Flat libido?

[fuzzydunlop]

It's like Day 12 and I am a little annoyed my libido is flat. It has been a hard year, I have been busy a lot, and my wife and I haven't had much time to play. Still, I would have thought I would have gotten "perked up" by now. Anybody out there ever feel flat despite seeking orgasm denial as a pick up? It usually works for me. Maybe I am just tired.

[Finn]

Sometimes a little extra teasing or some edging is required to get things going. Sometimes chastity becomes a routine, like putting on socks, and you need a little something extra to entice the caged parts.

[TwistedMister]

Sometimes other parts of life get in the way. I have ups and downs, and I don't think it is realistic to expect otherwise.

[Tom Allen]

It's perfectly normal. After all, even *without* chastity, you'd have periods during which your libido would be up or down. Being denied doesn't change anything; rather, it just sort of enhances what's already there.

[fuzzydunlop]

It's perfectly normal. After all, even *without* chastity, you'd have periods during which your libido would be up or down. Being denied doesn't change anything; rather, it just sort of enhances what's already there.

I guess what bothered me is that I've been messing around with orgasm denial for the last 20 years or so, and usually, I would start to go a little wild "3-5 days in" like so many other people reported. Now, work has been a big pressure for a long time, and my wife and I haven't had a lot of time together, and I've been doing a poor job exercising this year, which probably have all been factors.

I am happy to report that a) a new gym opened near my house recently, and I ran twice this weekend, and b) we had a "date' night. I am not feeling hyper or anything, but a little better. It has been a solid 2 weeks since my last release. We are staying in a hotel over the weekend. I want to mess around for sure, but have some very mixed feelings about trying to go another 2 weeks. On the other hand, we don't get much time in hotels, and this could be a pitstop before the rest of the holidays. Ah, the over self analytical mind of the chaste.

[TheToy]

I find keeping a horny mental sate is easier sustained when in lock up, than when I'm free to play.

[happyman1]

I think a lot of us go through it. Extra T&D will help, also maybe looking at some porn of your favorite fantasy might kick start things for you.

[fuzzydunlop]

Here's what has all of a sudden kicked started me a little---I am slightly (but not horribly) hungover after a night of drinking whiskey with some friends. I feel a little more relaxed, so my sex drive is up.

Over the last three weeks, I have been working hard at coming less and exercising more, but the cold dark weather and stress has mitigated that. I think just having a little fun has helped.

I've had kinky hot sex with my wife a couple of times, sometimes with me being a little more dom, sometimes her. That kind of fun has helped too.

So, in about the last almost a month, I have come about 3 times, only once which was unauthorized MB. It was a very mediocre wank in the middle of the night when I was anxious. Twice I have had pretty good intercourse with my wife. Once, I came too fast, the other time was great.

[Oldtimer]

It's like Day 12 and I am a little annoyed my libido is flat. It has been a hard year, I have been busy a lot, and my wife and I haven't had much time to play. Still, I would have thought I would have gotten "perked up" by now. Anybody out there ever feel flat despite seeking orgasm denial as a pick up? It usually works for me. Maybe I am just tired.

I got like that for a few months. Turned out I was suffering from depression. Doc put me on Wellbutrin which is known as the happy and horny drug and now my wife is complaining that I am killing her with sex. It had a profound effect on me as it increases the libido and for me, intensity of my orgasm. Made our T&D play much more exciting. In fact, my CB6000 is arriving today as my wife wants to reign me in.

[TwistedMister]

Doc put me on Wellbutrin which is known as the happy and horny drug and now my wife is complaining that I am killing her with sex. It had a profound effect on me as it increases the libido and for me, intensity of my orgasm. Made our T&D play much more exciting. In fact, my CB6000 is arriving today as my wife wants to reign me in.

The "happy and horny" drug? Shit, my doc repeatedly tried to push that on me to get me to quit smoking. It's probably a good thing I resisted, I'd never be able to get any sleep.