Now that I’ve been a member of this Forum for several months I have a question for some of the more mature members. (and I truly believe we just might be the majority here)
Would you have locked yourself up in your 20’s & 30's
I love this lifestyle now, but I’m in my mid 50’s I’m not so sure I would have embarked on this venture 25 years ago.
What do you think?
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I was. But to put a different spin on your title there wasn't the Internet so all I had to foster my kink was 'Forum' magazine. As soon as they published an article on infibulation I did it (and I didn't get it done because back in the 80's there wasn't a body piercer up the high street). No skills, no clue, no wonder it didn't work.
Within a month of getting Dial-up I had a SCC 'Birdcage' and my kink had finally landed. In truth in was overpriced, made of flat bar it was horribly edgy with bad welds and I loved every minute I was in it. Chatelaine was 'quite distant' about the whole thing.
When the CB2000 appeared on Altairboy I got one straight away and it was like handing my cock and balls to an angel after the discomfort of the SCC. Never secure enough and ultimately too flimsy to survive real life long term wear I was genuinely sad when it fell apart. Although she never went 'lifestyle' Chatelaine played with this one.
After the Millenium I made my own devices and the Mk12 was good enough to last until Chatelaine bought a Steelheart last year.
We got there in the end but it wasn't for lack of trying. It was lack of information and products.
poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another
Had I known of this sort of thing 30 years ago, I think maybe yes, I would have given it a try. I can trace certain 'influences' back to early childhood (pre-teen) but at that point I was basically clueless. It wasn't until I discovered a magazine called 'Nugget' on a newsstand when I was 30something(?)(1990something?) that I realized that FemDom and kinky shit really turned me on. Before then, I had these vague feelings/urges but didn't really understand what it was all about, although my GF (now my wife) and I had experimented with some 'tie & tease' and light spanking since the mid '80s- but it was usually me in the dominant role, and while it was fun, I often found myself wishing that it was the other way 'round.
Although the Internet/Usenet had some interesting stuff, it wasn't until the general public was allowed access, porn became more available and Altairboy's site went up that I began to realize what really tripped my trigger, especially as the available porn got kinkier.
When the CB2k came along I was still entertaining [most of] my fantasies in secret, thinking that there must be 'something wrong' with me and embarrassed at having such 'perverted' thoughts, and struggling with the urge to tell my wife that her commanding, combat-hardened, gun-toting he-man harbored secret desires to be dominated and controlled.
After the CB3k came out, I managed to sort some things out and begin introducing her to the idea.
Hmmmm, now that I think about it, maybe I *wouldn't* have given it a try when I was much younger. I think that it took more widespread knowledge of kink and 'alternative' lifestyles, and greater acceptance of them, plus age, to go from "You're a sick, twisted bastard" to "Fuck it, if it feels good, do it." Even so, I still have occasional bouts of "What are you doing and what the fuck is wrong with you that this shit turns you on?"
04/07/19 "And then I 'punished' you by making you lick my pussy after I let my other 'boy' fuck me." --Mrs. Twisted
locked4her55 wrote:Now that I’ve been a member of this Forum for several months I have a question for some of the more mature members. (and I truly believe we just might be the majority here)
Would you have locked yourself up in your 20’s & 30's
I love this lifestyle now, but I’m in my mid 50’s I’m not so sure I would have embarked on this venture 25 years ago.
What do you think?
I did it for the first time back in 1977. No chastity device then, just denial. But the resources that existed back then were basically things like magazines. Having met my wife through a D/s group, it changed things drastically as then was on my own and now is for her.
But I know what you mean. At 19 years old, I was masturbating three or four times a day. It's a little easier to get through it now although, once its been a couple of weeks, 19 or 54 makes little difference. You're feeling it.
I would have, if the same information that is out now was out then. I was into some pretty hardcore kinks early on but I didn't want BDSM or D/s. I didn't want to be a sissy or any of the other fantasies that were in the hardcore magazines I read. Had access to Vanilla Chastity been there and I had a woman like I've got now I would certainly have been locked up long ago. I think it just so happens that Male Chastity as a kink in and of itself is finally coming of age and that the more people are aware of it the more people of all ages will play with it.
I know this question is directed at older members but given that it's difficult to say "what you would have done had you known", I can probably still say something relevant.
I will say that I've been curious about this since before I was old enough to carry a credit card. And it was one of the first kinks I asked my wife to play with. I'm 23 by the way. I suppose the landscape is different right now ... with the abundance of information online and products available, there are more opportunities to play or have these experiences so to speak.
Although right now I'm in a different mood... getting off more on being told when/how to masturbate, as opposed to being denied outright. I suspect it will all vary as time passes, along with all of my other sexual cravings.
You ain't whistling Dixie pal. It's a different world. In fact, it's a different planet. You know those people that you won't tell about this? Imagine that they were the only people that you could communicate with. All that freaky shit you see on the 'net that comforts you that you're not such a freak after all? That's not there either. Stuff that barely raises an eyebrow now made the papers back then. People with tattoos and piercings didn't get good jobs. To be different was basically to be wrong.
We've progressed.
poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another
I'm fairly certain I wouldn't have, at least not in my 20's anyway. I'm on the young side of being in my forties, and first discovered "practical" male chastity only in my mid thirties. Prior to that, I thought of chastity as something that was done (only) as part of B&D play, not long term. And it took several years of thinking about it before I began to realize that it could be much more than a game, but rather a benefit. No, in my 20's I think I would not have considered it.
I am 51 years old. Married for 24 years. I wish I knew chastity lifestyle 20 years ago; I would have loved to accept it. God knows why, but my wife has always thought that women get attracted towards me. And there was no way I could prove my sincerity towards my wife. Now after locking me into jailbird steel cage the things have changed dramatically. When I got the device, I explained its functioning to her in depth. Only after she was convinced that this cage is inescapable & I can't even have an erection when locked, all her doubts about my alleged flirting are now put to halt. I wish I had this device 20 years ago; we would have had far better married life. I now get release only for sex / cleaning. Further, now if I remove the device & base ring for a longer time, my scrotum contracts, causing real pain. So after having sex / cleaning I get desperate to put the device on. My cage has now become a part of my body. I love it !
Stay chaste. Make your wife & life happy. Forever.
I think I would have been too afraid to find a real life keyholder, but I think if i'd known about it, i would totally have self-locked in my 20s. This is something i'd been wanting for a long time before my husband and I started playing with it; the allure was pretty much always there.
(and I truly believe we just might be the majority here)
