Is chastity a "kink" or a lifestyle?

[Caged55]

Many describe MC as a kink... is it really, especially between 2 consenting adults? I would define kink as something I fantasize about and or rarely indulge in, but when kink become reality in a relationship to a point where the male becomes chaste and literally hands over his sexuality, urges, erections an orgasms to his partner and lives his "kink" 24/7 over extended periods of time or even permanently, is it still kink or a chosen lifestyle 2 people are comfortable with, and both derive benefits from?

When we "miss being caged" or accept chastity to be part of our everyday lives, as does our partner, it no longer becomes just a sexual expression/kink/fetish or need, but a accepted part of our lives, we move our mutual consentual sexual boundaries. Just like moving towards a FLR or WLM where as a couple we agree to change our power dynamic - is FLR or WLM a kink or a lifestyle, and if not, then surely we need to accept longterm or permanent chastity as a lifestyle as opposed to a temporary fantasy or play?! - and hence my question to the forum.
(Hope this is posted under the correct section)

[triefnasse]

I think for me it's both. It weaves in and out of each thing. When I'm locked at work, making dinner, doing house chores and I forget I'm wearing it entirely, it's a lifestyle. When it's driving me mad and it's been on for a week and a half, it's a kink.

[mellyshubby]

Neither. My wife and I consider it a game. Sometimes we don't feel like playing the game. Other times we really enjoy the game.

I think if my wife were more comfortable being dominant, it would move past being a game and turn into a lifestyle.

[slave d]

i recon it's a kinky lifestyle lol

d

[TwistedMister]

It depends on how you 'do' it, and how you view it. In my opinion, if it's something you only do sometimes then it's a kink (or a kinky game), even if it occurs for extended periods. On the other hand, if it attains some measure of permanency where it appears, is assumed or is stated that it isn't going to end, then it becomes a 'lifestyle'.

In my case, the current term may end a little over a year from now so at the moment it's just a kinky game. However, Mrs.Twisted has the means (according to the 'rules' of the game) to extend that time, and if she were to choose to do that [repeatedly] and it became apparent that the 'game' was being extended indefinitely with no foreseeable end date then I might consider it more of a 'lifestyle'.

[Linus]

Kink? What kink?
It is a perfectly normal and healthy lifestyle for us (me & my wife)
And the same will continue till our last breath

[carolina cyclist]

For MrsL and me, it is evolving into our lifestyle. We even discussed this last night as we were lying in bed as increased communication has been a direct benefit. After being out for 24 hours, I was locked back up yesterday morning so last night I asked MrsL if she preferred me locked or unlocked. Her reply let me know this is our new lifestyle. "If I could be guaranteed that the increased attention and passion would remain and you wouldn't start masturbating again...I prefer you unlocked; however, if keeping your key means I keep this new passion...I want you locked!"

[Flaccido Perpetuo]

For us, chastity is a kink and not a lifestyle by itself. However, it is an integral and unseparatable aspect of the FLR we live in. In fact, we experience male chastity and the FLR as mutually-reinforcing.

On the one hand, male chastity simply means an additional area of of our life together is being controlled and decided upon by her and the FLR has thus become more complete and ubiquitous.

On the other hand, male chastity is more or less enabled durably by the FLR. I doubt that without living a FLR it would be more thana game.

Edit 1: I would just like to add that chastity is just one kink of several I have. However, it is indeed the only "useful" one. I.e. it is not just fun, but it is also valuable because it enhances other aspects of our life, namely the FLR.

Edit 2: I would not even classify FLR as a lifestyle. It is just the type or style of relationship that happens to work the best for us.

[Tom Allen]

I know that I'd probably be the last guy you'd expect to hear this form, but I don't think that "chastity" per se is a lifestyle. To me (and Mrs Edge), it's simply a practice that dovetails into other aspects of your life.

I make this assertion because, as most of us know, enforced chastity or orgasm denial is often *associated* with other kinks as an adjunct; for example, we see it associated with FLR, cuckolding, cross-dressing, D/s, etc.

Even among our little vanilla-ish community here, there's no aspect of chastity itself that is consistent. Some of us play dice games, some use points, some have a certain cycle of days, and some is completely at whim. To me, that's not a lifestyle, that's more of a kink that is associated with some other lifestyle.

[Caged55]

For us it has certainly become a lifestyle, the "kink" part of it passed as SHE decided to make it part of our FLR/WLM lifestyle. We chose to go the WLM route because of many reasons, and chastity initially was a way to expand her control, albeit temporarily due to not being able to wear the CB's too long. Going forward to the arrival of the MM Jailbird and things definatively changed, with "permanence" becoming part of it... the kink going out of it, and 24/7 becoming the norm with release purely dependant on her.

Chastity reinforced her control and therefore her dominance in our WLM, she feels more comfortable and hence in control of more aspects of our life. She certainly does not want to go back, with our marriage better now than ever before and me becoming even more attentive to her every need since being chaste, and her dominance in our marriage on the rise, as she settles into her place of leading our personal relationship, and enforcing her will and rules on me.

Being caged is no longer a "game", its become normal to her too, she loves the sight of it,but is used to seeing me caged, and makes few references to it, accepting that I am caged all the time. Entering my 2nd month in 'enforced" chastity its becoming easier to wear it, and sometimes I even forget I'm wearing it, yet conscious that I am chaste for her, and under her control, as part of a lifestyle that works for us.
I have accepted chastity as I have our WLM, it works for us, and its up to her now to determine wether its permanent or a cycle, yet given the benefits she is enjoying from me being chaste, I can't see her giving up the keys very easily or very soon, if at all.

Even if chastity enters into a cycle, of periods of chastity and periods of being uncaged, chastity has become an accepted part of our life and a choice my KH makes for us - hence my considering chastity a lifestyle and not a kink..., just as living in a wife led marriage, its a lifestyle we chose