sub_67 wrote:Hello world,
This time last year i had no interest in chastity.
In March last year i meet a Domme and now i'm starting to think about going ubder Her control.
Its just such a large step, and i really don't want to fail Her.
So i thought maybe i could do a little research here first, before bring it up with Her.
So any advice or tips on how if feels once you into chastity would be good.
Do you live with the Domme, just dating, or just see her occasionally?
No one can tell you how you are going to feel about being in chastity. I love it. I am sure most people where would say that. But then, you are not getting a very broad sample when you ask here, as we are all here because we do like it.
If you are not currently living with this domme then I would recommend that you buy a device and try it out. There are some issues with being locked up, and you may discover that is just isn't for you. If your primary objective is to not disappoint your domme, then you would be better off establishing that you can live with this before you bring it up!
You mentioned that you don't want to fail her. What is it that you are concerned about? That you would cheat, have sex with another woman? Or that you would simply masturbate without permission? Does she currently control your orgasms?
I started down this road by simply havng my wife take control of my masterbation and orgasms. I was on the honor system, and she would occasionally ask me if I had "been good". Well, there were times that I hadn't and then I was punished. She took the punishments seriously, and didn't use something that I would in fact enjoy, such as a spanking. It usually was corner time (up to four hours at a stretch) and control of my alcohol consumptin (there was one weekend at the inlaws where I wasn't allowed to drink at all, that just about killed me!)
I brought up the idea of a chastity device, more for my own benefit than anything. The barrier reinforces the basic will power, and while I am wearing I can be "good". Wearing the chastity device results in a lot less corner time and a lot more beer!
There are down sides to wearing. Almost every night I wake up with an attempted nocturnal erection, which is often painful. I get pinched at random times. I have to sit to urinate. Ceratain activites, such as working on the car, tend to put me in a position where I can really get pinched!
But all in all, I prefer being locked up. My wife doesn't keep me locked all the time, it comes and goes, but when I am locked I am much happier.
As I mentioned above, I would recommend that you obtain a suitable device and experiment. If your domme is already controlling your orgasms then using a chastity device is not that big of a step, other than the discomfort. But if you haven't been denied before, it could be a big step.
The first time you wear it over night, keep the key handy. If there is a few day stretch where you won't be seeing your Domme, lock yourself up and put the key where it is inconvienent to get it (leave it at work, for example). See how you do.
If you can wear it for a few days straight without any issues, then introduce it to your domme. On the other hand, if you can't stand it and are driving to work to get the key at 2:00 AM, well, you might want to put it away and steer clear of it!
Ron
We where alone, sans kids, that day and I gave him a few spanks on his bottom, nothing really hard. I was surprised how hard he got at once. I just needed to mention a hairbrush or spatula that day and he would immediately spring to attention. 
