For us, it didn't really get good until I got a properly fitted metal cage from malechastitynow.com, I can't say enough good things about Mark. It took a little time to adjust to a slightly smaller ring, and I still use a little lanolin anti-chafing every morning to let things move a little, but beyond that, I really don't notice it much. And an open metal cage is so easy to keep clean, I got a yeast infection in my CB cage, and it was NOT fun, hygiene is possible but took so much effort for me.
We read Lions site daily, and chuckle at some of the situations they get in, but they also give us some good ideas. I bought the reluctant mistress for my wife, and she's reading through that currently. When we started she was very unsure of her role, and didn't really understand how to manage my sexuality, but that is changing and it's getting better and better.
We started this journey because as we get older our libido begins to decline, and masturbation makes it worse, by robbing my body of the hormones that it needs to be a good husband in bed. I do have cialis, but it's expensive, and does not guarantee and orgasm, which leaves her feeling unfulfilled. What has become apparent during our conversations, is that she finds chastity gives her a more satisfied sexual experience, not just in the bed, but also because she has more control over when we have sex. For her that's a big deal, because she can then wait until her libido is ready.
I want to be careful and not overstate the payoffs we have seen as a couple, so I'll be as objective as possible. But let me start by saying that sex was OK before we started, a cialis could make me rock hard, but it was not a guarantee of an orgasm, and NOTHING is more frustrating than wearing yourself out and never reaching a climax. Not to mention how degrading it is for my self image.
But since we have started this, I have noticed the following things:
1. I pay MUCH more attention to her, I WANT to please her. I started brushing her hair out nightly, and I'm learning to braid and style it (which I NEVER did before).
2. I do more chores, cook dinner once in a while, clean. Not all the time, but definitely more.
3. I desire her more when I'm caged, I act like a love sick fool trying to woo her to marry me.
4. She has become more confident in the bedroom, stating what she wants, what she needs. And by God I listen and obey!
5. As a couple we are closer, talk more intimately, are more open and spend more time just being close.
6. Sex is pretty much off the damn charts, it doesn't happen as much, and damn does she wind me up. She's learned that when I start getting grumpy and want the damn fracking key so I can get some release, sex is going to be mind blowing.
Finally a little story to drive all this home (and this has happened more than once mind you)...
I've been working on a huge project this last week, and have been tied up, but during that time she locked me up, and only let me out once to get some man-scaping done. Starting on Thursday she started promising a wonderful weekend, next week is her menses, and the danger is do we have sex in time before it starts, always a gamble. Friday was an intense work day, but when I got home, she teased me some more. She used a prostate massager that blew my mind, I didn't orgasm, but I had something similar and it make my balls ache with desire. Then she just turned it all off and told me I would have to wait, GOD I HATED THAT...
Saturday morning she decided that I needed some encouragement, so she had me go down orally on her until she had multiple orgasms, then she made me put on a strap on and have intercourse with her. And finally she wore the strap on and proceeded to take me, which again blew my mind, but keep in mind the WHOLE time I was caged, my balls where aching and I couldn't do anything. It was exquisite torture.. Then she again just turned it off... ARGH!!!
Finally Saturday evening I couldn't take it anymore, and was getting super grumpy, and wanted to damn fracking cage off. She casually called me over, pulled out her key, and unlocked me, putting the cage away gently. Then she proceeded to give me a blow job pushing me to the edge of insanity, as I was starting to shake. She climbed on the bed on her knees and offered herself to me fully. This is a public forum, so let's just say I was suddenly 18 again, no cialis, just overrun with hormones and desire. I tore it up, I let it ALL out, and it was hot, loud and intense. And when it was all over, I laid there for 30 minutes, not just basking in out glow, but vibrating from it. I added one more sexual encounter to the top ten of our list, and this was pretty close to the very top. She let me out for the night and this morning I dutifully locked myself back up, and now have to wait again.
But my friends, it is SO worth it. This may not be for everyone, but for us, it has created a roaring fire that was dying, and it has sparked a deeper desire to share and communicate with each other. We could not be happier...
And yesterday I asked for coupons, like Lion uses, she just smiled and said that was an interesting idea...
I think I might be in trouble now
-Sprockett-
