What is your earliest memory of being kinky?

[chastehub]

i'm sure like many, i've always wondered why "weird" things like being tied up, or locked in a cock cage, turn me on. MyBride is very vanilla, and she has always struggled with my kinkiness, but out of love she has always played along. When we introduced chastity about a year ago my kinkiness went from one sided (i laid there tied up while she did all the work), to a husband that could think of nothing but MyBride, and pleasing her 24x7 in and out of the bedroom. It transformed our relationship in many positive ways. i came to realize (pun intended) that we had tapped into something very powerful.

That got me reflecting on the origins of my kinks. On the question of nature vs. nurture, there is no doubt: nature. i remember getting my first erection around age 7 as i watched friends play around with tying each other up; the little guy jumping to attention was quite a shock, and the details of that event are forever burned in my memory. i remember experiencing my first orgasm around age 12 while playing with self-bondage; the waves of pleasure were offset by concerns that i had just pissed myself, and the details of that event are also forever burned in my memory. There is no doubt my kinks are hard wired deep down in my psyche.

What was your earliest experience that made you realize you are kinky?

[Oldtimer]

Good question. To tell the truth, when I was a teen, all I knew about was vanilla sex. Back in my day, there was no internet or cable TV. The only men's magazine I read was Playboy. I knew about handcuffs but that was about it. When I got back from NAM I was 20 years old and living with a female roommate with benefits. She would go out on dates with one or more men at night, wake me up when she came home by sitting on my face and telling me she was still horny and asking me to lick her. She tasted like cum and she was a squirter, which I knew nothing about. She apologized and explained that after a lot of intercourse her bladder was sore and sometimes she peed when she had an orgasm. She also confirmed what I suspected about the taste in her pussy. Since I can hardly smell or taste anything when aroused, I told her it was OK. After a few times she would describe her sexual adventure that night as I was performing oral. We ended up going our separate ways when she did all my male friends one night and wanted me to lick her clean all over, one night.

It would be about 4 years later that my wife and I started a long term threesome with her dominant girlfriend and that started my journey into the world of BDSM. So I was kind of a late bloomer. I think if I had access to all the sexual material that is easily available now, I may have started earlier but back then, there was no way to know unless you found out what fetish magazines were out there and subscribed to them. In the Army I did see opening night of Deep Throat and that was considered very kinky at the time.

[sherulestherooster]

Julie Newmar's Catwoman. I was a big fan of the campy 60s kids show "Batman". I "felt funny" whenever Catwoman was in a position of superiority over Batman - tied up and the sexual innuendo she made. Being very naiive sexually, I didn't really understand it but I definitely recall the feelings of arousal with those visuals. Later, I felt the same feelings with female Bond villains. After a lot of reflection, I think it's the inherent confidence (and "role reversal") of these women that is the biggest turn-on for me.

This is entirely one-directional: not aroused at all by a woman being tied up or dominated by a man. We've maybe tried it once, where I have tied her up, but it really didn't do much for me.

[locked4her55]

I believe I was about 10 years old when I knew.

I remember being with my family on vacation in Old Orchard Beach Maine. I walked into a store which displayed some of those "naughty" magazines and opened up a few of them to see some scanty clad women tied up.

It was my first, in my pants, no touching orgasm I ever had.

[Finn]

Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Where the maidens who had put on the fake grail beacon confessed to being "naughty", and demanded that the knights spank them, but first...the oral sex. The image of spankings and oral sex blew me away, and I remember my buddies looking at me funny for thinking that spankings was as hot as oral sex.

[TMcDHJ]

I can remember back when I was in grade school having kinky fantasies.

Back then the girls wore colored leggings in winter a lot. I had fantasies of being imprisoned in a large pair. Not wearing them mind you just being kept inside them. I couldn't have been more that 7 or 8 at the time. As time went on my fantasies evolved but it seems that I have always had the kink of "transfer of power".

Oh and I am in no way interested in cross dressing. Does not interest me or my wife at all.

[Oldtimer]

Julie Newmar's Catwoman. I was a big fan of the campy 60s kids show "Batman". I "felt funny" whenever Catwoman was in a position of superiority over Batman - tied up and the sexual innuendo she made. Being very naiive sexually, I didn't really understand it but I definitely recall the feelings of arousal with those visuals. Later, I felt the same feelings with female Bond villains. After a lot of reflection, I think it's the inherent confidence (and "role reversal") of these women that is the biggest turn-on for me.

This is entirely one-directional: not aroused at all by a woman being tied up or dominated by a man. We've maybe tried it once, where I have tied her up, but it really didn't do much for me.

Funny you should mention her. I am not the type hold celebrities in awe but I did met Julie at a book signing. The only other time I did that was with Marilyn Chambers, the porn star. Julie Newman was tall.

[TwistedMister]

Julie Newmar's Catwoman. I was a big fan of the campy 60s kids show "Batman". I "felt funny" whenever Catwoman was in a position of superiority over Batman - tied up and the sexual innuendo she made. Being very naiive sexually, I didn't really understand it but I definitely recall the feelings of arousal with those visuals. Later, I felt the same feelings with female Bond villains. After a lot of reflection, I think it's the inherent confidence (and "role reversal") of these women that is the biggest turn-on for me.

This is entirely one-directional: not aroused at all by a woman being tied up or dominated by a man. We've maybe tried it once, where I have tied her up, but it really didn't do much for me.

The exact same for me- Catwoman & Batman, and then Bond and some extremely attractive 'bad' women. I was too young to know anything about sex at the time, but I was fascinated by a Catwoman and Batman scene where she had him tied up, and I can still recall it clearly, the image is burned into my brain. I used to play with the little girl across the street, sometimes she would tie me up and it just seemed that that was the way things were supposed to be...I didn't ascribe anything 'sexual' to it, we were only in grade-school at the time and sexual feelings were still unknown. She was my first love, we had the exact same birthday and I felt that somehow we were meant for each other. But it didn't work out, we drifted apart as we got older and after high school I joined the Army, I was gone for years. I saw her one time after that and...well, that's another story.

After my involuntary retirement from the Army for medical reasons- they got tired of putting me back together or felt I was too broken and 'used up' or something- I eventually found myself packing a pistol around the streets of Boston and Cambridge at night, a sort of a 'Batman', but without a cape and mask. One dull night, about two A.M., I found myself at a newstand in Harvard Square, I was bored and just killing some time. It was there that I picked up a copy of 'Nugget' and, thumbing through the pages, I saw a layout with a leather-clad dominatrix...and I *knew* that I was a kinky SOB. The images of Catwoman, and the girl from across the street tying me to a tree, and Bond and the villianesses flashed through my mind in quick succession...and suddenly I had a third pistol...

[WifeIsVanilla]

I am about the same age as oldtimer. Playboy was the raciest mag around so my kinkiness was not triggered by any outside stimuli. From the earliest stages of puberty, maybe 11 or 12, I would fall asleep imagining various B&D scenarios, equally stimulated by being on either end of the B&D (although I don't think the actual term B&D had been invented yet)

[locked4her55]

Loved Catwoman. But my favorite youthful gal was Miss Emma Peel!

"Excuse me Mr. Steed, could you help me with this knot?"