Why does your KH want you in chastity?

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Len51
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Why does your KH want you in chastity?

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I know that most guys are the ones asking their wives or girlfriends to put them in chastity. In my case, I introduced it to my wife as a solution to a problem. Our problem is that my wife is bisexual. She enjoys sex with both men and women, preferably both at the same time, then women and if nothing else is available, men. This has never been a problem before because her girlfriend lived with us part time so all of our sex was as a FFM threesome. Sounds great doesn't it. It was except for the no intercourse and sleeping alone rules.

As soon as we discovered that I was sterile, her girlfriend moved in part time and there was no more reason for penetration sex. It was a fair trade off as most of our sex was FFM threesomes and the two women were kinky and game for anything as long as it did not involve intercourse with me. Her g/f was married to a cuckold so their only rule was no intercourse with me. That was reserved for the cuck. My wife is tiny and found intercourse painful with me and only tolerated it to get pregnant. I am not big. More of my wife being too small so to her I am very big. :)

At least I was not cuckolded. My wife tried another guy and hated it. I was gentle compared to him and she swore off other men and said I was enough male for her. Yea! So life went on. Our g/f had her own room in our house, as did we all. She split her time between her cuck and us. We think her husband is bisexual too, which enabled her to spend long periods of time with us. She refused to tell us what the deal was but I do not think even a cuckold would let his wife spend half of her life living with another couple. I never pushed for a reason as I was having the time of my life.

Cut to a few years ago and we are now living far away from our g/f. She was to follow us but did not. Long story. My wife and I were a couple again. Our g/f provided each of us with the type of sex we liked. My wife is submissive and I like to be dominated in bed. Her g/f was naturally dominant in real life and would sigh with pleasure with each lash of the whip and actually drip down her thighs with excitement. She loved to hurt men. In our threesomes I either was not allowed to cum or got to masturbate while in pain of some sort. Only when we had one on one sex would I get oral or a handjob (mostly handjob) from my wife. Her girlfriend usually played with my nipples and balls while I brought myself to orgasm quickly to avoid more pain. That woman trained me to cum with a punch to the balls or by putting out a cigarette on the head of my penis. I miss her. :(

So were were a couple again and I liked very rough sex and my wife did not. Sex became a sometime thing only done because we felt that we should to keep our emotional bond going. I looked for a solution and found teasing and denial. My wife took to it like a fish out of water. This was a way she could dominate me without whipping me until my butt was crisscrossed with welts and bruises. My wife is not a penis fan. She likes sex with me but does not find a penis attractive or sexually stimulating. She gets off from either my moans of sexual frustration or nipple torture. She will torture my nipples some times if I do not moan from whatever else she is doing. She needs to hear me moan or have another women in bed to play with.

As the denial turned from one week to two and more, I suggested a chastity device as my hands would wander to my groin almost absent mindlessly seeking the pleasure of masturbation I once had. So we got a CB6000s and wore it as much as possible for over a year. Chastity was a solution to our problem of a post menopausal bisexual wife whose libido was low and leaning more towards females. It also turned my frustration of too little sex into a sexual fetish. She is happy. I am happy and in a few years, our girlfriend will come to live with us again. Life has been very good to me. Probably sounds worst than it was. We had fun. We had three high incomes coming in which allowed us to go all over the world and do a lot of fun things. We lived it up. Private sex clubs, vanilla dance clubs, restaurants, tropical nude beaches, etc.. The girls liked to vamp it up in front of straight people. Guys gave me the thumbs up and their spouses/girlfriends gave me the stink eye.

So chastity for us was not for the popular reasons. It was a solution to a problem that worked for both of us. Has nothing to do with being a better husband. My wife thinks I smother her with too much affection and material things. It was to take our current sexual life and make it a fetish instead of a problem.

What is your story?
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Re: Why does your KH want you in chastity?

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Your story is amazing. I would guess most guys don't have a sex life as interesting as yours has been. My wife and I were both virgins when we married, so neither of us have any previous partners to compare each other with. Next year will be our 30th anniversary. We play with chastity just for the extra spark it puts into our sex lives.
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LockedUp24
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For us...i would read her storys at bed time and some had chastity play in them.
We were curious and looked into it further and soon after we had bought a CB6ks knock off (Didnt know then)
And my wife loved it and in the space of a year it has become daily life for us with a steel device (Non cusom)
It has added extra spice and play control to our lives
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My KH is me!

i don't have any girlfriends or boyfriends to do it. i have me. Without a chastity device i have often gone 12 weeks or so without a release, so i want to wear a cage and see how long i can go. i have thought about using Mr.S leather key holding service, but not sure.

i am not sure how many men lock themselves up solo like me.

Would i like to find a KH, yes, but since its been about 20 years since my last date.....that is unlikely unless i find someone to do it by mail.
rickiee_2002
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Post by rickiee_2002 »

For me the reason was quite simple ... I could not resist masturbating multiple times per day, then I was unable to have successful PIV with my wife.

When she discovered my problem, locking me was her solution. It was actually alot more complicated than this, but to save time and answer the question ... this is essentially it.

It has worked quite well.
Len51
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Thanks for the replies. First I want to assure you that my story is real. In fact, I left off a lot of stuff that makes it seem unbelievable. I will be 64 years old soon and have had a lot more time to do the things many here want to do.You all still have time. I have had a great sex life because I firmly believe in letting your sex partner know what you like. So many are embarrassed to tell women what weird sex stuff turns them on. Not me. In fact, in my town, I had a reputation of being a pervert. Kept all the vanilla girls away but attracted the freaks and those good girls looking for someone to make them do bad things. It is very true that kinks are things you want to do but fetishes are things you HAVE to do. I know that for a fact. A fetish will eat away at you. Make you hate your sex life and even your wife if she will not indulge you. If you have a strong fetish, do not marry someone who you never even discussed it with. Most of my friends sit around the bar complaining about how their wife will not do oral or anal or try anything they want to try. So many times I wanted to blurt out things but I keep my mouth shut. I have been told many times that I am the only husband they know who is always talking about their wive in glowing terms. I even had to girlfriends tell me to shut up about my wife as it ruined the mood. :)

Of course you may develop a fetish after you are married. I was into all sorts of kinky things at a young age so I knew enough that fetishes come and go at times. There are few Mistresses or Keyholders walking around looking for the right man. I believe that our perfect sexual mate is made, not born. All you need is a women who is open to sexual experimentation. If she is willing to try things, you have a good shot at having your fantasy fulfilled. However, that is no guarantee that she will like what you like or share the same version of your fantasy. Where I lucked out was that my once virgin wife discovered why she never wanted sex with the guys she dated. She is bisexual with a preference for women if given the choice. If she tried something I asked her too and she did not like it, she found me a woman who did. Wives like that are rare but we new a few couples like us. Sadly they are all divorced as one or the other ran off with one of their lovers. For some reason, we had the perfect storm of relationships. Our g/f knew her position as my second lover and was always careful to make sure that my wife was OK with whatever I asked her to do. Not once ion 38 years did we have a problem. Mostly because my wife knew I would never leave her and allowed me complete sexual freedom with her girlfriends.

To the guy who is self locked. I never experienced what you do. All I can say is that chastity with someone you have an emotional bond with is a different experience than doing it for yourself. I am sure that you get pleasure on some level by self control but to hand control of your orgasms and penis to a woman or man that you love, it a completely different experience. Not necessarily better, but with love and a power exchange involved, it is very different. I really do not care how often I have an orgasm. I do care that I only have them when my wife wants me to. I do not try to make myself cum because of my wife's control, not mine. I would spank my monkey every chance I got but I have committed to my wife's control, so I do not, even when I can. I guess the difference is that in your case, only you are benefiting from chastity while in my case, both me and the woman I love benefits. Having not been in your shoes, I cannot know which feels better but I have to think that if you involve a KH that you have feelings for, you may discover a whole new level of pleasure. Hope you find what you are looking for.
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i would like to have a partner who controls my chastity but i haven't dated in over 20 years and i REAL shy when it comes to dating and finding the right person. I have been hurt real bad in the past and i feel that is part of my problem. So i have to make do with what i have, me. i think you are right when you say i would get a new level of pleasure with someone holding my key and that i have feeling for.

i figured i may as well wear a chastity device since i don't masterbate often( since i go weeks and weeks without doing it). Maybe the chastity device will make me want to get off my lazy arse and date again or get horny enough to want to masterbate more.

i know years and years ago when i visited a pro-dom(yes i did pay for it a few times) and they had me not masterbate for the period of time i made the appointment until i had actual session, i did feel better about not masterbating.

if you haven't figured it out i am a STRANGE person. :)
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The funny thing is, I feel better not masturbating ... but I miss it!

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Len51
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Silent One wrote:i would like to have a partner who controls my chastity but i haven't dated in over 20 years and i REAL shy when it comes to dating and finding the right person. I have been hurt real bad in the past and i feel that is part of my problem. So i have to make do with what i have, me. i think you are right when you say i would get a new level of pleasure with someone holding my key and that i have feeling for.

i figured i may as well wear a chastity device since i don't masterbate often( since i go weeks and weeks without doing it). Maybe the chastity device will make me want to get off my lazy arse and date again or get horny enough to want to masterbate more.

i know years and years ago when i visited a pro-dom(yes i did pay for it a few times) and they had me not masterbate for the period of time i made the appointment until i had actual session, i did feel better about not masterbating.

if you haven't figured it out i am a STRANGE person. :)
We are all strange in our own way. I had my first fiancée sleep with three of my friends when I was in Vietnam and I had to hear it from one of my other friends. Her loss as she ended up having sex with guys just to have a place to live and got messed up on drugs so much that she thinks she can talk to angels. She is now married to a woman. My second girlfriend was having sex with other guys every week. It took me a few weeks to realize what that faint taste was in my mouth during oral sex. On weekends she stayed with her girlfriend but found out that she and her girlfriend were bisexual and they dominated her girlfriend's boyfriend on those weekends. I let her go after she asked my friends to gang bang her right in front of me.

So I know heartbreak and betrayal but just moved on. I have learned in my long life that the bad things that happened to me brought me to where I am now and that is a place I would not change. My first fiancée would have been a disaster for me. I would be divorced and paying child support and alimony. I would not have been able to take all the open positions in my company and relocate with little notice. Life is funny in that even bad things can lead to good things. I never ran to catch a train but did so once for some reason. I met my wife on that train. If it were not for my bad experiences with women and the simple act of running instead of walking, my life would have been much different and probably terrible.

I got into a funk once and delved deeply into extreme BDSM. I am sitting here with my butt covered in welts from my canning last night and I consider this light BDSM. Turned out that I was depressed and learned that depressed people find relief in BDSM. After I was treated my interest in BDSM decreased drastically. Just a thought as I got into a bad funk where I did not even want to get out of bed and do anything but stay home. Just something to think about. Good luck to you and getting rejected by woman is still better than staying at home. :)
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I'm a self KH right now. There are a few reasons I play with chastity. The first is that I spend way too long ending and masturbating, most days of the week. Another is that it just drains me emotionally. I think I suffer from post-coital tristesse because I get really down if I orgasm two times in a row. Lastly, I do it because I enjoy the various emotions I go through when not having an orgasm.

The first day is usually the worst, just to come home and not sit at the computer and instantly try and "relieve some stress". The second day is still kind of a come down from being horny constantly. The third day is almost blissful. I have a desire to orgasm, but it is so faint I think clearly on everything else. It starts to ramp back up after that. By the fifth or sixth day I am crazy horny. I'm not sure if that is my plateau because I haven't gone that terribly long, but it definitely feels like it. The tenth day it feels like I am constantly leaking fluid out of my penis, but there is no evidence of that. The worst part is that the orgasm feels very held back compared to the heightened state of arousal from the journey.

Again, the longest I've been locked is five whole days, and the longest without an orgasm is thirteen.