How important is PIV sex (to you)?

[fuzzydunlop]

My wife and I have flirted with T&D our whole relationship (we've been together almost 15 years), but the first time we went longer than two weeks with MC was when she felt poorly for an extended period of time. She seemed to like that I was abstaining, though I couldn't exactly figure out why, as it wasn't very sexual for her, and sometimes it felt a bit asexual. Her drive has slowly rebounded this time, and we are playing with MC again, although PIV doesn't seem to be as highly important as it once was. I think we used to feel more validated with it.

Celtic Queen---I have read some of the same stuff, and there are people who have the goal of penetration without orgasm for this reason.

[Tom Allen]

When I was 20 PIV was very important. Now, not so much. All penetrative sex is different but it is all good. If KH said no more PIV but PIM or PIH is still a possibility then I could live with that.

I think that the reason I can live with strapon PIV* is that it still allows a sense of whole-body closeness. While I enjoy PIM*, it often feels a bit remote, so I actually prefer PIH* because my wife usually lays up next to me. The sensuality of being nakedly close is what makes things "work" for me.

* Dev, I can not believe that you didn't know these terms, or at least, didn't spend a half hour Googling around for them.

[Dev]

* Dev, I can not believe that you didn't know these terms, or at least, didn't spend a half hour Googling around for them.

I am actually trying to get some work done here today! LOL.

I googled for 3 minutes and came up with Personal Information Manager and Pregnancy Induced Hypertension. Nothing sexual, so I figured it was time to get God's Deputy to give me a hand.

PIM, penetration in mouth, aka, blowjob?

PIH, penetration in hand, aka, handjob?

Or am I totally missing something here...???

D

[Tom Allen]

Or am I totally missing something here...???
D

P = Penis

Penetration was a good guess, though.

[Dev]

P = Penis

Penetration was a good guess, though.

As I have said before, most of the time it *is* all about me so naturally I would think of penetration (what happens to me) vs. penis (what you have).

The Czarina Devarina

[Belle]

Dev, thank you. I was totally lost.

[poinciana]

Not really that important to me any more; there are so many other choices...

But my wife prefers to orgasm with me inside her. She also prefers me to ejaculate outside of her, usually by her hand. That creates a kind of conflict, I guess, but I'm lucky enough to be able to control myself and not ejaculate when she comes. We're working on ejaculating on command, but accidents do happen. She doesn't mind so much, because she is always first to orgasm.

The disappointment is mine, because I prefer her handjob the most, especially if I'm tied.

[kpb57]

For my wife, very important. Her most intensive orgasms come when she's on top, riding me and sets the pace. And from those, the best are the ones where we manage to climax together, because I get extra long and warm, which intensifies her feelings.
For me, also very important, because we are able to bring her to climax even if I am leading.
My most intensive orgasms have come from her hands, though. There she is able to keep me "high" for quite some time and then release me into something that feels like an explosion right between my ears, leaving me shivering, drained, totally relaxed.

[michaelnmelissa]

Melissa is not a huge fan of receiving oral. In fact, she actually likes giving more than receiving. More often than not she'd rather I use my hand while lying next to her.

Penetration is important to her and to me. Funny thing is, we're having just as much penetrative sex now as we did before MC. Maybe every three weeks or so. Most times I am not allowed to orgasm while we're doing it though.

She enjoys other ways of being penetrated too, so my cock is not absolutely needed by her though she does like it best. We enjoy using my fingers, my fist, and our new glass dildo.

As she said to me the last time she allowed me inside:

"I've had your fingers inside me...and your fist...and the dildo...but nothing beats your cock!"

Michael

[fuzzydunlop]

So if a wife/partner really enjoys penis-in-vagina penetration, does that create any conflict over chastity? Can it balance out as quality versus frequency issue?