Turn the tables

[fuzzydunlop]

There's always a lot of discussion about how to help get a female partner interested in chastity. Guys, has your partner ever had an interest in something that has taken you time to understand, get into, or maybe get over some angst? Ladies, does anyone have some perspective on this? How did you deal withit, or not?

[danj]

My wife has never really pointed us towards a particular sexual activity. I know her fantasies (mostly geared towards her experiencing another woman), but she has thus far not wanted to pursue it.

[fuzzydunlop]

Mine has an exhibitionist streak, and also likes women. We experimented with things when we were younger, but now her drive seems to be coming back now that our family is getting a little older. I am super happy that our sex life seems to be turning the corner after wandering in parental wilderness for a few years, but this arouses and scares me at the same time.

[Dev]

"Parental wilderness" is a good way to put it and it's a tough time. LOL.

I think a lot of women need to have their kinky side teased out of them--particularly women who didn't grow up with the Internet and Dan Savage. I think we women tend to clamp down on our fantasies.

As for something that a guy wouldn't understand--that's never been a problem for us. Anything I mention, even remotely, Ab is willing to entertain. Some things he can make happen (toys, eg). Other things (having a young, horny guy in the bedroom sucking his cock) are harder to make real but it does give us some sexy talk for when we play around.

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[poor]

There is an activity that bears a striking similarity to the emotions felt whilst practicing OC and a lot of our partners will be doing it now; dieting & exercise for weight loss.

You can directly correlate the self-denial, the discipline needed, the sense of satisfaction at hitting your goals, not always enjoying it and needing 'encouragement' sometimes. Every dieter will also understand the need to reward a target reached with a treat (if not the occasional feast).