hi,
i'm really new to the idea of chastity for keeping away from masturbation and have just looked into the idea of gettin some sort of chastity device to help me when i'm tempted.
don;t really know the best type or best style but looking for anyhelpful advice.
dont have a girlfriend right now but not worried about that, i just want to get some control over my physical self and all.
any advice would be helpful and I have been trying to keep from comming on my own but think a device would really help, any advice?
thanks in advance
Paolo
any ideas for starting chastity
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Re: any ideas for starting chastity
I got the spiral chastity device from uberkinky, its a fairly cheap device and great for short term use.
If your using it on your own you could try putting the keys into a very large glass of water and freezing it. That way they are still in your possesion but not readily available so if you get weak you still have to wait for them to defrost and by then you may have regained some inner strength to simply refreeze the keys.
Some people will post the keys to themselfs but I m not a fan of this personally. If they get lost lol its bolt cutter time and thats an operation I would not want to perform lmao.
Also is there a friend you could confide in or at least trust to hold the keys for you? be carefull sharing this with your friends though. Most people are not as open minded as they like to think they are and can very judgmental.
If your using it on your own you could try putting the keys into a very large glass of water and freezing it. That way they are still in your possesion but not readily available so if you get weak you still have to wait for them to defrost and by then you may have regained some inner strength to simply refreeze the keys.
Some people will post the keys to themselfs but I m not a fan of this personally. If they get lost lol its bolt cutter time and thats an operation I would not want to perform lmao.
Also is there a friend you could confide in or at least trust to hold the keys for you? be carefull sharing this with your friends though. Most people are not as open minded as they like to think they are and can very judgmental.
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Re: any ideas for starting chastity
I will be honest with you because when I was young I tried D/S with someone I only saw maybe once a month. Here is what I found. I tended to want her to do things like I had fantasized about. It is no fun to do something that you not normally like when it does not happen like you fantasized about. There is also the issue of her not having any emotional interest if you follow her instructions or not. On the other hand, you can cheat, even when locked up, and just tell her you did not. In the end, I realized that she did not share the same fantasy as I did and I was not really interested in being dominated by a women, but rather being dominated the way I liked to be dominated. Yes, some KH will make you take pictures of yourself every few hours, etc. but believe me, that quickly stops being enjoyable once your initial excitement wears off and you are now inconvenience by having to prove you did not unlock yourself over and over again. Yes, it becomes less exciting over time for many people but there are those who keep on enjoying it for a long time but let's face it, they are a very small majority of the population. Heck, chastity is a minor kink compared to many others. I have read that most guys use their CD for a few weeks and then either put it away or only use it occasionally. I believe that.
I have been mostly into BDSM for over 50 years. One rule I have is to be safe. You never know what the unexpected can bring. With chastity play, I always have access to a spare key. One day I had a kidney stone attack at work and was rushed to a hospital and a surgery room where they removed my pants and knocked me out for the operation. Imagine the problems that would have caused if I was wearing a chastity device. I am sure it could have been removed eventually but that would have meant spending more time in pain. As I said, the unexpected can happen at any time.
I believe in safe and sane sex as do those who live the BDSM lifestyle. Ask a professional or lifestyle Dom about this. Who wants to go to someone who does not put their safety first, no matter how exciting it may seem. Things happen. I know that for a fact. With this in mind, I suggest that you do what a lot of us do when turning our fantasy into reality. Have your KH place the spare key in a signed envelope or other container that would easily let your KH know that you used the spare key. Believe me, if you wake up at night with one ball trapped in the ring and the pain unbearable, you can either call up your KH and wait for her to come over, or try to free it yourself which I found very painful. The chastity experience is in no way diminished by having an emergency key nearby that you cannot use without your KH knowing it. However if your fantasy must contain no access at all, then you have to throw safety out the window and take your chances. There are enough people who post about having to take off their device for many different reasons like skin problems, ball slippage, hygiene, etc, to show that having a key nearby is pretty important in reality.
Please go into this with your eyes open and ask yourself what does the KH get out of this? What does she care if you have orgasms of not? Will you do this like she wants you to, even if it is nothing like your fantasy? From what I have heard ,from some dominant women who tried this ,is that very often the guy will try to be in charge and tell her how he wants her to act. Remember that your fantasy is not hers and unless you are willing to do it her way, which may not be erotic for you because of this difference in fantasies, it could end up as a very short term thing. One last point, what difference does it make by just denying yourself or giving someone the key. You are the one who wants chastity so if you cheat, you are only cheating yourself. It is not like your KH will benefit from your chastity unless she is a paid Pro.
Some get upset when I say these things because their fantasy revolves around pretending that they are forced into chastity and cannot escape or have any orgasms. That is understandable because their fantasy is to have no out, even if it is needed. I can have an orgasm simply by putting my fingers behind the ring and moving it slightly back and forth. I can also use a pen or something else that I can slide into my CD to make myself cum. I do not do so because the only one I will be deceiving is me. Think about it and I wish you good luck. What you want to do can and does work for some. It all depends if your KH and if you are playing the same game by the same rules. If you have specific things you want done, be upfront with the KH. That is what I used to do before any BDSM session. I do not care if people call it topping from the bottom because I got my fantasy fulfilled exactly like I wanted to and, if the Mistress was good, a few extras that I liked but never mentioned. Have fun.
I have been mostly into BDSM for over 50 years. One rule I have is to be safe. You never know what the unexpected can bring. With chastity play, I always have access to a spare key. One day I had a kidney stone attack at work and was rushed to a hospital and a surgery room where they removed my pants and knocked me out for the operation. Imagine the problems that would have caused if I was wearing a chastity device. I am sure it could have been removed eventually but that would have meant spending more time in pain. As I said, the unexpected can happen at any time.
I believe in safe and sane sex as do those who live the BDSM lifestyle. Ask a professional or lifestyle Dom about this. Who wants to go to someone who does not put their safety first, no matter how exciting it may seem. Things happen. I know that for a fact. With this in mind, I suggest that you do what a lot of us do when turning our fantasy into reality. Have your KH place the spare key in a signed envelope or other container that would easily let your KH know that you used the spare key. Believe me, if you wake up at night with one ball trapped in the ring and the pain unbearable, you can either call up your KH and wait for her to come over, or try to free it yourself which I found very painful. The chastity experience is in no way diminished by having an emergency key nearby that you cannot use without your KH knowing it. However if your fantasy must contain no access at all, then you have to throw safety out the window and take your chances. There are enough people who post about having to take off their device for many different reasons like skin problems, ball slippage, hygiene, etc, to show that having a key nearby is pretty important in reality.
Please go into this with your eyes open and ask yourself what does the KH get out of this? What does she care if you have orgasms of not? Will you do this like she wants you to, even if it is nothing like your fantasy? From what I have heard ,from some dominant women who tried this ,is that very often the guy will try to be in charge and tell her how he wants her to act. Remember that your fantasy is not hers and unless you are willing to do it her way, which may not be erotic for you because of this difference in fantasies, it could end up as a very short term thing. One last point, what difference does it make by just denying yourself or giving someone the key. You are the one who wants chastity so if you cheat, you are only cheating yourself. It is not like your KH will benefit from your chastity unless she is a paid Pro.
Some get upset when I say these things because their fantasy revolves around pretending that they are forced into chastity and cannot escape or have any orgasms. That is understandable because their fantasy is to have no out, even if it is needed. I can have an orgasm simply by putting my fingers behind the ring and moving it slightly back and forth. I can also use a pen or something else that I can slide into my CD to make myself cum. I do not do so because the only one I will be deceiving is me. Think about it and I wish you good luck. What you want to do can and does work for some. It all depends if your KH and if you are playing the same game by the same rules. If you have specific things you want done, be upfront with the KH. That is what I used to do before any BDSM session. I do not care if people call it topping from the bottom because I got my fantasy fulfilled exactly like I wanted to and, if the Mistress was good, a few extras that I liked but never mentioned. Have fun.
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Re: any ideas for starting chastity
I do wear cb for prevent masturbating, i have cb-6000 but i just today order cb-6000s. It work pretty well, i dont have a key holder but i like to wear it so it helps, and for me after week wearing get more plessurepaolotrying wrote:hi,
i'm really new to the idea of chastity for keeping away from masturbation and have just looked into the idea of gettin some sort of chastity device to help me when i'm tempted.
don;t really know the best type or best style but looking for anyhelpful advice.
dont have a girlfriend right now but not worried about that, i just want to get some control over my physical self and all.
any advice would be helpful and I have been trying to keep from comming on my own but think a device would really help, any advice?
thanks in advance
Paolo