A few yrs ago I got myself a Lori tube. Not the cheapest but very good quality. The secure screws are also a feature. The key is very similar to a regular torx or allen wrench bit. But they are not. Makes a compact and truly secure solution. I really took my time with the measures and it's such a good fit I can't imagine how to improve. I feel more safe and 'natural' with it on than off. Anyway, my cravings continued and her reluctance too.
Last year I was locked two times for 6-8 weeks each time. Each time some drama and the device was tucked away. She is not into dominance and have a hard time coping with my cravings for t&d. But I love her so much and has such desire for her I just have to cope! Doesn't chastity feels like relationship university sometimes? It's like hard to get there and succeed!
A few weeks ago we were back at the same spot. Me craved for being looked up. This time we truly began talk on how to make this work for both of us. She loves to have as many orgasms as she can. But she does not like the cages and belts in bed. We came up with a new schedule. I'm looked during work week. From Sunday night to Friday night. No device during the weekends. During weekdays we rarely have sex but instead cuddles a lot. When I'm looked I have such a desire to cuddle too. So she gets what she wants.
Normally I have a hard time to control myself during sex. Even if the sex is all about giving her orgasm and me none. But here comes the numbing creme in. I have tried emla crime and others. They work similar. Generous applied and a condom over. The condom makes sure the creme shakes the skin on the member and stats there. We don't want to numb her, do we? This give me not just stamina but also disconnects my neediness! I can concentrate on giving her orgasms and forget about my own. If you have not tried this, do it.
Another toy I had to get some time ago was the nexus prostatic massager. This a awesome! If I wear this during sessions I feel as physically drained as after an orgasm but still mentally horny. It's kind of the best of both worlds. And She has as many orgasms as she can handle. Truly win-win situation.
This new regime with lock during weeks with relentless cuddling and as many orgasms at will during weekends with me uncaged has somehow made her comfortable and safe with the situation. Her attitude towards the whole chastity thing is changing! She is starting to like it! The final change was the no cage and numbing creme during sessions!
Now she makes jokes about me not having any orgasms any more. And last night when she prepared for a five day trip she told me that the regular weekend unlock could not happen as she was away. She just stated that as a fact.
So now we're on a five days caged, two days off (and numbed if any session) schedule and she does seem that this can go on forever. She seems perfectly happy with the whole situation. And I'm too, I guess
