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[ChastizedRob]

What if your wife (or partner) gave you the choice between cumming as much as you want for the next entire year and then never cumming again or only cumming once a year for the rest of your life? Which would you choose?

[locked4her55]

Once a year.

[1mlockedup]

I'm going for the once a year, but definitely trying for more !

[trix]

I think I would go for once a year

[Harry Haversackers]

The idea of coming as much as I might want, with no conditions attached, doesn't have much appeal any more, after several years of chastity and denial. We're having too much fun with it. However, I'm unsure as to how I would feel about it with the condition of no future orgasms attached. Would I make sure I got in as many orgasms as possible, or would my interest in it fade as the year progressed? Don't know...

I'm going to have to say that I would opt for once a year. Even though the fantasy of permanent denial really gets me going, I know the reality of it wouldn't be nearly as exciting.

[Jedi]

Hmmmm... Yearly would be a better option. With the "never again", you have nothing to look forward to or hope for... why bother?

[Finn]

In real life, I picked never again. I look forward to giving orgasms. I find that without orgasm as a goal, that everything is more intense. Being near orgasm now, is more pleasurable than 90% of the orgasms I've had. I can get that much pleasure, for far longer than an orgasm lasts, and more frequently too. Yeah it drives me nuts sometimes. Yeah it's hard to abstain from an orgasm, especially when you're being edged for ages and you know it would be a huge one. I have a really good sex life without orgasm. That may seem crazy, but it's true. I do have 1-2 Tantric non-ejaculatory orgasms a month, to keep things working. That lets our a bit of fluids and is very intense, but it's maybe half to one third of an orgasm, and minus the ejaculation contractions. By the time you're looking at one a year, what's the point? Focus on giving orgasms, and enjoying the sensations.

[Atone]

What if your wife (or partner) gave you the choice between cumming as much as you want for the next entire year and then never cumming again or only cumming once a year for the rest of your life? Which would you choose?

I have absolutely no desire to cum as much as I want for the next year so that isn't appealing to me. Not sure I would want to cum as often as once a year either though

I agree with Jedi, I *might* be ok with never cumming again but I like having the carrot hanging out there.

[TwistedMister]

I have absolutely no desire to give up orgasms permanently, I like them too much. Once a year would not be enough, but it would be more acceptable than 'never again', on a purely hypothetical relative basis. My 'limits' specify that 3 months is the longest orgasmless period (except under special 'penalty' conditions) but she has never been able to go that long, she likes fucking and cumming inside her- two months is the longest she has been able to go without it. Although she enjoys the changes that control and orgasm denial bring to our sex life, she isn't about to go without fucking.

As noted previously, orgasm is the 'carrot' that provides the motivation for other things (there is a 'stick' as well but she isn't very good at using it [yet], though that has been changing since she has discovered that it turns her on). A permanent denial of orgasm would cause the wheels to fall off the cart.

[Atone]

there is a 'stick' as well ...

yes, I prefer the 'stick' (and our stick is particularly nasty, link provided below) but I still want the carrot to be hanging out there even if it is just to remind me of what I don't have access to.


http://www.cane-iac.com/items/delrin-ca ... detail.htm

This is a great implement especially if your SO is a bit timid about inflicting pain. I am sure if my wife knew just how painful it is she would be reluctant to use it. It is also very quiet, at least as far as impact play goes.