Does a Ruined Orgasm "Count"

[sherulestherooster]

My wife teases me about a ruined orgasm "counting". I don't think they really do. I unfortunately am getting to the point where my refractory period is noticeably longer, but when she ruins an orgasm, I stay fully erect and can go on. She has thought about trying to go for either another ruined orgasm or a full one after that but we haven't tried that yet.

When she ruins it, I fell a little bit of relief, I think from the accumulated fluids being flushed out but I don't have the drop in submissive feelings that I get with a complete orgasm. In fact, the dominance of her stopping just short of a complete orgasm makes me feel even more submissive. Ruining my orgasms is something my wife finds amusing and she will usually verbally tease me about my "release". She enjoys watching my cock flail around helplessly during the "ejaculation". I'm glad I provide amusement to her.

sherulestherooster

[Tom Allen]

It's interesting to see that "ruining" isn't the same for everyone, nor are all guys affected the same way.

Tom, how does that strap on work while wearing the cage? I mean you wear both at the same time? Is there a link for that?

Yes, I'm wearing the device and the strapon at the same time.

I've got a little about how we got into it here.

Somewhere around here I've got links to what we bought. Wait, here's one.

My wife likes to ruin them by squeezing me at the last second. It's odd because I look forward to it each time ... right up to the moment she does it. Then I'm pretty upset for a few minutes , but my libido bounces back quickly because I haven't gotten it all out of my system.

[Finn]

Our guideline is that if it gives relief, then it counts. We used to allow "accidents" as long as I squeezed the pc muscle and didnt leak too much. Now we stop stimulation earlier so there's no chance of getting relief. I do get 2 ruined orgasms a month, and the relief varies depending on what % of an orgasm happens during the ejaculation. In many ways, I hate not having any relief, but at the same time, I look forward to putting the strap-on on, and having sex with my wife, more than I have in years. Making it kinky and denying me vaginal contact or orgasm makes it exciting, and I crave it far more than I ever did with regular sex. The important thing is that my wife enjoys the extra attention and amount of sex, so in the long run, it's worth the extra degree of frustration that comes from the extra degree of denial.