Fantasies

[Michele]

So I just finished writing about fantasies and wanted to come to the experts and get your opinion... is it weird that I don't get fantasies? I mean not in the traditional sense. My fantasy thoughts usually come "in the heart of the moment" but other than that I don't have thoughts about doing things or wanting things done... am I weird? Broken?

[chastehub]

It will be interesting to see if other Keyholders weigh in, and if so, what they say, because I suspect the ladies' fantasies are very different from the men's in both quantity and content.

MyBride tells me she does not have a lot of fantasies. She is looking for romance and how things develop from there. Chastity has been magical in that regard; it puts here squarely in the center of my focus, so our bedroom escapades are slower and more romantic, and she loves that. Although our love making is pretty vanilla, we have tried some new positions and found a few new "go to" positions we wish we had tried 20 years ago.

Bottom line: given the discussions about fantasies that i've had with MyBride, i don't think you're weird or broken.

[WifeIsVanilla]

It seems as if you live out what most people only have as fantasies

[Michele]

It seems as if you live out what most people only have as fantasies

Haha I would say I/we fulfill most of our fantasies or parts of them anyway. It seems we have some pretty kinky sex lol like I said, though, I get these brilliant ideas or want to try things (mostly to expand on other things we do to make them more intense) while we are in the middle of it. Sometimes it happens in the middle of a conversation about things we are wanting to try. I just don't usually have those kinds of thoughts outside of that. Maybe I used to but I'm basically the person who will make things happen if I want them... hence the nickname "Aggressive". When I want something I go get it, I don't wait around hoping.

[keeperof55]

So I just finished writing about fantasies and wanted to come to the experts and get your opinion... is it weird that I don't get fantasies? I mean not in the traditional sense. My fantasy thoughts usually come "in the heart of the moment" but other than that I don't have thoughts about doing things or wanting things done... am I weird? Broken?

While I am by no means an "expert", I don't think you are weird or broken. I thought you were describing me:)

[Tame Lion]

So I just finished writing about fantasies and wanted to come to the experts and get your opinion... is it weird that I don't get fantasies? I mean not in the traditional sense. My fantasy thoughts usually come "in the heart of the moment" but other than that I don't have thoughts about doing things or wanting things done... am I weird? Broken?

My experience is that I create fantasies that I probably would not like to realize fully. I think that fantasies serve two uses, at least for me. First, they let me mentally try out how I feel and react under the situations my mind has created. The fantasy is always hot and can make me get hard, but in the cold light of morning when I think about the dream I consider if I could really do it. If the answer is yes, then I try to find a way to actually do what I dreamed about. When it comes to chastity I don't have the sort of fantasies I read here and elsewhere. For me, it isn't so much what happens while I am locked up, but more how it feels to surrender to my partner. Does that make sense?

[LockedUp24]

My Wife/ Key holder is very much the same only she has NO fantasies...thats right 0. So i try to encourage them and ideas with Stories from Literotica.com and Toys chosen from our favorite site and most are only used two or three times even if she 'O' on a NEW LEVEL.

So i wouldnt worry about it all that much maybe check out Literotica if you havent already and they have a Android app too that will allow you to read in bed to help get those dreams going.

[Dannyboy]

only last week I was having a proper talk with my kh. we were talking about fantasies, and I asked her what hers were, making it very clear that I wouldn't think any were silly, stupid or a bit hard (if you get what I mean) and she said that she honestly doesn't have any, but was she telling the truth.

She knows my fantasies and we talk dirty about them when having sex but they are not hers and she does it to get me going, not herself. Now I do have some which I would never mention to her so perhaps she is the same with me.

[Michele]

@tame lion - that's exactly what my last blog post was about!

@Dannyboy - so now I'm intrigued, wanna share with us those ones you think are too much for her? Please!!!

[Jedi]

Jewels has long stated that she doesn't have fantasies. She may have desires for a certain type of touch, but it is most certainly not a fully realized scene like I have. I hypothesize that this is due to the difference between men an women. Generally men are visually stimulated, so the development of a scene in their mind is stimulating. Women, on the other hand, tend to be more tactile stimulated, so thoughts of a certain type of touch or feeling is stimulating to them.

Of course, I could be way off...