"Hello world" thread

[ChastityinChelsea]

Hi. I am a 45 year old gay man living North of Boston. I have been looking into chastity as a way to control my masturbation due to an addiction to porn. I am really interested in meeting other gay men who may be using chastity in their life. I am considering getting a cage like structure but not certain yet. I may go for a cheaper model instead of getting something very expensive and wasting my money if I can not deal with the item.

I have been celibate for the past 12 years due to career and fear of getting diseases. I just decided I was not going to risk being lied to by guys anymore about their health and status. I just turned to masturbation instead. I would love to know of others out there with similar situation. Any gay male been caged up for a long time? Please PM me as I would want to know what it is like.

[Subguy68]

Hello all, absolutely love orgasm control, introduced it to current girlfriend (first time in chastity) she seemed Interested at first but it seems she has no interest in anything sexual at all, cant really understand how a women could not be interested in having as many orgasms as she wants while the man serves her long story but don't think we are going to last much longer it's a shame but thats how it goes, just on here to chat to like minded people, and one day in the future meet some one, bye for now

[Linus]

... cant really understand how a women could not be interested in having as many orgasms as she wants while the man serves her long story but don't think we are going to last much longer

subguy68,
Have patience, don't lose hope so early!
Many women have initially expressed dislike about male chastity; and then gradually enjoyed it to the fullest.
Give her some time, show her various blogs, forums & websites to educate her with the exciting side of this lifestyle.

[wannapleaser]

I read allot of Female Led Relationship stuff and they seem to say that women are not as interested in the behavioral aspect of male chastity , but are more interested in the benefits aspect of the Female Led Relationships.
As far as I can understand, Male chastity, if it is to work, needs to be coupled with a Female Led Relationship. Male chastity and FLR seem to go hand in hand.
I found that a very good place to start on this journey of male chastity with the woman you want to belong to, is at the door step of FLR.
I just demonstrate the benefits to the woman I serve and she loves them, and KNOWS what to do to perpetuate those benefits. Famous words I read on a FLR site, (I think) When in doubt, massage the feet. . . loveingly

[Tom Allen]

As far as I can understand, Male chastity, if it is to work, needs to be coupled with a Female Led Relationship. Male chastity and FLR seem to go hand in hand.

Not that I want to argue about this, but what does "work" mean in this context? And while we're at it, what do you mean by "FLR"?

What I'm getting at is why don't you (and other people) think that chastity needs to be coupled with FLR, and doesn't work in the context of a more vanilla relationship.

[Subguy68]

... cant really understand how a women could not be interested in having as many orgasms as she wants while the man serves her long story but don't think we are going to last much longer

subguy68,
Have patience, don't lose hope so early!
Many women have initially expressed dislike about male chastity; and then gradually enjoyed it to the fullest.
Give her some time, show her various blogs, forums & websites to educate her with the exciting side of this lifestyle.

It's not just that chastity aside, she has no interest in any form of sexual activity, she Said it isn't the be all and end all of a relationship,

[runewalsh]

Hi.

Um...not really sure what I hope/expect to find here. Kinda vanilla and had a convo with kinky friends that turned to chastity belts. Curiosity got the best of me, I suppose.

Hoping that someone else here came from a totally-new-to-this-didn't-eve-know-it-existed place and can relate to what it's like to be a noob. I guess my main question is what's the appeal?

[bobby_rogers]

I am new to this forum. My wife and I have only been experimenting with male chastity for about two months. I am wearing the Curve with the extra wide base ring. It has been hard at times (trying to sleep that first night was nuts!), but when she lets me out it has been great for both of us. We are not into anything heavy, just trying to have some fun. She has enjoyed spanking me for five or six years, and this just seems like a nice step for the two of us.

I look forward to sharing with others.

BTW, does anyone know if there are any retail outlets in the Atlanta, Georgia area that stock chastity devices?

TIA,
Bob

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[TwistedMister]

Hi.

Um...not really sure what I hope/expect to find here. Kinda vanilla and had a convo with kinky friends that turned to chastity belts. Curiosity got the best of me, I suppose.

Hoping that someone else here came from a totally-new-to-this-didn't-eve-know-it-existed place and can relate to what it's like to be a noob. I guess my main question is what's the appeal?

Welcome, perhaps we can satisfy some of that curiosity.

What's the appeal? Well, you'll probably get some different answers from different people because it isn't necessarily the same for everyone.

In general, many of us find an erotic excitement in giving up [a certain amount of] control to a partner. I think, if you were to graph it out, many/most of us would fall somewhere inside of a range, on one axis, from a simple, occasional bit of kinky play (Orgasm Control) to full blown Female Domination (FemDom) (Note: it isn't all male/female, a small percentage of participants here are homosexual). On another axis, we would range from the 'vanilla' to full on, hardcore BDSM.

Of course, that is just a general and perhaps not completely accurate picture. There are other reasons/kinks and some fall outside these ranges and have different attractions.

Assuming that you are a heterosexual male with the 'normal' attraction to women, imagine that your junk is locked into a device that prevents you from receiving [physical] sexual stimulation/pleasure and that your wife/girlfriend/some random [attractive] woman has the key, she decides if, when and how you will receive pleasure and if/when/how that pleasure will result in the usual orgasmic peak. Further imagine, that you are required to pleasure her according to her wishes but that you will not be permitted the same pleasure- you will remain horny and unsatisfied, desiring orgasm but prevented from obtaining it unless and until *she* decides that she wants you to have it.

[runewalsh]

Erm, female actually, but thanks for that information.