Well it all got real today. We started discussing chastity in the first part of September and it was touch and go if my wife was going to do it , Needless to say I had to do a lot of talking and a lot of fact finding and presented it to her , she as well did her own. On 9/30 we had a final discussion and she agreed on a 6 month trial and to be rediscussed. Since, she must have decided it is worth trying in the last week I have been teased almost in as manay times as days once to R/O and then had to preform acts for herto asure she was her satisfaction, the dayafter the the second time I told her she did not have to do it everyday I would still be willing and more than happy to satisfy her regardless if I get anything or not, I was told she likes doing it , boy was I surprised, that leads me up to where im at now she ordered a C/B6K it came in today or rather this evening and now im in so begins the journey, I recon I have a bit to go and a lot to learn
Ya'll take care and thanks for listening
chastity has started
Re: chastity has started
Congrats on a hopefully long journey for the both of you. It can be amazing if you play your cards right.
Now that you started wearing CB6K there are a few things to keep in mind. First, lube, lube and more lube. To this day I still use a little A&D on my steel device as it heals as it lubes.
Don't wear your new device 24/7 everyday right away. You have to let your stuff adjust. Experiment with base ring sizes and spacers until you find the most comfortable fit. Your initial nocturnal erections are going to be killers and you are going to wonder how you are going to survive them. Your balls are going to ache and will feel like they are on fire. They will get better, much better. Calming down enough to pee will help immensely. Typically using the largest ring possible without balls slipping out works the best to reduce the erection pain. Try not to let the Mrs. see you struggling with them as you don't want to discourage her from continuing your fantasy.
In the beginning, I approached my wife about chastity and it took some fast talking and and a crap load of convincing. She wasn't sure so I decided to wear the CB anyway. At first she thought I was crazy but after a little while, she started to take an interest. She finally asked for the keys but she would let me out every day to clean and stretch. I finally convinced her that I needed her to keep me locked up for longer periods and the week she was leaving to stay with her parents in Florida would be a good time to do it. 2 days after she left, I forgot to lube in the morning before work. My job is pretty physical and by noon time, the base ring was digging into the back of my scrotum something fierce. By the time I got home and checked, I had a good sore there. I lubed it constantly everyday which helped ease the pain until my wife came home. She took off my cage and started fooling around and I tried as hard as I could to not let her see the pain I was in when she touched me there but couldn't hide it. She saw the sore and it almost ended our new lifestyle. A few days rest with the cage off and some mods to the base ring saved it. Nothing that some 100 grit sandpaper all the way to 400 grit couldn't handle to make the lower part of the base ring that touches the scrotum fully round.
It's been several years since that happened and we're glad was able to convince her to continue. Now, if I decided to call it quits, my wife would probably have the cage welded to the base ring.
Now that you started wearing CB6K there are a few things to keep in mind. First, lube, lube and more lube. To this day I still use a little A&D on my steel device as it heals as it lubes.
Don't wear your new device 24/7 everyday right away. You have to let your stuff adjust. Experiment with base ring sizes and spacers until you find the most comfortable fit. Your initial nocturnal erections are going to be killers and you are going to wonder how you are going to survive them. Your balls are going to ache and will feel like they are on fire. They will get better, much better. Calming down enough to pee will help immensely. Typically using the largest ring possible without balls slipping out works the best to reduce the erection pain. Try not to let the Mrs. see you struggling with them as you don't want to discourage her from continuing your fantasy.
In the beginning, I approached my wife about chastity and it took some fast talking and and a crap load of convincing. She wasn't sure so I decided to wear the CB anyway. At first she thought I was crazy but after a little while, she started to take an interest. She finally asked for the keys but she would let me out every day to clean and stretch. I finally convinced her that I needed her to keep me locked up for longer periods and the week she was leaving to stay with her parents in Florida would be a good time to do it. 2 days after she left, I forgot to lube in the morning before work. My job is pretty physical and by noon time, the base ring was digging into the back of my scrotum something fierce. By the time I got home and checked, I had a good sore there. I lubed it constantly everyday which helped ease the pain until my wife came home. She took off my cage and started fooling around and I tried as hard as I could to not let her see the pain I was in when she touched me there but couldn't hide it. She saw the sore and it almost ended our new lifestyle. A few days rest with the cage off and some mods to the base ring saved it. Nothing that some 100 grit sandpaper all the way to 400 grit couldn't handle to make the lower part of the base ring that touches the scrotum fully round.
It's been several years since that happened and we're glad was able to convince her to continue. Now, if I decided to call it quits, my wife would probably have the cage welded to the base ring.
Re: chastity has started
Another quick word of advice...
When you're locked up, all you can think about for quite some time (especially your first time) is your cock. As you get hornier, it'll get worse. For you, it's what's first and foremost on your mind. There's the constant squeezing, rubbing, and obsession that sets in. You'll want to share all of this with your KH.
For her, the experience is very different. What she'll see is you becoming obsessed with your lockup. She might take to this right away and love the power/teasing (Congrats if this happens!), or she might find it to be distracting from the regular pace of life. For example - you're in the grocery store shopping for groceries with her.
For example: All you can think about is the fact that you're walking around the grocery store locked up, the fact that you're dripping and that you're horny as hell. All she can think about is the playdate that's coming up in an hour, the fact dinner needs to be made, work, and the parent-teacher conference coming up. Pile lockup / teasing & denial on top of this and it gets overwhelming quickly.
You're getting something out of this - give back to her by taking something off her plate (or 3-4 things). It'll make life much better for both of you.
Either way if you're constantly reading, sending her articles, pictures, and talking to her about what you're feeling she might get a little overwhelmed and feel pressured to perform. Every couple has their own dynamic, so I can only really talk to ours. I was completely consumed by the first lockups the the point where she found it to be a turn-off. Since chastity is long-term play, you really have to be aware of the effect chastity has on you and your partner. The experiences aren't always the same.
Talk to her about it, be open, and try to be aware of how she's handling it all.
Also, be patient and don't get disappointed... this takes practice and can be an adjustment. Your fantasy of how this will play out will almost certainly be different than reality.
Good luck! You might want to start a journey blog.
When you're locked up, all you can think about for quite some time (especially your first time) is your cock. As you get hornier, it'll get worse. For you, it's what's first and foremost on your mind. There's the constant squeezing, rubbing, and obsession that sets in. You'll want to share all of this with your KH.
For her, the experience is very different. What she'll see is you becoming obsessed with your lockup. She might take to this right away and love the power/teasing (Congrats if this happens!), or she might find it to be distracting from the regular pace of life. For example - you're in the grocery store shopping for groceries with her.
For example: All you can think about is the fact that you're walking around the grocery store locked up, the fact that you're dripping and that you're horny as hell. All she can think about is the playdate that's coming up in an hour, the fact dinner needs to be made, work, and the parent-teacher conference coming up. Pile lockup / teasing & denial on top of this and it gets overwhelming quickly.
You're getting something out of this - give back to her by taking something off her plate (or 3-4 things). It'll make life much better for both of you.
Either way if you're constantly reading, sending her articles, pictures, and talking to her about what you're feeling she might get a little overwhelmed and feel pressured to perform. Every couple has their own dynamic, so I can only really talk to ours. I was completely consumed by the first lockups the the point where she found it to be a turn-off. Since chastity is long-term play, you really have to be aware of the effect chastity has on you and your partner. The experiences aren't always the same.
Talk to her about it, be open, and try to be aware of how she's handling it all.
Also, be patient and don't get disappointed... this takes practice and can be an adjustment. Your fantasy of how this will play out will almost certainly be different than reality.
Good luck! You might want to start a journey blog.
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fishintexn517
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Re: chastity has started
Well it's 5 am I have now been awake an hour, I bet ya'll can guess why . I'm starting to think the ring is to big around and wondering if I have the right spacer in. In hind sight it both a blessing and a curse having this on tonight a blessing because the queen had to be away from home over night and a curse because this was my first night with it on
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fishintexn517
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Re: chastity has started
Well I may have figured it out support is key for day wear . Now to master nights and of course work, which may be interesting as I work in plants as a rotating equipment mechanic
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maxANDsue
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@hertdtoy got it right. I did all those things last year and my wife got so annoyed that she just gave up and let me cum to shut me up. I still struggle to control myself but have finally stopped sending her URLs, pictures and information. I am into week 5 with two more weeks to go. Be careful of what you wish for because I wanted to just do it weekly or two weeks at most but my wife fell in love with teasing and denying me. Now she gets more pleasure out of my chastity than I do. She pushes me longer and longer and is hinting at going until xmas rather than at the end of this month. The problem is that the more I control myself and do not annoy her, the longer she feels she can make me go. My wife is bi and has not allowed penetration for longer than either of us can remember. If she had her way, I would never cum again so if I just lay there an take it without a word, she will never let me cum. It is a balancing act.
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fishintexn517
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Re: chastity has started
Well back in my cage today as I stated the other day the base ring was dealing me the blues due to the design of it as its not a real cb brand but some silicone in the grooves and it has been comfortable all day now for the night. What I would like to know now is how do you keep the joint of the ring where it's pins go through the ring from separating off and on and pinching