hi her pet
I 'm also new to this forum, and finding this forum a great real life resource!
You post a very familiar story, it sounds all very recognisable. I’m almost on the same path as you. Only you just got yourself your first moth of denial, congratulations on that!
I’m still on a self managed honour system, I try not to orgasm in between sexual activities and sometimes I tell my wife that I prefer not to climax. First she found it strange, not in the perv way, it was more a mindset, she literally said: “I thought boys always wanted to cum?”. She is now getting used to that I withhold myself sometimes.
I started to look on the internet about these experiences. I new about chastity devices but thought it was more of a kink thing. Now knowing more I (think to) understand the concept behind it. The idea to introduce some form of male chastity in my relationship has been feeding my imagination. And when the time is right I want to see if we can take it a bit further than the voluntary and informal honour system I’m now implying on myself. But if this will lead to actually wear a device I still don’t now, I would like that to explore with my wife to see what fits us.
But your question was resources/science, well you seem to have found some already. I will point out some resources that I have found helpful. Sorry if some are already discussed here on the forum and I repeating things already pointed out by others.
The article you are referring to comes from the site
http://www.reuniting.info although most of the research they base their ideas on is carried out on men they state that the “negative” results of orgasming also affect women. But they also state on their main science page:
“There's much still to learn, but it looks like a number of reward circuitry events occur after climax that have the potential to desensitize us for a time…. Anecdotal evidence suggests that such changes affect both sexes.”
Blogger Kelmag wrote a very interesting item on his blog called “Male Chastity - Pleasure and Devotion, the Science Behind It” The link to article is on this forum treat
http://www.chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=18337
That’s for the science, in general terms I found the following also of interest.
I realy like the “A Married Woman's Guide to a happier more fulfilling relationship” posted on
http://toy4her.wordpress.com/ It is about vanilla chastity on a honour system, I can’t remember having heard the word chastity mentioned in the whole article. It is written from a woman’s perspective. I want to use this article to show to my wife when the time is right to discus how to take this further for us. For the Dutch readers, there is an excellent translation on
http://www.ragnelle.com.
Another great resource is
http://www.devotionalsex.com the author of this site developed a complete concept of the female controlling the male’s erotic energy by determining when the male can ejaculate and what sexual activity will take place. The concept has been discussed here also
http://www.chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=12588. You better go check it out yourself, it is to much to explain, it is great reading, real life and very inspirational. You can spend a few hours reading.
fifth language? 
