Keyholder's confidence when hubby is locked

[luckylocked]

Maybe not the right heading but I was interested in other peoples experiences. We have been playing this game for over two years now and consider ourselves somewhat experienced now.

What I have loved to watch is my beautiful wife's blossoming self confidence and comfort when she is in the dominant role which she has realised is her preferred state. Her wardrobe has completely changed, she pretty much wears a heeled shoe most of the time now. Her work outfit has gone from pants & flats to skirts and 3-4" patent heels.

There is no longer any pretence of me having any control in the bedroom whether in chastity or not. Every sexual encounter she is in complete control and has no interest in me taking charge anymore.

When we are in play mode she rules the roost outside of the bedroom in nearly every way. Where it used to be she was playing the game by getting me to do chores etc now she expects things done just so and her taunts or corrections are real and not play.

Being witness to this real and amazing transformation that sometimes goes beyond what I had expected but has been such a wonderful experience.

Best of all, when I asked her recently if I thought I was silly for wanting this, she told me she thought I was gorgeous with the biggest and most contented smile on her face and said besides it's not up to you anymore.

Is this the experience for others and when did you slip from playing a game to more of a real lifestyle change. We need to have our breaks to keep it fun but I am finding we spend more and more time in this dynamic.

[locked4her55]

besides it's not up to you anymore.

Honestly my wife uses this same statement on me but it's said with regard to things like when I will be unlocked or my next orgasm.

Life marches on as usual for us outside the bedroom. It sounds like your wife is really getting into her role and unless it gets out of control I would say if you are comfortable with it then enjoy it.

[cocu06]

Hey all, how was your wife's attitude before chastity? I have been married to 20 years and want to spice things up by being in chastity, I even have the book from Amazon on "Male Chastity - A guide for keyholders" and I'm fixing to give it to her very soon. My wife has a very very low sex drive and I wonder what's the point of me going into chastity if it's only for me. I'm not going to push her into it and want to do this for her, but I don't know if she'll appreciate it and take advantage of the gift I'm giving her.

Was your wife very sexual before chastity or did her sexuality grow as the cage came out?

[luckylocked]

My wife was fairly sexually active before chastity but we would go long periods (months) without much action. The first few times we locked up she became a little more interested, say 2 to 3 orgasms a week while I was locked. She hated having her toes kissed and found the worship being delivered by her very eager husband all a bit much.
Fast forward to today our typical evening is a long foot massage for her before bed, into bed where I am instructed to kiss her feet while she reads a book and tickles my balls, which can last for half an hour or so till she tells me to start moving up to the honey pot. There I have to give long slow attention until she puts the book down which is her sign for me to take it home, half the time with her flipping me over and giving me a proper face sitting! I would say this happens 6 nights a week now and a couple of days a month we play through the day when the kids are at school, and that gets really naughty.
She has read bits of Male Chastity but ultimately she has worked it out herself on what works for her which is what it is all about. I promise you she thought it was super weird to start and really didn't care whether it was locked or not where as now she is in boots and all.
I really hope it works for you and I am sure everyone here will agree, take your time, don't top from the bottom and give her time to appreciate the benefits of locking your cock.

[luckylocked]

besides it's not up to you anymore.

Honestly my wife uses this same statement on me but it's said with regard to things like when I will be unlocked or my next orgasm.

Life marches on as usual for us outside the bedroom. It sounds like your wife is really getting into her role and unless it gets out of control I would say if you are comfortable with it then enjoy it.

Our life outside of the house is absolutely normal and even in the house the only real difference is I take on the day to day chores. She still does cleaning and washing etc when I am not around so FLR light really. Still, lots of fun when she occasionally gets super bossy just because she can.

[Linus]

Ever since my wife has locked me (2 years), she has emerged as altogether different lady
Much more confident, strict, caring, and what not!
Gradually she has taken over complete control even outside the bedroom, in routine life
Yes, I do enjoy it!
Kelmag's article about "the science behind male chastity" has convinced her that keeping me locked is not just a kink, but the necessity