Reflections

[wishful4]

Last evening, as I was on my knees giving my KH/spouse a footrub, I reflected a bit on where we have come from on this journey. She was on the phone with a gf, smiling at me, knowing that I was straining against the cage of my CD. She even told her friend that I was giving her a footrub. Just a couple of years ago we started this exploration of MC as a vanilla couple. It went in fits and starts. She would get into it then back away usually due to something I did or said that made her have second thoughts. Then there were medical issues and real life that got in the way. What have we learned? I've learned that MC is only a part of the relationship, not the whole relationship. I've learned not to top from the bottom although it is very, very hard. I simply take cues from her. She has learned the most important thing. That this is not about what I want, it is about her. She uses that statement all the time now. When I occasionally whine a bit about being so needy, she replies that this is not about you, is it? We are both still learning as a budding D/s relationship is developing. On reflection, as I rubbed her feet, straining in my cage, I know that this is who I am, and there is no place I would rather be right now. I am truly amazed at how far we have come and look forward to the future.

[locked4her55]

She has learned the most important thing. That this is not about what I want, it is about her.

Ain't it the truth. I have given my wife more foot rubs in the past year than I have given her in 20 years of marriage. I truly love this journey we are taking together.

[poor]

We've just got back from a long week away with relatives where we shared accommodation with our children. Less than 2 hours before going there I discovered that I was going to be shackled due to Chatelaine's 'Mandatory Menstrual' rule ("When I'm on; you're in!").

Massively inconvienient with a high risk of discovery - we're a 'no lock on the loo' kind of family - I suggested that we could leave this one or I could do the days when we got back. She just came up to me and put her hand on the back of my neck (which just turns me to putty) and said "I can hardly expect you to respect my rules if I don't follow them can I?!"

She gently guided me to our bedroom and ensured that I was correctly secured before leaving me to carry on packing. She acknowledged in the week that she hadn't wanted to shackle me either due to me still being very tired after a tough period at work but thought that it was essential that she had. I can't help but agree with her and although at times I let myself down by not being my best for her, we got through the whole week a lot more positively than on previous occasions.

I've told Chatelaine that I like this version of me. The one that only has to live up to her standards, only has to keep her happy and not chase around trying to keep up with being a 'real man' and ahead of the pack. I don't worry about how high I'm pissing up the wall because I'm pissing where she tells me. I may sometimes dislike aspects of what it takes to be in her thrall but I am utterly content and it's a wonderful place to be.

[gummicouple]

Last evening, as I was on my knees giving my KH/spouse a footrub, I reflected a bit on where we have come from on this journey. She was on the phone with a gf, smiling at me, knowing that I was straining against the cage of my CD. She even told her friend that I was giving her a footrub. Just a couple of years ago we started this exploration of MC as a vanilla couple. It went in fits and starts. She would get into it then back away usually due to something I did or said that made her have second thoughts. Then there were medical issues and real life that got in the way. What have we learned? I've learned that MC is only a part of the relationship, not the whole relationship. I've learned not to top from the bottom although it is very, very hard. I simply take cues from her. She has learned the most important thing. That this is not about what I want, it is about her. She uses that statement all the time now. When I occasionally whine a bit about being so needy, she replies that this is not about you, is it? We are both still learning as a budding D/s relationship is developing. On reflection, as I rubbed her feet, straining in my cage, I know that this is who I am, and there is no place I would rather be right now. I am truly amazed at how far we have come and look forward to the future.

Dear Wishful4,

What a lovely post! Such heartfelt thoughts. I am very happy for you and your wife. Life is such a journey, isn't it?

Warm regards,

~Alex