All LockedUp and no play makes for a very dull Game*UPDATED*

[LockedUp24]

As ive posted before here my KH is not a Teaser or Even a Denial kind or even wishes to be pleasured oral y,digitally or otherwise... but she is enjoying the power play that chastity brings and she has said that she enjoys it.

Problem is im usually locked up for 12 to 13 days with nothing apart from verbal commands to clean or cook etc. i might get something like a nights release or maybe an "O" on day 14 that's a BIG might.


I know she is enjoying the new power she has and apart of me wants her to have that power and more but im starting to feel like i might slip back into our old ways before chastity even if im locked in.

Anyone else had this problem

[locked4her55]

Nope. We will go through times where as others here have put it "life just get's in the way" but then we return to some T&D and her mentioning to me that she will be in need of some servicing.

I'm feeling for ya.

[Michele]

I just want to say in sorry... I don't think chastity is very fun without some element of teasing our sexual stuff. Chastity does not = celibacy/abstinence, unless that's what you agreed on?

Anyway... I think this should be about play, sexually, not doing the dishes & vacuuming

[sherulestherooster]

I'm with LadynMonkey, this is supposed to be about play. Through our experiences with orgasm denial, I know that I want to orgasm but I truly NEED to have the sexual stimulation. We will occasionally have nights where I take care of her and she more or less ignores me (she has terrible sleeping habits which limits our play time more than I would like). I don't react well to this at all. I start to feel depressed and grouchy if I don't have that sexual connection (at a minimum a solid erection in her presence, morning wood doesn't count) in as few as a few days. Those feelings go away if we have a session, and whether I climax or not doesn't seem to matter in getting my head right. I need that intimate connection to keep the excitement going.

Maybe you can talk to her about this? I am a pretty firm believer in that even though I am her sub, she needs to wrap herself around my needs too.

Good luck!

[LockedUp24]

You Lot are the best.

[ChrissysProperty]

Since I gave my response early in your post, I've watched the advice you have been given by some of the most educated and very sensible people on the forum. I TOO have a lot of respect for them all and I'm pleased they have found you an improvement to your lifestyle.

The beauty about this place is that it has very thoughtful and caring people with very adult and mature opinions on a subject that once upon a time would have been considered extreme but is now becoming understood and practised by many 1000's of couples across the world .

Genuine love to all.

[locked4her55]

As ive posted before here my KH is not a Teaser or Even a Denial kind or even wishes to be pleasured oral y,digitally or otherwise... but she is enjoying the power play that chastity brings and she has said that she enjoys it.

Problem is im usually locked up for 12 to 13 days with nothing apart from verbal commands to clean or cook etc. i might get something like a nights release or maybe an "O" on day 14 that's a BIG might.


I know she is enjoying the new power she has and apart of me wants her to have that power and more but im starting to feel like i might slip back into our old ways before chastity even if im locked in.

Anyone else had this problem

Ok, Now I'm feeling a bit confused.

You describe above on Saturday "Oh woe is me" but then you post this below in the Journal section that you had attention from your KH on Friday?


Friday
I came home and found my dinner in the microwave and the kitchen to clean when i was done,My KH had done the laundry but left the huge pile of clothes to for me to sort out and fold and put away, and a whole load of other stuff.
The second i stepped in the door my KH said "Ah good now that your home ill have my coffee in the living room sort out the kids for bed and the clothes" "can i have my dinner first" i asked "Sure right after you make my coffee" she said.
I did as i was told and ate my dinner,Afterwards it was pretty straight forward and soon i was sitting down myself relaxing, I had hopes for tonight but knowing my KH and Women that Headache myth is always lurking and ive done that whole "Here's some pain killers for your headache..but i don't have a headache...that's great so your up for some sex tonight trick"before and it didn't go down well.
So i played it cool....and it paid off too.

I can proudly say i did my job as a Husband and Sub well at first she just wanted a relaxing oral play but soon after it was her race to the Finnish line. Mmmmm yummy.

My KH and i laid there in the quiet dark she was in that glowing state we all know and love she reached over to my Locked cage and started to play at the base running her fingers around it and at the slit of the shaft and then cupped my swollen Testicles, I was Hard and she could feel the penis muscle inside my body like a steel rod that somehow impaled me.I asked her to stop (thinking i would have to wait another week)

What ???WHAT DID she say.."You can pop now but you do it yourself and ill supervise"She said.
I was Lucky as its usually a week later on that i get an O and it was recently that i already had an O too.
I was handed the keys and i was free..It took less than 2 min before it was Finished but it was a Powerful O so much so my O shot passed my T-shirt and hit the side of my face leaving a trail behind, My KH couldn't stop laughing (third time this happened to me in my life) she was in fits of laughter at the sight of me.
As she laughed i felt an ache in my pubic area, I had shot that hard it ached and yet i still could not help but laugh also.
After a min or so i picked my self up and cleaned my face and headed for the bathroom.
It took a few min before i was suitable to get back into bed and my KH left me free without my cage that night.
Still feeling the ache i drifted off to sleep my KH resting her slender leg over my hip as she too fell asleep.

to be continued....
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LockedUp24

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Maybe instead of confused I should be feeling "used"

[ChrissysProperty]

OOPS! There was me thinking we were all doing a good job then BAM! I think Ladynmonkey needs to give advice here to sort the minds out! HELP Ladynmonkey!
You need to calm down and talk to your kh more! We are ALL different with different fantasy lifestyles. Cum on ... it's meant to be fun and intimate love. Less of this and more of this

[LockedUp24]

Lockedforher55
That was over a week ago and i dont include dates simply as nothing much happens in daily life worth even thinking about anyway im not talking about getting an O im talking about Teasing here.
If i wanted an O id find a way its that simple (ie)Shower time (ive posted about that too)

You cant realy leave someone locked up and expect them to day after day serve you without a little attention and so what if its 2 weeks apart thats probaby normal for most people anyway...its the frustration building up to Night 14.

[LongTimeComing]

I've been in the zone now for a few months and can relate to what you are saying. I am as guilty as my KH is for taking our foot off the gas. That said, I think that the solution is to revisit the agreement (assuming you have a contract of some sort) in the light of a dose of reality and, well, get real. It'd be nice to be restrained and edged every day for an hour, but... it just isn't going to work and as Mistress Jules (I think) suggested, there has to be a girly quid pro quo for the KH so she isn't in danger of just feeling like a cheap sex toy doing your bidding. Much like vanilla married life oddly enough

The other suggestion would be to ditch the device you have (your avatar suggests a CB6k) and get a proper bespoke steel one. My CB6k was hellish: too labour intensive, bulky, uncomfortable and it made me sore. The steel one is easier to put on and can be left on indefinitely 24x7 with the odd spot of quality silicone lube (for instance). My KH wouldn't ever go back to me being in a CB6.

Good luck.