Can chastity cure sex difficulty?

[latex_chastity_slave]

Hello

I am twenty something only. I've been massively jerking since I was 13 and a few years ago when I got my first girl friend I was not able to have sex with her although she was my dream girl, I had sex with her several times and could never reach my orgasm. Now, after 5 years I have dated several girls but I still can't reach orgasm, so, not to mention ejecuation. Now I still love to masturbate but I've reduced. The situation doesn't seem to have improved. I would like to know if a chastity belt would help. For example, locking my small thing up for a long period of time then release it. Go to have sex. Will it help?

[wspony]

I am not sure that is a solution, you could test this theory by simply not jerking off for some time before having sex.

I would say, that when it works when you are jerking off, then it is simply a problem of your mind. Do you use specific images for your fantasy when masturbating or do you get off by normal porn?

When I was new to sex I too had a phase where it was very hard for me to get off. The first time it happened I was drunk. The second time all I could do was think about the first time and that it had to work now and of course it did not work ... and so it was a spiral of self-induced-pressure and compulsion of having to have an orgasm at a specific moment... I could not even concentrate on the pleasure I was experiencing because I was fearing that I would not come again... which of course always happened then...

I broke that devils-circle by stopping to care... as hard as it might sound, I stopped to pressure myself. Find if I had an orgasm, if not I would just masturbate. Guess what, the moment I made this thought clear to myself I had no more problems having sex ... so easy a solution and yet so hard to really let go ...

Why not try something when you are together with a girl. After having sex a bit and if you feel you are under pressure again, why not masturbate while she and you are together? ... touch yourself while she caresses you ... I would think if that works soon you would enjoy her masturbating you and then sex should work as well ...

[Mike1979]

I had this issue as well. Even to this day. When my wife and I have sex. I rarely orgasm from her. I usually end up masturbating with her talking to me. With that being said . When I stop jacking off, it makes it easier to orgasm. But she mows how to hit the right buttons. Also the proper dirty talk gets me going as well. She is very good at verbally expressing my fantasies to me. If I was to sleep with another woman, I probably wouldn't get a orgasm. It seems I am with the one woman that knows how to properly motivate me in bed.

[Anymouse]

Masturbation has a tendency to kill off orgasms. Were you to reduce (or eliminate, I know, hard, but not as hard as quitting smoking) such activity, things might (no guarantee) change.

There are those who claim there is such a disorder as "sex addiction." I don't know. I do know that if anything is so important to you it overwhelms other important things in your life, you should look at changing behaviours. I am not trying to go all Victorian here, but there is "too much of a good thing" including self-pleasure.

There is a certain advantage in chastity - you don't get to do that. One solution you might try if you are alone which has been suggested previously here: take your key and freeze it in a bowl of water in the freezer. You really gotta want to have that device off to get the key then; it makes you think if that is what you really want.

[Harry Haversackers]

One of the several reasons I suggested chastity to my wife was to stop masturbating, because it seemed to be having a negative affect on my desire to have sex with my wife. I'm older, 60+, and have some ED problems due to meds and medical issues. Being kept locked and denied hasn't resolved the ED problem(Viagra is great stuff, for me if really works well), but it sure has hell sparked my libido. I'm horny all the time, and it feels wonderful!