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[lockedbyB]

Hi,
Im a guy "A" and thought id try this and start by givng a brief background on my situation. Me and my partner are in our twenties, we have known each other about five years and only recently got together.
My partner "B" has started working abroad while i am still in england. I explained about my submissive side and that i fancied trying chastity. To my surprise she seemed to like the idea and decided to give it a go.

Im now in a cb6000s and have been locked up a week. We use the security tags as key holding isnt an ideal option. Things are quite cool. Im past the uncofortable stage and the rings and spacers are quite a good fit. That ball ache in a morning is terrible with the potential erections this is a painful time.

"B" seems to really like the control. She has me sending her naughty messages to get her off while i cant play. She has me sending letters and gifts to spoil her and has me do some reasonably embarrassing things or i wont be allowed out of my cage just for her fun.

The initial period i will be locked up for is three weeks until i see her. So i thought i would post on here almost as a diary and just generally to see what other like minded people thought of it and are into.

[Linus]

Congrats 'A'! I'm sure you both will thoroughly enjoy the chastity lifestyle! All the best! A release after a long time followed by an intense sex is altogether a different experience!

[lockedbyB]

Hey Linus thank you for the reply.
Totally can not wait for the first time we have sex!
I'm meeting "B" in Egypt in two weeks and she hasn't decided yet if I'm going to have an orgasm or a ruined one because I asked about release the other day..... Scary!
Also she is wanting me to travel in my cage but I am hesitant just purely because of getting through customs in my cage.

Still exciting times so looking forward to the future

[lockedbyB]

It's been 8 full days now in the cage apart from an hour to clean up. Really feel owned. I play with the bulbed part of my cage often now wishing it was my cock. "B" has asked me to message her naughty stories for her to get off to and honestly it's hell. When I get horny now my balls really hurt as my cock tries frustratingly to get hard. She seems to quite like me being in that pain.

I've been told that she won't give me anything naughty at all to think about, she doesn't think I deserve any sexual stimulation at all while she can have as much as she wants (which is fair I guess) she is a complete knockout.
She reminds me all the time, even before chastity that I'm lucky to have her in my life. I'm an average size guy, but her exs have been pretty well built guys and she reminds me very often I'm the smallest guy she has been with. I'm not sure if that's to make me feel insecure or to make me aware of how lucky I am she puts up with me.
"B" has told me that in the future our sex will be so much more about her than me. I'll be used to please her daily with my hands and mouth, while intercourse and my orgasms will be more sparse.
This is even more frustrating when she tells me how much sex she had with her exs!
Currently looking for presents for her for when I see her, hope I please her lots!!

[lockedbyB]

Nine days now locked up. "B" still hasn't given me any sexual stimulation at all, no teasing messages or pictures and I have just woken up with the worst ball ache ever. I'm so horny, my cock was pushing against my cage and the pain is so intense when I wake.... Ouch!!!

I don't know if "B" is proud that I'm still going through this lock up for her or if she thinks it's pathetic at the moment but I hope it's worth this pain, denial and frustration.

The long and short is she will do as she pleases I guess and no matter if I'm rewarded, used or ruined I have to not only accept it but thank her for it. I am soooo looking forward to release!!

[finallyhappy]

Damn she sounds rather selfish.

[lockedbyB]

Yeah I don't really know how to reply to that.

I honestly don't get where the fun is in giving nothing at all. The appeal for me with chastity is the tease and denial and pass of control. I've certainly lost control but I only really see that by giving nothing, even teasing is not really playing the game.
I don't know I just guess I don't really see where the fun is.
"B" tell me I'm not man enough in some areas so she isn't going to treat me like one in some respects, whether that's anything to do with this I don't know.

All in all a bit confused and frustrated at the lack of stimulation really.

In other news my balls are aching so bad. I've done a full day at work in a manual job and my cb6000s feels like an anchor hanging off my scrotum! Bring on release day!!

One thing I will say in "B's" defence is she has promised me it will be worth the wait. I can only hope so

[finallyhappy]

I guess the real question is where you want to go with this. If you are the submissive kind then this is probably what you cam expect. Lock it and forget it. And it will be totally one sided.

It sounds like she really may not want a submissive guys (at least at this point). Outside of the bedroom my gf wants me to be the man and in charge.

Maybe you two need to talk a little more about what the two of you really want and about what you both and I mean both expect from it.

[lockedbyB]

I think that's a really good idea.

It was my idea for sure. I'm certainly more submissive at least sexually. I've expressed what I want in a lot of respects and I guess I was happy "B" wanted to try it. I think that might be the thing. I know she like the control, as in the power trip, but after that I don't really know where she wants to go with this.

I think that's got to be the step forward. Thanks for the advice.

[finallyhappy]

Don't forget your needs in this. You both have to get what you want from this.