meant was fewer orgasms for me. While we generally averaged 2 or 3 times a week, it might now mean 2 o 3 times a month.

After I learned about chastity devices for long term wear, I asked her what she thought. Her reaction was that they looked strange and why on earth would anyone want to be confined like that? I replied back with this scenario: I said, "Imagine me waking up in the morning, getting ready for work, putting on the cage, you click the lock and keep the key, and I walk out of the house and leave for work."

A gleam lit up in her eye and she said, "THAT, has it's possibilities."

So, we agreed to give it a shot. Fast-forward to today, I wear the device about 75% of the time. She has been the only one to initiate sex since last year. She enjoys me being locked up at least a week before sex because I am at my hardest when just released. While I have been allowed to stay unlocked a few days after sex, she has taken to locking me up no later than the morning after sex. For her, the control of my orgasms is where it's at. She knows than when I kiss her passionately outside the bedroom, I am not trying to take her to the bedroom. That gives us both freedom to enjoy each other on so many more levels now.

She is not a dominatrix, nor do I want he to be. But she is in control. When asked how our sex life is now, it's a perfect 10. She will never go back, now that she owns the key.

[Belle]

I was 36, Jnuts was 27 and we had been married 3.5 years. Not quite sure how much he knew about the devices before, but it came about as a way to try to balance our sex drives and encourage me to take more control. I had seen devices on the Stockroom, but always saw them as a tool for D/S, which was not my thing. Jnuts read Sarah's blog on day, and asked me to consider it. We ordered from MM a week later.

[wishful4]

I discovered MC last year at age 57. My spouse is the same age. I wish, so much, that we had discovered MC many years ago when sex drives were in a higher gear. Prior to last year, I was not aware of all the devices out there.

[mikecb]

I've been interested since I was a young teen. I have memories of taping up my cock with masking tape, trying to prevent access. I've followed chastity belt forums since I found them in the young days of the Internet on Altairboy, IRC channels, etc.

So I was interested since age 15 or so. Bought my first CB2000, I dunno, maybe at age 42ish? Presently 47.

mikecb

[Tom Allen]

Hmm. Mrs. Edge and I are 52 now, and we've been into this on and off for over 10 years. I bought my first commercial device, the CB3k, the month it was introduced, back in (I think) 2005 or 2006.

I ran across the idea back in the early to mid 90s while surfing porn sites on my dialup AOL account. Bondage.com (yes/ it's been around that long) had a link to Altairboy's site. When I first read it, I was like "You spend most of your adult life trying to *have* orgasms, who the hell would want to do this?" But reading some of the fiction was hot, and then I started reading about it elsewhere, and one thing led to another, and one day I had the idea to actually build something in my shop. Took a few tries, but I had a metal device something like a cross between the CB2000 and a "stallion guard" (which I eventually bought from the Stockroom).

Turned out that the metal devices I made weren't the most aerodynamic, and my wife found them a bit bulky. She didn't embrace it until the 3k came out.

[fuzzydunlop]

I think I first read a story about tease and denial in Penthouse when I was high school that peaked my interest. It was a phony letter asking if it would be too cruel for a woman to make her lover wait several months or year before allowing him to climax. She had noticed that he was much more responsive and attentive when she made him wait all weekend.

I remember the very first erotic chastity belt story I read on the Internet in college over 15 years ago, which got me going on chastity belts:

http://www.fuzzykitty.com/~jonathan/lib ... stity-belt

There wasn't a ton on MC out there at the time, and I primarily relied on Altarboy's site and Jan Thor's site to get my fix. My college years were pretty much a desert when it came to women, but my privacy options were limited, meaning that I would wait longer periods of time to MB.

My wife and I dabbled with chastity for a long time, but not all that often. We primarily relied on the honor system, coupled with a few other kinks of mine. It wasn't until a year ago that I thought I was capable of lasting more than 14 days this way. Then, I read a very non-kinky article that inspired me:

http://www.yogitimes.com/los_angeles/ar ... _this.html

That, and my wife was with child and not feeling too good. I went about 50 days, which might have been just a bit too long.

My wife is feeling much better now. Some men described their wives as suddenly getting more "dominant" as they get older, but I would say she is more confident, assertive, and playful, which means that she is good, giving and game at touching certain buttons right now, especially considering some stressful circumstances. We have a very equal relationship, but playtime seems to be getting better after some rough patches.