Male chastity & Excessive Masturbation

[biggar]

Although I wasn't an excessive masturbator I did enjoy it! Remember all most us guys know we learned by hand!! I definitely don't get to masturbate anymore!

[Tom Allen]

Not only do I not have excessive masturbation issues; over the years I've been amazed at the number of men who claim to have a problem. With various kids running around the house, work, social activities, etc., how the hell do y'all find the time to wank several times a day?

Tom, Me thinks you are spending too much time moderating this Forum. You need to get into the closet more often.

Interestingly, even when I'm not locked I try to refrain from doing it because we (generally) have an agreement that I need her permission to come. So, between that and not having any time to actually do it, I rarely have an opportunity to take advantage of (ended sentence with a preposition). But I'm still amazed that so many of y'all actually *have* those opportunities.

[locked4her55]

Not only do I not have excessive masturbation issues; over the years I've been amazed at the number of men who claim to have a problem. With various kids running around the house, work, social activities, etc., how the hell do y'all find the time to wank several times a day?

Tom, Me thinks you are spending too much time moderating this Forum. You need to get into the closet more often.

Interestingly, even when I'm not locked I try to refrain from doing it because we (generally) have an agreement that I need her permission to come. So, between that and not having any time to actually do it, I rarely have an opportunity to take advantage of (ended sentence with a preposition). But I'm still amazed that so many of y'all actually *have* those opportunities.

Permission is also now needed for me too, but before chastity I would masturbate almost daily. In the early days of MC I would sometimes search the house for a key so I could "get myself off". Now it's a different story. Last week I accidently came across "the key" and my wife wasn't home. Would have been very easy to "take care of business". Instead I just told her when she got home that she needed to find a new hiding spot. We are both very vested in this lifestyle.

[kept4her]

One of the main thoughts that had me interested in chastity was to refrain from my masturbation. With work and kids, social life I can easily tell you how it can be done.

First thing in the morning when I got up at 5:3-6am no one awake, Quick wank on the toilet before my shower.

(Sad to admit this) Quick lunch break and some pictures in the company private bathroom (have one that is only for one person at a time).

At home shortly after getting in,"Dad has to poop, leave me alone" always worked for a quick one.

Last, would go to bed right after the kids, wife stays up a bit winding down from the day.

So on a average day, 3 times easy. on a light day, twice at the min and on a heavy day, would go 4-5 .. Sometimes wife would not come to bed as quick as I thought and would get one more in before bed and a second during the evening if kids went to play at a friends house.

I think masturbating that much caused me to not really worry about my wife and sex because I could just get a quick release and was done. Also I found that because I did masturbate so much I had performance issues with my wife. I would have to really focus and use really wild fantasies because I would cook up some wild ones for masturbation.

With chastity and the delays between releases being a average of 30 days, I have no issues now and in fact, have to focus on not cumming too fast...

[TwistedMister]

I think masturbating that much caused me to not really worry about my wife and sex because I could just get a quick release and was done. Also I found that because I did masturbate so much I had performance issues with my wife. I would have to really focus and use really wild fantasies because I would cook up some wild ones for masturbation.

With chastity and the delays between releases being a average of 30 days, I have no issues now and in fact, have to focus on not cumming too fast...

I didn't do it quite as often, once a day or every couple of days was usually good enough for me, but it certainly was much easier than going to the effort of making nice with the Mrs. Funny, how that works. When younger, you wank and fantasize about being able to 'do it' with a chick, but when you get older and married (or live together long-term) and it's 'always available' it becomes easier to just wank [and maybe fantasize about something else].

I didn't have 'performance issues' so much as simply a lack of interest when she wanted to get frisky, then I would get angry (mostly at myself) if she persisted, which would cause friction and discontent. Although I didn't realize it at the time, she no doubt felt rejected and that my anger was because of something she had done, and she must have been very confused. She is the type who has a habit of trying to make other people happy, including me, and very likely couldn't understand just what it was that she was doing 'wrong'.

[RegularJoe]

Maybe that's why I may not really be a good 'fit' (no pun intended) for continuous CD wear; I never was much of a wanker....and as I got older it really became a non-issue because I can barely keep up (without viagra or cialis to shorten the refractoy period) with my wife's very aggressive sexual demands. If she's not enjoying my cock she's enjoying my oral servitude....and often gets herself off with one of her toys between those points. She much enjoys feeding me a juicy snowball or creampie....so she needs to keep my supply of cum readily available.

We were attracted to the thought of a CD as an interesting tool for her to use for my sexual humiliation.....but I'm certain she'd have me out of it most nights (and most weekends) so she can ride my cock or (when she's in the mood to tease and deny) suck and otherwise stimulate my weary member to near orgasm. She really enjoys keeping me under maximum arousal (but not at the expense of her own sexual gratification).

[finallyhappy]

Exactly why I quick. Way too much negative impact on the relationships.

[danj]

I get annoyed at myself when I cum without permission. After close to a 3 week lock-up, I was allowed to cum inside my wife. She had me lock up soon after. Okay, so all is well and good. Then she let me out maybe 3 days later for another orgasm with her hand. Very good one, usually my second after a few weeks is better than the first. Now the problem. She didn't have me go back into the device, and sure enough the next day I'm crazy horny again and home alone for a couple of hours, and you know what happened. All is well when I'm locked, but I can't seem to resist the temptation if I'm out of the device.

It's not the end of the world to either of us, but I do wish I had more self control when I'm not caged. I always feel a little bad when I jerk-off without her permission. I guess I know what I need to work on, and need to remind her to try to keep me in the device when she isn't around.

[Finn]

I have been out of my CB for a bit after some testicle and skin irritation/inflammation. We did decide as a group is that I would give up masturbation and orgasms permanently, regardless of being in chastity. With my wife, we have regular sex, but it's all focused on her orgasm, and it's done once she;s done. I go soft and am not allowed to touch myself after. With Cherry, our house-mate and my pet/sub, I am usually in chastity for kinky time. Once a week or so, she edges me (and reminds me that this is her job now) over and over for 30 minutes or so. If I get to close to orgasm we stop or I use the Tantric pc muscle method to stop any orgasm from happening. Sometimes semen will leak out, just from edging, sometimes we get to the tipping point of an orgasm, which I suppress, and try to allow a bit of semen leakage at the end, without an actual ejaculation. Cherry's job in the house is to make sure I stick to my promise and administer penance if I slip up. The big benefit of going masturbation and orgasm-less is that everything is heightened physically, in terms of sensation, and mentally in terms of arousal and eagerness. It's really picked up my sex life with my wife (who doesn't like semen, which is apart of why we've been dong Tantric for over a decade) which is great. Masturbation, and my mental wiring for kink can make sex less exciting after 20 years, so I'm really pleased with the results. With my girl, it's limited what we do sexually, but increased the intensity of what we still do. Mentally, I now tend to crave giving, over having an orgasm when I'm aroused, and the feeling of "sharing" in the ones I give is wonderful. Knowing that I wont have one of my own is the most arousing thing I have experienced. Now that I havent masturbated since early July, I find that watching masturbation, has become extra hot. Knowing that both the women in the house are masturbating, and have forbidden me to do so is amazingly hot!

[RegularJoe]

Though my wife certainly demands a steady of my cum via regular orgasms (which I enjoy immensely)...I very much savor the times she sends me out of the house so she can pleasure herself with her toys...and when I'm finally summoned (desperately hoping that she's needing some oral 'assistance) only to find her completely relaxed and satisfied (and now fully clothed) and the toys left displayed on the bed with the firm expectation that I lick them clean of her juices before they're sanitized and set up for recharge. At that time my arousal, humiliation, and disappointment are incredibly palpable...the smell of sex, but no release, pervades the bedroom and my mind.

There's just something so erotically humiliating about her deliberate denial of my pleasure (despite her constant efforts to keep me aroused)....when it's contrasted with her absolute right of unfettered pleasure. She enjoys my sexual frustration (though it's rather short-lived compared to chaste periods many of you experience). I don't understand why it's so stimulating....I suppose that's the way of most fetishes....we haven't much of a clue how it began....and if we did understand it probably wouldn't change anything anyway.

I have probably given the impression, from my postings, that my wife is always a cruel mistress (and indeed, she can be that) but she is very often one of the sweetest and most affectionate women I've ever met. Perhaps her ability to tap some very deep and primal sexual energies is what has kept a long marriage so rewarding.