Prostatic Orgasm?

[wspony]

Hey everyone,

there is something I have been wondering about for a while.

I myself am locked away now since nearly two weeks and it is really getting harder for me. My KH is not the tease type of person so mostly it is just denial for me. I have the habit of torturing myself a little bit by looking at nice images (knowing I will get aroused, but can not get off) ... I also started playing with myself with dildos and plugs to give myself some pleasure. Reading all that stuff about milking etc. I thought I would try that to relieve some of my constant arousal...

During my research I came across various stuff like Prostate Massagers, Aneros and Nexus etc. they all claim that with them it is possible to archive a hands free orgasm just by stimulating the prostate and perineum area.

I wonder if this is really possible and if so, why not more men in chastity use something like this If this really allows for a fulfilling orgasm it definitely is a "security leak" *G* ...

So the question to everyone. Have you ever experienced a prostatic orgasm without touching your manhood? ... and if so ... was it comparable to a normal orgasm?

[Whizbang]

I recently wrote a pretty long post about this, but it might be more detail than you care to know http://www.chastityforums.com/viewtopic ... 380#p33380

The dirty little secret of chastity devices is that, for the most part, they're defeatable. Determined folks can get out; others can orgasm even while locked up. Device-aided prostatic stimulation really just becomes another way to circumvent the system. But if you're really grooving on the chastity bit and the sensations it gives you, then why would you deliberately decide to send yourself into that post-orgasm doldrums?

Since switching devices, I haven't had a prostatic orgasm, despite being very keyed up and having no lack of stimulation from my partner. So while I've cum from prostatic stimulation before, another part of it is the result of stimulation of other erogenous zones, including the largest zone: the brain.

A chastity device is acts both as a barrier--if I'm surfing the Web, it acts as enough of a retardant that I'm unlikely to get too carried away--and a stimulant. There's just some kinky part of me that gets off on having my sex caged up and under the control of my partner. My partner, in fact, gives me explicit permission to, if I'm feeling particularly frustrated, to go find a toy and have some fun. I occasionally will do so, but only if I'm feeling my willpower is particularly strong that day.

In terms of the devices you specifically mention, I have an Aneros, but I don't really like it much. The device is hard plastic and the base has a couple of tabs that dig into one's perineum in a rather unpleasant fashion. Online reviews had talked about it being "OMG, big!" but when I received it, it was frankly underwhelming. But I have a lot more experience than the average straight guy.

Honestly, the best sort of orgasm, prostatic or not, is one shared with a playmate. So if you find you can use a prostate massager to self-pleasure yourself to orgasm, then fine, but isn't it more fun to play with a friend? Sharing is caring.

[Blaeu]

I have an Aneros, a few dildos (bought mainly for my wife) and my thumb... I've tried them all and have never had more than a moment of "oooo, that's nice." Chastity or not, for the life of me I cannot find a single pleasurable thing about sticking anything in my ass, and I've tried (and will try again).

To the TC, from my experience and from what I've read, it seems some people have an easy time experiencing pleasure while others have a harder time. Nothing keeping you from trying though. If you do find a way to orgasm while locked up, then you'll know for sure whether it is worth it or not.

To anyone else (and TC if he succeeds), any tips and feeling the pleasure with anal insertion?

[Atone]

for the life of me I cannot find a single pleasurable thing about sticking anything in my ass, and I've tried (and will try again).

That is too funny.

I have to say that I can understand it though.

[Sir Chaste]

I guess that some people are only concerned with "the end result!"

[wspony]

Such a misunderstanding again. This is not about cheating in your dedication to your KH or defeating your device. I just was curious if ppl. did experience pleasure by stimulating their prostate while inside a device. And reading about those "prostate" massage tools and their claim to enable hands-free style orgasm of course I was combining that statement with the chastity lifestyle And of course it is a lot more fun to play with your KH and partner

@Blaeu: Well, it is hard to give instructions for feeling anal pleasure. I guess it has to do a LOT with your head. If you feel that sticking something up your bum is wrong then it might not be easy to experience pleasure. Personally I have always enjoyed anal-stimulation. In fact since I was around 15 or something I fooled around with various stuff. I think the best result for beginning you might get with a vibrating plug style of toy. It is very important that you relax and if you tense up or press too hard on your prostate you will experience either the urge to go to the toilet or pee... or feel all raw and painful. The in-out fucking motion is only pleasurable when you are totally relaxed and in state of mind. By using a simple butt-plug you can stimulate a lot of structures and you can relax and take your time. You could leave the toy in and stimulate your penis (if free ) ...

By the way, I tried a Nexus Titus (http://www.nexusprostatemassagers.com/) yesterday. It indeed sits on your prostate and the metal ball on your perineum. Squeezing your muscles does move it a bit. I played around for half an hour but it was not even close to any edge It felt quite good but since I played around the last days I did not produce much liquid anymore. I might try again after some more lockup time to see if this tool can be used for self-milking

[LockedUpNewb]

I've typed and re-typed this 4 times now. I'm having trouble putting my thoughts into words that flow and make sense. So, I'm just going to post this and let y'all read it.

WARNING, the following words are graphic descriptions of anal play that my wife and I engage in. So if you don't want to read about that, might want to hit the back button.

I think you either like anal stimulation, or you don't. I do. I still struggle with embarrassment about it. I guess I can't get over the societal "gay" stigma associated with men and anal sex. I'm not gay or bisexual at all. The thought of being naked around another man is revolting to me. My wife indulges my anal fetish about once a month. She used to joke with me about being gay, but I had a heart-to-heart with her about it and explained that those types of comments were very hard for me to deal with, since I struggle with the fact that I enjoy stuffing things up my ass and the whole society stigma. She was understanding and has never made another comment of that nature. She just switched her teasing and verbal humiliation to other things related to a guy sticking things up his ass.

My fetish started when I was a teenager. I would insert various cylindrical objects into my ass and masturbate. I never had the guts to ask any of the girls I dated in my teens and early 20's to engage in anal play. I met my wife when I was 28. After about 6-8 months of discovering our kinky side together, I finally felt comfortable enough to ask her if she would use a dildo or strapon with me. She practically left a vapor trail, speeding like a maniac, to the adult toy store to buy one. We went home and had our first anal encounter with me being on the receiving end.

It's been a downhill slide into debachery since then.

Somebody mentioned that thrusting can be irritating. It certainly can be. I find it's better to start with a small dildo and go very slowly. Initially, thrusting shouldn't even be considered. We just focus on slowly inserting and lubing until I am VERY relaxed. It can take anwhere from half hour to an hour of slowly stretching with progressively larger and larger dildos before I am relaxed enough to enjoy any thrusting. My wife has learned over the years that I enjoy the strecthing and the feeling of fullness more than any vigorous thrusting. I don't mind slow/medium thrusting with a medium dildo - 2" diameter or less, but my wife can rarely stop there. She always has to "go for the gold" so to speak, and work me up to one of the largest in our collection, then pound the hell out of me. I like being stretched with dildos up to 2.75" diameter, but she gets off watching me go batshit when she thrusts a large dildo into me hard and fast. I don't really like being pounded hard and fast with a 2.75" dildo, but the flip side, is that will almost always cause me to have an explosive orgasm and shoot 3 or 4 feet into the air. So, it's sort of a catch 22 for me. She enjoys "destroying" my ass with a big dildo and heavy thrusting. I don't really like it, but I love the orgasm. We don't do that every time. Some times, I just can't take that much, since we only do this once a month or sometimes it's 2 months between these sessions. Thats a long time to recover from the last time, so I'm not loose/relaxed and ready to go for the largest toy in our collection every time. Sometimes a 2" diameter dildo is all I can stand. I'll admit that I do kinda like it when she works me up to the largest in our collection and pounds the living daylights out of me. I think I just enjoy the power exchange - I like being 'taken' and abused for her pleasure. And believe me, when a woman is pounding the hell out of you with a 12" long x 2.75" diameter dildo - you feel abused. I'm almost always securely tied up and unable to wiggle away or escape. I can't help feeling guilty and sorta dirty about it later. Mentally, it just feels wrong. I'm a guy and guys aren't supposed to like that kind of stuff. But physically I don't have the will power to say "no" when she suggests a night of anal play and threatens to pound the hell out of me.

We always use TONS of lube. I prefer J-Lube because it can be mixed to any consistency you desire, and it's extremely slippery. You can shake powdered J-Lube onto toys and then spritz them with water. That will provide very good lubrication because the lubricant sticks to the toys much better that way. Use that technique in combination with a squeeze bottle of lube already mixed with water.

Hope that wasn't too graphic or TMI for very many of you.

[TwistedMister]

Too graphic? Here? This ain't Catechism class. LOL.

I understand perfectly. Mrs. Twisted hasn't really gotten into this sort of thing though, I think she has a bit of a hang-up on ass-play being 'dirty'...but in the past I've gone there a little with her on the receiving end and it drives her absolutely wild, she won't admit out loud that she likes it.

I have a hang-up about the "guys aren't supposed to like it" thing too...but that doesn't stop me from having the occasional fantasy of being bound in a humiliatingly vulnerable position while the Mistress directs a 'gang-bang'. I think it's the 'taboo' factor- it's erotic because it's 'wrong'.

[locked4her55]

LockedUpNewb:

I have to admit when I read your post I thought you were going to say your wife left a vapor trail as she headed out the door for good. I was happy to hear it was to go to the "Toy Store".

Your post didn't offend me in the least. I'm not into anal play now but I don't look down on anyone who does engage. I'm not gay, and I agree that having sex with another male is a turn off. Maybe a little anal play in the future could be some what "stimulating" in moderation.

I guess you just never know how your partner is going to react.

[wspony]

Nice that my thread finds some attention Although it has diverged a bit from prostatic orgasm and toys to a discussion about anal play in general. I like that though...

My KH has never played anal games with me (yet). She says she wants to do stuff and once a month or two back she even touched me there (no insertions, just touching) with a vibrator (drove me nuts!). I think we will progress there. Slowly but steadily and once she sees there are no stains all over the bed she will find it not as horrible as she might imagine. She too comes from a very vanilla kind of sex-life and my admittance to all those fetishes and fantasies was a shock for her. Anyway, my coming-out to her opened her mind and made her think about a lot of things she thought strange before. Funny enough, some time after this her best friend told her she likes anal play together with her BF too

I am not gay myself, although I own a penis-gag and dildos and stuff. I think this is a head-cinema thing. The thought of bedding a men is nothing revolting for me. However I don't feel any non-erotic loving sharing feelings toward the male gender. It is more sexually oriented and when fantasizing about it usually I am all tied up and "forced" LOL ... what a typical sub-bondage type of fantasy Perhaps this is somewhat Bi, I don't know and don't care in what drawer I am stuffed. Social stigmatas? Well ... who cares ... I like what I like about my pleasure and that's it Call me gay, bi, or whatever you like ... I am having fun