Cuckolding and My KH's Needs

[hotrob99]

I have certainly seen that we males in chastity are a diverse breed. It's logical that our lovely key holders are also very diverse in their tastes and interests. However, I wanted to relay our experiences and thoughts. We are a cuckold couple...and a very happy one at that. That is to say, that for a couple of years now she has been able to sleep with whomever she likes...mostly with me watching and participating, but she has played a few times with me or with me on the phone.

We have an amazing relationship and she is a master of assuring me that she prefers sex with me. But it can be hot to enjoy a special threesome or foursome. I enjoy denying myself orgasms anyway, and chastity has enhanced that greatly.

The question is, are we really in the minority to be a male chastity couple who engages in cuckolding?

The fact is, my lady has a very strong sex drive too; and when she needs it, she NEEDS it! She has been known to cave in and let me out of my cage...and she normally sternly instructs me NOT to cum, but my control is pretty bad sometimes. We both enjoy that too...she will lecture me, feign anger (maybe sometimes there is some truth in a bit of anger), and then she'll lock me up again as "punishment". But perhaps my biggest fantasy is for her to have sex with another man while I am locked up. It could be hot to stay home locked up while she played, or maybe I'd go along and help out. It's incredibly hot to imagine having to show the guy or tell him about being locked up. To me, cuckolding is a logical extension of male chastity...or perhaps vice versa. Orgasm denial is a natural part of chastity and it's also integral in cuckolding.

I just wanted to share my point of view and see how many of you have thought about or engaged in this kind of play.

[danj]

While I do think orgasm denial/male chastity is a natural extension of cuckolding, I do not think the reverse is true.

My wife knows of my cuckold fantasies, however, we've decided that reality isn't for us. I've had an interest in cuckolding as a fantasy for the past few years, and from what I've read (quite a lot) it seems that the cuck husband enjoys being cuckolded more if he is either denied, or at least waits to orgasm until after his wife has finished having sex with her lover. We men fast lose our sexual desire after we cum, and watching one's wife have sex with her lover is likely no exception.

[hotrob99]

Dan, I don't disagree with many of your conclusions and impressions. First, cuckolding is a big step and the woman has to drive that. Some women would be comfortable with it and some just wouldn't. So, that is a foremost consideration. The only reason I suggested that cuckolding may flow logically from chastity is if your woman needs sex and yet also prefers to keep her man locked up for long periods. In this way, I'm just saying, I like being able to give her cock and yet keep my own locked up!

You are also right about the way a man reacts to orgasm and how a man's orgasm has to be subordinate to a woman's in a successful cuckolding relationship. I'm proud to say that when my lady cucks me and has sex with another guy, my orgasm isn't a big concern of hers. The whole situation is so exciting to me that I tend to cum fast...so, we have to focus on her or her new partner. I have cum first many times and watched her continue to enjoy herself for quite a while!

One more thing, i love the pic of your key on your wife's necklace! That pic was an inspiration for us...my girl is wearing my key prominently and has been questioned about it a number of times. We love the awkward moment when she doesn't know how to answer..."the key to his heart" is the normal answer. But some don't buy that...LOL. Anyway, I'll get a similar pic of my lady with my key and post it here. Thanks for your reply.

[danj]

The only reason I suggested that cuckolding may flow logically from chastity is if your woman needs sex and yet also prefers to keep her man locked up for long periods. In this way, I'm just saying, I like being able to give her cock and yet keep my own locked up!

I agree this is something that can happen, especially in a strict FLR. Though I suspect it is pretty rare. I would suspect that a wife that considered going that route already had the desire to cuck her husband. In other words the chastity didn't really bring on the cuckolding...the wife's desire for it did.

[danj]

One more thing, i love the pic of your key on your wife's necklace! That pic was an inspiration for us...my girl is wearing my key prominently and has been questioned about it a number of times. We love the awkward moment when she doesn't know how to answer..."the key to his heart" is the normal answer. But some don't buy that...LOL. Anyway, I'll get a similar pic of my lady with my key and post it here. Thanks for your reply.

Glad you like it! Look forward to seeing your pic!

[Locked4Xtine]

I have to say that the thought of my GF cuckolding me drives me wild.

I prefer it to stay in the fantasy realm for the time being though but I do love the idea of seeing some guy, with more stamina than my chaste cock, make her moan for hours

[fuzzydunlop]

I never thought that cuckolding would be something we would be in to, but we have been together a long time. Her biggest fantasy is exhibitionism, and I like to be denied. We both have submissive tendencies. Her fucking other people has been a common ground fantasy we can talk about in the bedroom. Sometimes it's really hot and she admits fantasizing about fucking someone at a bar while I go out to the car to do an errand for her. Sometimes I feel dirty afterwards. We'll see.

[Chuck]

My wife and I were swingers before we got custody of two of my sons 3 years ago. We found one steady guy for regular sex and either of us could play alone and we would have 3somes as well. I never considered it cuckolding when my wife and he were at home fucking while I was at work. Sometimes she would call me on the phone so I could hear them and sometimes they would video it so I could watch later. Sometimes I just watched them, sometimes my wife watched me and him.

I feel that cuckolding is an ugly word with undesirable actions associated with the meaning. Some people don't. I wouldn't consider any of our swinging playtime cuckolding even though what we did at times could be considered such by others.

I guess that's a matter of "Our game, Our rules" semantics. Anyway, anytime you bring another into your intimate life as a couple it requires clear cut rules and lots of communication. Most people can't handle the green eyed monster, (jealousy). What happens if one partner likes it but not the other? Do you have an agreement that either partner can say stop at any point and all activity stops? We had a lot of communication prior to and during and at any time either of us could call it off.

When it all works out it can be more fun than imagined, but if it doesn't work out, you can't undo what's been done.

I think I ran a little long but just wanted to say that I love watching my wife fucking another guy. Not because they do it better, (I pride myself on being a damned good lover), but because I find it HOT! Live porn right there in my face that I can reach out and be a part of if I so choose. We both get something from it. I get the opportunity to play with another guy and so does she. So basically we both get a boyfriend as well as our spouse. That may not be cool for some guys but since I'm bi, it's cool for me. and it's cool for her too.

Of course now that we're living a male chastity lifestyle we'll have to consider what we want when we get back into swinging...

[rmcingle]

The question is, are we really in the minority to be a male chastity couple who engages in cuckolding?

I suspect that a large percentage of us would be thrilled to be in a cuckold situation, but very VERY few of us have a key holder that would even consider it!

For me, the chastity control was a way of keeping my sexuality in line with my wife's. If I had a wife that wanted sex often I would probably have never gotten into chastity control.

I like to fantasize about cuckold, but the simple fact is that my wife would never consider having sex with anyone else.

Ron

[Devoted12own]

[quote="hotrob99"]The question is, are we really in the minority to be a male chastity couple who engages in cuckolding?
The fact is, my lady has a very strong sex drive too; and when she needs it, she NEEDS it!

My wife is the same... she NEEDS sex. We try to do the cockold thing but we live in the middle of nowhere and can't seem to find someone close enough to play with. I would love to see her have sex with another man! But to make due I use a variety of toys from vibe, dildos, strap-on, to some other devious toys.