Cure for masturbation

[Harry_Gr0ves]

Hi! I live in Surrey and am new to chastity. I am currently training myself to be restrained with a Master Series 4 Ring Locking Male Chastity Cage. My chastity is self inflicted. I have been a chronic masturbator for all of my adult life and since my wife has lost interest in sex it has been the only outlet for my over-active libido.
I have of late been visiting female bondage websites for stimulation and have become more disgusted with myself than usual and have therefore decided that I must cease masturbating once and for all. As I do not appear to have the will power to do this by restraint I have decided that I will have to resort to constraint.
I went online last week and purchased the chastity cage. When I first put it on I found it extremely uncomfortable, particularly the weight of it and the pull and pressure on my testicles. However, I recognise that this is all part of the "corrective" process. I have been making myself wear it for an increasing period of time each day and am beginning to become used to the discomfort and containment.
I have joined this forum for support - partially to ensure that I stick to my regime of self-imposed restraint by reporting on my progress and confessing any lapses; but also to seek advice from those who have followed the same path or from those who are training others and are willing to take on another pathetic wanker.

[Elizabeth]

Hi Harry_Gr0ves,

My boyfriend used to have the same problem and it was very hurtful to me and our sex life. Once I started keeping a chastity device on him regularly, our sex life is so much better & more fulfilling. It was very uncomfortable for him at first, but now it feels odd for him to have it off! I think you'll get some great responses from other caged men on the forums - this is wonderful place for ideas and discussion.

xo,
Elizabeth

[cagedmonkey]

This is probably going to be an unpopular reply, but I figure being honest is best.

Using chastity as a way to curb a masturbation habit or an out of control libido is a bad idea. Chastity is only going to make you hornier and draw your attention more towards masturbating - it's the whole "I can't do it, so now it's all I want to do" thing at work. You are much better off working through your chronic masturbation issues without using chastity as an inhibitor. Otherwise, you're just going to make things worse.

If you are serious about your situation and intend to continue on the path you've chosen, however, I wish you luck and hope things work out better for you.

[slave d]

i have to agree BUT with a proviso, and that is "self chastity" is unlikely (in my view and experience) to work. A number of males here, including myself, tried self chastity before eventually getting a KeyHolder that could make it all "real" and put the emphasis on them not you. Maybe you could make it work by posting the keys (ALL of them) to yourself every week BUT again all devices can be beaten and so real orgasm control is as much about the top 3 inches as the inches in the device !! Now most of us here have been lucky enough to convince our significant other to be that KeyHolder and they are the true secret to our continued chastity. i'm afraid i didn't find the secret without a KeyHolder but i guess they're out there and i do hope you find one. Anyway, i'm a bit of an old fart and perhaps you'll manage without !!

Good luck

d

[Tom Allen]

In case you missed it in the other thread, take a look at:

http://reddit.com/r/nofap

It's sort of a support group for guys who are trying to get a handle on things.