Re: New to male chastity key-holding ( help)

locked4her55 · Post by **locked4her55** » Wed Mar 06, 2013 8:43 am

Newbie123 wrote:Just really trying to find out some info on how to get out of my shell and become more accertive.

Sounds like you are doing a great job in listening to what your husband is feeling and taking these first few steps. He, like a lot of us here has thought about doing this for quite some time before springing it on our prospective keyholder. You are still adjusting and it will take time to get up to speed. For my wife and me it's a win-win situation but she will tell you (keeperof55 on the KH's side) that it took more than a few months to become adjusted to being a bit more assertive.

Post by **Newbie123** » Thu Mar 07, 2013 10:16 am

scott_848 wrote: I wonder if you could share how you "just found out about it a few weeks ago" was it something your husband brought up or something you stumbled upon?

Ok so the story is not a very romantic or exciting story but I think it was a perfect way to get this topic out there. A very subtle way. So it was a Saturday afternoon and I was supposed to be getting some house work done as that's what I try to do on saturdays but at the moment I did not feel like it so I grabbed a Pepsi and proceeded to sit Down in the recliner for a few min of down time after a busy morning of running the kids to activitys, grocery store visit and lunch out with the kids. All three kids were playing so quietly and good( I think we took the wrong kids home from mcdonals) which is very unlike them to give us any down time when we are home. So my hubby decided to sit down and talk with me. We spent the next hour just chatting- and not about the kids - after the hour was up we checked on the kids and I have figured we were lazy enough for the day we ended back up on the couch talking again.( for those of you who are not parents free time is heaven- the best Aphrodisiac for me anyways. And those that have kids know Exactly how I feel). This time chatting the topic of fantasys came up- not sure how but it did- I think my hubby was very sneaky getting the topic worked into the conversation- so he asked me if I had any fantasys and after some time thinking I said I don't think so- I am very vanilla and I guess what we already do is wonderful for me. Lol. I asked him if he had any and he said I don't know and started thinking and came up with a few very mild fantasys that I already knew about and then out of left field came male chastity. One I did not know that it excisted so I asked some questions about it and he had a lot of answers and a little while later when he asked How I felt about it I realized that we've been talking for a while about it and it didn't completely scare me and make me want to run out of the room screaming( Maybe it was all the free time I had I was already in such a relaxed state and like I said free time for me does not happen very often so that is something that can turn me on very easily). So I decided to excuse myself and do a little bit of research on my own although I did and still do think it is a little bit out there but I came to Realize that we are not the only ones playing out this fantasy. So later on that night after he put all three kids to bed He came into the room and again asked me how I felt about it. So after talking a little bit more and trying to understand why he would want me to be in control of his orgasms 100% we decided to start looking at devices. We came across the CB 6000 and since shipping costs are always so expensive to Canada we had come across a website that had free shipping so after more conversation about it I decided to let him go ahead and order it with the understanding that just because we ordered it does not mean that this will happen I would still need some time to think about it. So we talked more over the next week we did up a small contract with a one-month term to begin with and we are now into the first week and although it's a little bit of work on my part I am finding it very exciting. He is very much excited about it and happy that I have agreed to take this adventure with him he would like it to become a permanent lifestyle if I chose but we have decided to stick with the one month term and then discuss it after the one month we will go to a two month term after that We will go to a four month term and then we are decided that it will be a permanent lifestyle if it is something that I feel is comfortable with if I am not comfortable with that we can do another short-term. He is very accommodating in getting me accustomed to the whole idea and I am loving all The information that I am able to find from such wonderful people here it is making me a lot more comfortable with the fact that everybody else didn't just jump into this and know exactly what they were doing. So I guess that is my story it's not a very exciting one but I do feel that it took a lot of courage for him to tell me you've been sitting on this fantasy for three years and I guess has been trying to subtly tell me but it is just never quite Happened. I think the moment was perfect for him to tell me any other time and it might've just scared me off the topic.

conrad · Post by **conrad** » Thu Mar 07, 2013 10:43 am

good for you.... its a fun ride

..and as it seems you know that communication is key ... scuse the pun..
just buckle up and enjoy discovering a new way to love your guy

scott_848 · Post by **scott_848** » Fri Mar 08, 2013 8:05 am

Newbie
Thank you for your answer to my question. I enjoyed reading about how this happened for you and your husband. (all except the part about being a Pepsi drinker, myself being a lifelong Coca Cola drinker)
Hopefully in the near future a time when my wife seems receptive and a day when I have the courage to bring it up will converge as it did for you.
Thanks again

Post by **Newbie123** » Fri Mar 08, 2013 7:43 pm

scott_848 wrote:Newbie
Thank you for your answer to my question. I enjoyed reading about how this happened for you and your husband. (all except the part about being a Pepsi drinker, myself being a lifelong Coca Cola drinker)
Hopefully in the near future a time when my wife seems receptive and a day when I have the courage to bring it up will converge as it did for you.
Thanks again

First off --coke yuck - Pepsi is soooo much better you should join me in drinking something that has actual taste

Second- I hope that you have the right moment sometime in the near future to talk to ur wife about male chastity. I know that it took my hubby 3 years and for him the right moment that he found was a good one. Hopefully yours is too and I hope she is receptive to the idea and willing to try even if only for a short time.

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