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[horserider4]

Saturday morning I was doing my weekend duties. I do almost all my cleaning which I like to do naked. Feels free, I have been locked up for 2 plus weeks. Around 11 am the door bell rings and my GF who was upstairs asked me to answer. I reminded her I was naked and she said just answer it. It was her 2 girlfriends. Well I answered and kind of hid behind the door. Did not last long. Mr GF came downstairs and asked be to show myself. i was very embarrased, The 2 girls just were i guess in shock for about 2 minutes and they they wanted to know everything. They looked very close and even touched me. You can imanige how horny I was getting.This went on for about 2 hours and then they left. My GF then wanted oral sex and I had not released. I was very upset and expressed my feelings. Which only made her tell me i would be locked up much longer.
My question is should I ask her never to do that again or better off shutting up?

[Hercock]

Depends on what your chastity is all about, for instance my wife is not interested in turning me into a sissy or Humiliating me, she keeps me locked 24/7 simply for her pleasure and hers alone.
There is no rules to earn release, its just down to my wifes whim.

[TwistedMister]

It sounds like it turned you on, but...are you *seriously* disturbed by it? Do you *really* not want such a thing to happen again? If so, then it is time for a 'time out' and a serious discussion about rules and Limits.

In my opinion, D/s play should always be preceded by a discussion of limits- hard limits (absolute no-go) and 'soft' limits (limits that may be pushed under certain circumstances but subject to a 'safe word' to end the play if it becomes physically or mentally intolerable).

[Tom Allen]

So, horserider, you and your wife have a relationship in which it is okay for at least one of you to indulge in non-consensual humiliation, is that what you're saying? And that you involve others in this?

[Linus]

Depends on what your chastity is all about, for instance my wife is not interested in turning me into a sissy or Humiliating me, she keeps me locked 24/7 simply for her pleasure and hers alone.
There is no rules to earn release, its just down to my wifes whim.

Same here. My MC lifestyle is only & only for the two of us.

[finallyhappy]

Me, myself I could care less who knows. But to spring something like that to a partner in my relationship on either side of the equation is simply and totally wrong.

That being said, you opened the door. You clearly wanted to have it happen. You are submissive and want to be dominated so what are you whining about. If you are not, then grow a sack and have a frank discussion about limits.

[celticqueens_sub]

Harsh, but fair! Limits are very important to aid in understanding and communication.

[finallyhappy]

Harsh, but fair! Limits are very important to aid in understanding and communication.

I do apologize if it came off unduly harsh. But two people have to be in sync with other in terms of expectations and results.

Every few months I ask the gf what is working for you and what is not? And I share my thoughts as well. It's a two way street. And if humiliation is part of their rules then that is their business. But don't whine about it either. Unless you are looking for some second hand sympathy thrill.

[celticqueens_sub]

Harsh, but fair! Limits are very important to aid in understanding and communication.

I do apologize if it came off unduly harsh. But two people have to be in sync with other in terms of expectations and results.

Every few months I ask the gf what is working for you and what is not? And I share my thoughts as well. It's a two way street. And if humiliation is part of their rules then that is their business. But don't whine about it either. Unless you are looking for some second hand sympathy thrill.

Spot on from my view point, ya gotta talk about it..