Needing advice

[curioustncpl]

I've been interested in chastity for a long time. Last night, i finally got my wife to at least think about it. Are there some good threads someone knows right off, or some other websites, that might be good to show her to let her know male chastity is ok. She had some questions and concerns, and i tried my best to ease her concerns. While i thought she was somewhat submissive, she claimed last night that she likes control and was not submissive, so that alone is perfect. But any other advice would be great.

[celticqueens_sub]

This website is the best place to start. Use the search facility and key words to find what you need. It will take time but all the threads here offer much advice from real couples in real relationships. Most other websites I have been on have to much fantasy wank fodder. Also check out the really good blogs written by many here and check out the aggregation site key held in my signature below which is a central blog point

[poor]

Sarah Jameson's malechastityblog is the shop window for her book 'Be Careful What You Wish For' (BCWYWF) that has much of the ethos and sense espoused around here.

Lucy Fairboune's 'Male Chastity: A Guide For Keyholders' follows Sarah's 80/20 rule in that 80% of the useful information is contained in 20% of the pagecount of the other book. It also comes in e-book format whereas I had to ask Chatelaine to load BCWYWF onto the Kindle in PDF format, she also put MP3 files of Sarah reading her book on there as well.

[Tom Allen]

Are there some good threads someone knows right off, or some other websites, that might be good to show her to let her know male chastity is ok.

[Atone]

Both of those books have some good information in them. They will give you some good things to think about. You need to take what resonates for you and incorporate that in what you do, ignore the rest.

[curioustncpl]

SHE SAID YES! She gave me the go ahead last night and we're going to order a CB6000 unless i can find one somewhere cheaper. I can't believe she agreed, but i'm so excited to finally get my chance to be chaste.

[kpb57]

The CB6000 offers great value for the price.
I had to wear it for a few days because of a sore spot that had developed in the Desire, and I was surprised how comfortable it is. The only problem is that it can become unglued, which may cause great pain.
And of course metal looks more like the "real thing".

K

[poor]

SHE SAID YES! She gave me the go ahead last night and we're going to order a CB6000 unless i can find one somewhere cheaper. I can't believe she agreed, but i'm so excited to finally get my chance to be chaste.

Very well done! (Don't forget to stop at the florists on the way home.)

[LockedUpNewb]

I had to modify my CB6000 for better fit.

I would suggest only wearing it for a few hours in the beginning. I spent about 6 weeks getting used to mine before I was able to wear if for a full 24hr period. Then it had to come off so I could rest a bit. For me, it was quite painful in the beginning. I have high and tight balls, so stretching them out and down to get the ring on took some time for my body to adjust. After a year of on and off wear, my skin around my balls has stretched out enough that I can wear the largest ring for extended periods (weeks) without too much discomfort during the day or night.

The real discomfort comes when your wife or girlfriend gets you all hot and bothered and you get an erection. It pulls out on the ring and squeezes your balls like a vise. I would suggest using the largest ring for the first few weeks. Just take your time and get used to wearing it. You've gone your whole life up to this point with your balls unconfined. They are about to become EXTREMELY confined and restrained. It's painful at first.

If you have fit problems, it will most likely be burning and rubbing the skin under your balls. There's a groove in the ring and the skin under your balls tends to bunch up in there. It gets compressed and rubs a lot. Makes the skin under your balls red and can blister if you try to be brave and tuff it out.

I took a dremel and a sanding drum to my ring. I ground the grooves off the ring. In stock form, the ring is about 3/8" wide. I ground the grooves off the front and back. I ended up with a ring only about 1/8" wide. It's less pressure and less pull on your balls and that nasty groove is gone, so no more scrunching and bunching of that tender skin.

After I ground the grooves off, I went and bought some "Plasti-Dip" It's liquid rubber in a can. I submerged the bottom 3/4 of the ring into the plasti-dip. I left the very top parts out of the dip so the device could still be pinned together normally. Dipping the ring twice built up a nice ring of semi-soft rubber around it. I dipped it once and then hung it on a string to dry over night. Then dipped it a second time and again let it dry overnight.

Now for the cage part. The under side of the cage runs the full length, so when you have it on, there's only a thin 1/4" gap for your ball skin to fit between the cage and the ring. It's more than 'snug'

I used my dremel and sanding drum to carve out a half moon shape in the bottom of the cage so my ball skin had more room under the cage - on top of the ring.

Fits pretty good now.

This will probably make more sense when you have it on and start feeling the pinching spots and tight places. Hope that helps. If you need to adjust it, it's easy enough to do with the dremel and sanding drum. I can post pics if you need more help.

Hopefully, it will simply fit, without modifications.

Just be aware, you can pull out of one of these in about 2 seconds and wank off if you ever have a moment of weakness. Your balls are trapped - there's no getting around that. But you can pull your dick out anytime you want. They aren't really 'secure' at all. It's more symbolic than anything.

My wife was hesitant about the idea of male chastity in the beginning. It's taken over a year for her to really warm up to the while idea. In the beginning, she did it to make me happy. But she slowly, and cautiously, realized the benefits to her and the relationship.

Last month she suggested I get pierced because she wants to make sure I really am caged and locked securely. I'm not really keen to get my dick pierced, but as she reminded me, "It's not up to you any longer. Thats my cock and I want it locked." I avoided the discussion of a metal device for about 3 weeks. She found the Lories website and wants to order the #2D and have me pierced before her B-day on Feb 20th.

Have fun. Be careful what you wish for. You might just loose all control over and privileges to touch your own cock. Sounds fun..........................

[curioustncpl]

The CB6000 has been ordered brand new off of EBAY and the guy assures me it's not some knock off. Thanks for the input, I'll keep that in mind for sure if it's not working out well.