being harsh

[kunst]

I tried to explain my wife how orgasm denial works and she seems to understand quite well. She does not like reading things in the internet, she prefers to listen to me. Moreover she cannot read english, so she has to rely on my explanations.
She is not yet in the role enoug and when I am in chastity for 10 days for example she let me have a ruined orgasm quite often. So I asked her to be more hars next time and do not let me cum at all for at least one week. However, she thinks that being more harsh means locking me not touching me at all for one week, while I think I should get some edging, because that would drive me crazy.
How could I explain better this thing to her?

[Harry Haversackers]

I have to go along with your wife on this. You've asked for "harsh", and that's what she's giving you by not touching you. You need to clarify what you really want . Tell her that you don't want an orgasm, but you do need some edging, teasing... whatever you want to call it.

[kunst]

Wife said that when I do not deserve an orgasm, she does not want to get tired. Edging me requires some effort and she is quite lazy.
Therefore we agreed that I will build a table with a hole for the member, and with laces to tie it down; a vibrator can then be tied and applied to the member by the frenulum region and she has only to push a button to remotely control it and switch it off before I cum.
Any further suggestion for the lazy wife?

[poor]

Any further suggestion for the lazy wife?

Find a partner who is grateful for being indulged?

[Calissuboy]

^^^

[Tom Allen]

I get the impression that neither of you are native English speakers, but if possible, pick up the short book "Be Careful What You Wish For" by Sarah Jameson. She explains the idea of being strict (or harsh) in a way that may help your wife understand better what you're asking for.

[Aarkey]

Any further suggestion for the lazy wife?

I don't have any great suggestions, but I'm sorry that you're struggling. Is she lazy in everything in life, or perhaps she is just disinterested in this kind of play?