Primary benefits of enforced male chastity

[chastised4u]

Primary benefits of enforced male chastity
1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy
habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic
masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s
natural sexual desire for his Mistress. It unfortunately teaches him
that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary.
2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it
instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship.
3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his Mistress.
4. It will substantially increase his desire to orally service his Mistress.
5. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up
for a few weeks, he will be.
6. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority.
7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity,
it positively incentives him to honour her, respect her, and motivates
him to please.
8. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and
perfect his oral skills.
9. It reinforces the idea that pussy and arse is a precious gift that
must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare
occasions when he does get it.
10. It teaches him that sexual activity with his Mistress doesn’t
necessarily have anything to do with his penis.
11. It deepens his submission to her, and will cause him to worship
the ground she walks on.
12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more
generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften
the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more
of a listener than a talker.
13. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and
getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually
stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his
body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate.
With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from
stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on.
14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely
restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just
about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you.

[Shepherdsflock]

I think it's different for every couple. Different couples enjoy different benefits of male chastity.

For some wives, they love the power trip. For others, they just enjoy that their husbands are focused on their needs with no obligation to reciprocate. On and on the list could go. Same for men wearing the device, many different reasons why the man would like it.

For instance, my wife hates penetration and intercourse. Before chastity, she resented sex and had a lot of bitterness toward me for all the years of painful sex that she never enjoyed. Sex, in her mind, was just about me being selfish and enjoying her body at her expense.

Our journey into male chastity started when I decided I wanted to stop masturbating. My wife didn't even know I had been secretly masturbating for years to compensate for our abysmal sex life. I was searching for websites offering advice about how to stop masturbating, and found one that made a really compelling argument in favor of chastity devices.

I ordered a Holy Trainer 2. When it arrived, I showed it to my wife and explained everything to her. At first she was sad about my confession of masturbation, and thought the device looked like it would hurt me. She later admitted to me, though, that even though she thought it looked scary, she also felt loved in a way she never had to know I was willing to wear it so that I wouldn't fool around with myself and be unfaithful to her (we both considered my masturbation to be unfaithfulness).

As the weeks went by and we had a couple of times when I left it on during lovemaking, I noticed that her demeanor was completely different if I was locked up. She didn't really notice it at first, but I sure did. She was playful, she talked more, she touched me more, and she had orgasms. Things that were rare or altogether missing before.

As I enjoyed the changes in my wife, she enjoyed the changes in me. I don't know if it's unique to me, or if every chaste guy experiences this, but after a couple of days of being locked up, I become very sensitive to her touch. She can drive me absolutely wild by touching me in the right places. She found this very exhilarating. Being able to make me shake and moan with mere touches was a very exciting discovery for her.

We both love the new dynamic of our sex lives. Although I rarely get an orgasm, I am so happy that we are now doing sexual stuff at least a couple of times per week now, instead of every month or two. And I am so happy to see the smile in my wife's face when we make love. She actually enjoys it now. My wife really loves feeling special when I bring her to climax and she knows my pleasure in all of it is enjoying her pleasure. It's not all about me anymore. It doesn't seem selfish to her anymore if I try to initiate sex. Now she is confident that it will be a good experience for her every time, and as an added bonus there's no mess to clean up afterward.

[ookami]

...We both love the new dynamic of our sex lives. Although I rarely get an orgasm, I am so happy that we are now doing sexual stuff at least a couple of times per week now, instead of every month or two. And I am so happy to see the smile in my wife's face when we make love. She actually enjoys it now. My wife really loves feeling special when I bring her to climax and she knows my pleasure in all of it is enjoying her pleasure. It's not all about me anymore. It doesn't seem selfish to her anymore if I try to initiate sex. Now she is confident that it will be a good experience for her every time, and as an added bonus there's no mess to clean up afterward.

Good to hear an experience like this.
I too have a "sporadic" at best sex life, and would like increase the frequency if I can only make it more pleasurable for my partner I dont mind not being brought to climax. I also find the chastity concept very hot, but mainly I want to please my partner, and she is not good with the whole penetration thing, and instead feels guilty about not giving my orgasm. So I am hoping that once locked in my recently ordered Looker 2 from steelworxx, I she not feel the pressure to give me an orgasm, as I am not meant to/required to have one. (at her will of course, but hopefully she can get to a place were she does not feel bad for not giving it to me.) baby steps..

Best of luck and regards

[chastised4u]

For sure all relationships are varied this is based on my thoughts as i don't have a KH yet.

[VinnyDee]

Sounds like you are talking about a D/s relationship where you use a chastity device. My wife and I are mainly into Teasing and Denial and use a custom Jailbird for that. Chastity was never a part of our past BDSM sex life which spanned about 20 years. Do you remain in your sub role 24/7/365? Never met anyone who did in real life. Most were like me and would drift in and out of our role playing. There were just too many days when I woke up and did not feel like being submissive.

[Shepherdsflock]

Sounds like you are talking about a D/s relationship where you use a chastity device. My wife and I are mainly into Teasing and Denial and use a custom Jailbird for that. Chastity was never a part of our past BDSM sex life which spanned about 20 years. Do you remain in your sub role 24/7/365? Never met anyone who did in real life. Most were like me and would drift in and out of our role playing. There were just too many days when I woke up and did not feel like being submissive.

I would not call what we have a D/s relationship. It's more a matter of having finally found something we can both live happily with. My wife HATES penetrative sex, and I just can't handle having my cock uncaged AND making love to her without penetration. If I'm unlocked, I will manipulate her in any way necessary to get my penis in her vagina.

The permanent chastity for me didn't happen overnight. We just began to realize how much better our sex life was when I stayed locked up. I loved how happy my wife was during sex when I'm locked up, and it came to a point where I just had to decide between orgasms and a miserable sex life, or permanent chastity and a wonderful sex life. The choice was up to me, I chose permanent chastity, and my wife wholeheartedly supports my decision.

Is it easy? No. Are there days when it's incredibly hard? Yes. But the intimacy that grows in our relationship as my wife helps me fight through those tough days is great. We have really become closer. And considering my wife went YEARS without an orgasm or any other form of enjoyment in sex, my sacrifice is small. I still enjoy sex immensely, I just don't get to use my penis anymore.

[chastised4u]

I would be happy in both your situations, for now a KH would suffice.

[VinnyDee]

I think I posted something similar before I had even experienced a few months without an orgasm. I remember feeling that I was supposed to do all those things, so I did them. When the novelty wore off, not so much. You may find that once you remove the incentive of an orgasm, your behavior may not be as you expected. That was our experience. I remember when I was begging for permanent orgasm denial and after the 4th month I was irritable and saw no reason to cater to my wife as much as I was doing. After all, there was no prize waiting for me any time soon.

How long had you gone previously with no orgasm? Just curious because what you are trying to do is best approached little by little over a few years and you are a new member who is throwing himself into what few men ever accomplish, even after many years of chastity play. It took us over 3 years to just get to 5 months of orgasm denial. It is something you need to work up to. It sounds so exciting at first until the reality hits you. I have been wearing a device for over 3 years, 24/7 but to us, chastity means orgasm denial. I have gone 4 months once and my wife wants to try for 5 months this time. As you said, my wife hates the way I get after an orgasm and would be very happy if I never had one again. However, we learned to separate reality from fantasy along the way and that is when it clicked for us. Keep us posted and hope you are not one of the many who come here, live their fantasy sex life online and then disappear. We always could use more experienced member who do as they post. I will enjoy following your journey because I was once you.

[LOCKED HUSBAND]

yeah probably under Lenny

[Shepherdsflock]

It's not a fantasy or even a big desire for me. It just works better. I have no doubt that there will be hard times and incredible frustration sometimes. However, I already experienced those things without permanent chastity. Our sex life before was like having the same amount of frustration coupled with fact that my wife hated every single time we had sex. And a lot of the time I was so distracted by my wife's hatred of what we were doing that I hardly even felt my orgasms. They were faint at best most of the time. Sometimes I didn't even know I had ejaculated until I started going limp.

The only thing I really miss about the orgasms was the feeling of relief. There wasn't really a lot of pleasant feelings with my orgasms, just the sense of relief after shooting my semen into my wife.

And, in the last few weeks, my wife has inadvertently learned to stimulate my prostate via my perineum. I leak enough to feel some relief. So, my situation isn't really that much different than it was before chastity, I just don't get to have erections or orgasms anymore.