Hi all, new member with a few questions

[LOCKED HUSBAND]

If it ain't fun, quit. Communication is the biggest part of chastity.

Agree. Both parties have to be invested in this to work. If you are getting nothing from it then cut the damn thing off and communicate to your wife why this just isn't doing anything for you.

I agree also but am envious

[TwistedMister]

Hey, thanks for the reply.

The trouble is, she will only let me take it off when we have sex. The moment we finish she puts it back on herself. It's been like this for the last 4 years now. I work away quite a lot and it just feels like it's really turned into a trust issue. It's not the cb itself. I've been wearing it long enough not to notice.

I don't think you'll get much sympathy...there's probably a bunch of guys here who just WISH their wife/GF had the same attitude.

[KydenHeart]

Hey, thanks for the reply.

The trouble is, she will only let me take it off when we have sex. The moment we finish she puts it back on herself. It's been like this for the last 4 years now. I work away quite a lot and it just feels like it's really turned into a trust issue. It's not the cb itself. I've been wearing it long enough not to notice.

I don't think you'll get much sympathy...there's probably a bunch of guys here who just WISH their wife/GF had the same attitude.

I disagree twisted. I personally wanted to be locked and controlled sexually by my wife and recently she has wanted the same thing. Now I'm always locked except when she wants to play with her property. But I do feel sympathy for Stevo.

If the reason you are locked is because your wife is having trust issues then you have some problems that chastity won't fix. It really does need to be a rewarding thing for both of you. If you truly don't want to be locked up then it should come off and the two of you need to have a long talk. Even if she doesn't want it. I may not have been married as long as the two of you Stevo but we had plenty of things that were poisoning our relationship untill we sat down and talked. Sure there were tears and hard times, but now we are happier than ever. Chastity came about for us because of those talks, it didn't cause us to be happy.

[wishful4]

Hey, thanks for the reply.

The trouble is, she will only let me take it off when we have sex. The moment we finish she puts it back on herself. It's been like this for the last 4 years now. I work away quite a lot and it just feels like it's really turned into a trust issue. It's not the cb itself. I've been wearing it long enough not to notice.

Excuse me for being late to the discussion, but are you sure it's just a trust issue? Could the reality of living a male chastity lifestyle just not be living up to the fantasy you thought it would be? So, now you want to turn back the clock. You just need to talk with your KH/spouse about your feelings, not the people on this forum. It is true that MC has the potential to make a good relationship even better, but it won't fix a bad one. If there is a trust issue in your relationship, MC won't fix it. Good communication between the two of you might.

[FreakManVA]

I'm still a rookie here but when I read the Original Post I was thinking along the same lines as wishful4.
Then again it also seems like you're fine with it overall but are curious why her behavior or intensity towards MC has changed recently.
Personally I don't like the term "trust issue" being applied to any type of suspicions partners in relationships may have since having a simple trust issue is essentially feeling vulnerable to a potential loss & why should anyone feeling vulnerable in a relationship be coined with some negative connotations. Granted if she's feeling vulnerable for whatever reason & that's a recent change in her perception of the dynamic between the 2 of you then she should be discussing it with you. I think you'd need more proof before labeling it a trust issue & perhaps there's more to this idea of yours about trust than what has been shared here.
With that being said (typed) I know if my wife & I had this conversation how it would go and I would be perfectly fine with it if she said that she'd feel more comfortable if the cage remained on while I traveled abroad I would promptly agree to keeping it on & offer to text her pix of it still secure daily if it would help that much more.
Being or feeling trusted is high up on my list sure, I am actually a rather honest guy so any hint of someone suspecting otherwise from me can be infuriating. My wife feeling secure in our relationship though is actually a little bit higher on my list.
Is it possible that you're just paranoid about the trust & she's just really grown to love having a little bit of cock control over you and it's kind of taking you by surprise? I guess you won't really know the nuts & bolts of her desires until you try to discuss the matter with her.