what do i want from this?

[trying]

I'm sure many of you can identify with this, I'm going to ramble a bit.
Got a cb6k about 2 years ago. Played with it, enjoyed the feeling and the focus it gave me. Slowly showed it to my fiance who was very interested in it. She started holding her keys and all was well, we played about a few times a month, nothing serious. Could not get used to sleeping in it though, the old problem you all k
Then we became pregnant and from my part I didn't want any sex. Just felt like it was wrong, she was carrying out baby and I didn't want to put it at any risk.
So now, the baby is here and we want to have sex again, naturally. the thing is i have become quite used to helping myself. I don't want to, but I do. So I'm thinking that the cb can help things.

However. This means admitting what I'm doing. And her having the keys from day 1. Straight back in for God knows how long? Sounds a great fantasy but I can't do it. I love cycling and the cb didn't work with bikes full stop.

So today, as a small trial, I'm back in. Maybe only till lunch time, but a definite start. I think I would like others opinions before I bring it up with her. The obvious answer is to talk and that is fine, that's the plan. But what do I actually want from this?

[fallentofar73]

I can only tell you what we do. My wife and kh have twins. The times she may want to have sex or even play around has droped to
Once a month. We look for the best fit cd for long term use and now im in a bon4 24/7 going into second month. We have had small
Problems but im very happy with it. I can bike around with it but did slip one ball out once. To pay for being out i must under go some cbt.so what i have to do was cock rings or she puts on her hair elastic to tie me up. To say its pain free is not right but it is a fun alternative the cd when it would be in the way.

[TwistedMister]

However. This means admitting what I'm doing. And her having the keys from day 1. Straight back in for God knows how long? Sounds a great fantasy but I can't do it. I love cycling and the cb didn't work with bikes full stop.

Identify the problem. Propose solution. Discuss limits and reach agreement on acceptable (to both) length of time. Make contingency plans for foreseeable/unforeseeable problems ('time outs', safewords, scheduled freedom for activity and procedure for re-lock, etc.).

[mistress is god]

Then we became pregnant and from my part I didn't want any sex. Just felt like it was wrong, she was carrying out baby and I didn't want to put it at any risk.
So now, the baby is here and we want to have sex again, naturally. the thing is i have become quite used to helping myself. I don't want to, but I do. So I'm thinking that the cb can help things.

I for one can completly agree. When my wife was pregnant i did not want to have sex. The tought of poking my unborn child was just wrong.

Wind forward to when my daughter was about 10 months and i wanted to start having sex again. My wife didnt. not interested still had baby brain.

Now daughter is 18 months and baby brain has gone and things are back to pre pregnancy.

My advise. Make sure your wife is ready to go back to how things were. If she is still in baby brain then you are going to be locked for a long time with out a lot from your partner. If she is out of baby brian then this could be a good way to restart things.

Hope this helps

[UnderHerThumb]

Just for the sake of anatomical accuracy and intelligence, unless you're fucking your wife during the delivery, you're not "poking your unborn child". The vagina is more than capable of accepting the penis without doing any harm to the fetus. There are medical situations when a pregnant woman should not be having sex, but a fear of "poking" the child is not one of them.

Robert

[Harry Haversackers]

Thank you for pointing that out, Robert. If you hadn't, I would have.