How do you deal with long term chastity?

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Rocky
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How do you deal with long term chastity?

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After trying the last few chastity periods at two weeks, my wife and I felt it was time for me to stop having any input as to when I would have an orgasm. Not knowing is the exciting part for me so I have no problem with this. What does bother me is that after she asked if it was totally up to her and she could withhold my orgasm until she wanted to, she said that it will be a very long time because she loves to tease me, hates when I cum all over the place, especially on her, and really enjoys the control she has over me. She is talking about maybe Easter for my next orgasm or if she is not in the mood, then my birthday which is another 2 1/2 months from now.

She wants to take this as far as she can without me throwing in the towel. It is now a battle of wills. :) I am 15 days into chastity, looking at another 6 weeks at the minimum. How do you handle feeling horny all the time? Sex is all I think about and instead of watching less porn, I am watching more as a substitute for my sex life. What can I expect over the next few weeks. Will I get hornier or will it level out at some point?

Right now she wants me locked up every minute that I am home, which is most of the time since I am semi retired. My CB6000s is finally very comfortable and I can wear it for a week at a time and then take it off for half a day to check for any problems and do a thorough cleaning and shave. My problem is that I am fine without the CB but very horny with it on as it rubs against me all the time. For those in long term chastity, are you locked 24/7 or just some of the time. I am thinking of asking my wife if I can just lock up when she is not around because it is a pain to urinate and clean up afterwards. I also have to be careful that I do not sit on my balls.
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Re: How do you deal with long term chastity?

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You have my sympathy mate but you like it really! Your general question about will it get easier is like asking how long is a piece of string. I've read quite a few posts on this and other sites, some where the guy's say it DOES get easier and others that say it DOESN'T. The answer is only in YOUR hands and mind.

Chastity actually made ME even hornier than I ever was (that's an understatement). Mornings are particularly difficult and I usually wake up somewhere between 3 and 4 am trying to burst out of my cage. As soon as it wakes me I just ache for relief and even after going to the toilet and having an icy cold wash, my brain is switched onto wanting rampant sex. My only half solution is to cuddle and kiss my Princess and when she wakes a little she is very understanding (although unsympathetic) of my frustration and cuddles me in and strokes my belly. Although at first it makes me much worse and I start gyrating against her leg for a while, her attention eventually makes me feel a bit better. She sarcastically say's things like "Oh HE'S being a naughty boy this morning isn't he? SHAME!". If I don't calm down quickly enough she'll say "That's enough! Now calm down and get back to sleep!". For me, that's when the "penny drops" and my brain starts to accept the situation and my attempted erection subsides a little, still leaving that frustrating fullness and ache in my belly.

Does it get any better? Well all I can say is, for me, I've not been allowed an proper orgasm since October 2013 and I've not even been allowed to touch myself un-caged since then either. I have to be very thorough cleaning myself with the cage in place and my Princess removes the cage twice a week and washes my bits in the shower when she also teases and brings me to the edge several times before she then dries me off, creams me and replaces the cage. All I can look forward to is a very cruel milking every 4 to 6 weeks and believe me I really DO look forward to it just to feel those spasms at the edge over and over again until my body can't hold it any more and I simply leak some of the fluids :roll: . It would sound sad to most people not into chastity but that's what we crave - the attention of our loving partner. The answer is .... "No! If anything the frustration gets worse!"

As for when I'll next be allowed an orgasm, Princess mentioned in passing conversation just the other day "Not THIS year anyway!". When we started the lifestyle she didn't like denying me but it wasn't long until she found out how much sexual power she felt and how much she really enjoyed having fun out of seeing my frustration.

Enjoy it, you'll find ways to deal with your frustration that keeps you in that delightful zone virtually 24/7.

It's an epic journey and we all do it differently. Good luck my friend. :D
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Re: How do you deal with long term chastity?

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I've got used to waking up with a hard-on in the cage around 4 but have learned to just notice it and go back to sleep. My wife likes to forget it's on between `action'. When I mentioned to her I wore it to the doctor's (female) last week she said "Oh yeah, I guess you did, just as well you only had to remove your shirt." The biggest problem I have is keeping the skin supple so that I don't get little nicks which can get sore. It sounds like you are expecting an o after two months, which is the same as me. I guess I don't analyze whether it's getting easier or harder, it's just the way I like it.
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Re: How do you deal with long term chastity?

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At my age, nighttime erections are very rare. Just once in the last few months. What is happening is that my wife is really enjoying this and if she had her way, I would never cum but she loves me and realizes that I need orgasms. She has noticed that I am horny all the time and thinking about sex has taken over my mind.

I thought she was going to give me an orgasm tonight because she saw the state I was in but instead she enforced her dominance over me by having me give her a foot massage and drinking her urine. The last thing we have not done in a decade and one of the milder things she has me do. She wants a back massage tonight and I do not know if back massage means a back massage or she is going to let me have an orgasm. I was frantic for an orgasm this morning but my wife knows that forcing me to be very submissive has a calming effect on me so who knows what will happen tonight. Right now I am not desperate for an orgasm any more.

Update: No orgasm for me tonight. She said that she thought she made it clear when she had me drink her pee because I was bugging her for a release. The back massage is still on but I have to remain locked and dressed. I think she is sticking to her guns with the earliest orgasm date being Easter. She is a sometimes religious person who celebrates only the major religious holidays. She is giving up something for lent and I am apparently giving up my orgasms. Lent is something she takes seriously so I am sure that she will make sure that I remain chaste.
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