First, I strongly believe that there are a myriad of ways to enjoy chastity in your life, and that the only wrong way to do it is to not enjoy it. With that said...
Does anyone here look at their chastity as a part of training and/or discipline?
My new g/f and keyholder and I are discussing a contract. And I'm looking for different ways that people might incorporate it in a D/s context. She really enjoys sex, as do I, and I don't think super long extended denial is an option, but that doesn't mean there can't be ways it could be used as a tool for training & discipline.
So, for those of you who do use it that way, how does it work for you? What positives and negatives have you found?
Chastity as a part of D/s training?
Chastity as a part of D/s training?
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
Must be the way you phrased it.
Or maybe it's because most of the members here aren't so much into the D/s aspects and hadn't thought about it.

Or maybe it's because most of the members here aren't so much into the D/s aspects and hadn't thought about it.
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
I had started a reply but abandoned it because it was taking too long, and I was running short of time. Then I got side-tracked.
Short(er) answer is yes, we do see/use it as apart of D/s 'training. Being let out for some stimulation/teasing is a small reward, eventual orgasm is a larger reward. The heightened arousal achieved through denial also lends itself to Pavlovian conditioning of an arousal response to actions/activities that may not [normally] be erotic, which increases the desire to repeat the activity as the arousal is pleasurable and is a reminder that the repetition will result in [eventual] reward.
Short(er) answer is yes, we do see/use it as apart of D/s 'training. Being let out for some stimulation/teasing is a small reward, eventual orgasm is a larger reward. The heightened arousal achieved through denial also lends itself to Pavlovian conditioning of an arousal response to actions/activities that may not [normally] be erotic, which increases the desire to repeat the activity as the arousal is pleasurable and is a reminder that the repetition will result in [eventual] reward.
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
Perhaps Mr. Allen, perhaps...Tom Allen wrote:Must be the way you phrased it.Or maybe it's because most of the members here aren't so much into the D/s aspects and hadn't thought about it.
Thanks TwistedMister, that's right along the lines of what I was hoping to hear from others.TwistedMister wrote:Short(er) answer is yes, we do see/use it as apart of D/s 'training. Being let out for some stimulation/teasing is a small reward, eventual orgasm is a larger reward. The heightened arousal achieved through denial also lends itself to Pavlovian conditioning of an arousal response to actions/activities that may not [normally] be erotic, which increases the desire to repeat the activity as the arousal is pleasurable and is a reminder that the repetition will result in [eventual] reward.
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
Sorry, I did read your post but didn't respond since you were looking for "how does it work for you". Bottom line is it doesn't work for us because we don't use it.Aarkey wrote:Does anyone here look at their chastity as a part of training and/or discipline?
So, for those of you who do use it that way, how does it work for you? What positives and negatives have you found?
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
That's 100% cool, and I totally get it.locked4her55 wrote:...didn't respond since you were looking for "how does it work for you". Bottom line is it doesn't work for us because we don't use it.
Just surprised that out of 150+ views, no one seemed to use it.
Either way, I believe there's no wrong way to incorporate chastity.
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Keep in mind that out of the 150+ views then (now at this writing its 292) only a fraction (members) could reply. I have a feeling there are a lot of people "looking in" on your thread that couldn't respond.
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
I live a D/s FLR with CQ and chastity (more over orgasm denial) is used as a control method, not so much a training method.
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Re: Chastity as a part of D/s training?
And the essence of 'training' is NOT 'control'?celticqueens_sub wrote:I live a D/s FLR with CQ and chastity (more over orgasm denial) is used as a control method, not so much a training method.


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