My husband and I have played with chastity on and off for several years. I've had a CB2000 and a Mistress Lori but after reading Thumper's blog am very interested in purchasing a Steelworxx Steelheart. I've hit on this site for quite a while, but once only decided to sign up after realizing it was moderated by Thumper.
I have been interested in BDSM almost all of my life, but my wife is not into it at all. While my wife is certainly not interested in BDSM she will occasionaly endulge my fantasy and give me a session. She is a very lazy Domme, however, and would go for the torments that required the least from her. Nipple clamps, butt plugs, etc.
Then about 8 years ago I introduced chastity control. This fit very well with her style: lock and on and forget it for a while. Sometime a long while. I started off with the "Curve" but switched to the CB2000 after about a year.
For three years I wore the chastity device essentially 24/7. I would be let out frequently when needed: to play sports (I played soccer and hockey), for water activities (we have a ski boat), and other situations where it wasn't appropriate to be wearing. Otherwise, I was locked up.
Overall, my sex life actually improved! Much less masturbation, but intercourse actually improved.
I would occasionally be allowed to masturbate, under her supervision. Once, after I had managed to get her front row seats to a Celine Dion show, she let me out and carte blanch the entire weekend!
Normally, however, it was 10 to 14 days between orgasms. I was keeping a log, and the longest I went without even being unlocked was 30 days, and the longest without an orgasm was 59 days.
I was quite content.
Then I started having some health issues and she stopped the chastity control.
Now, 7 years later, it is starting back up again. So far, not 24/7 like before, but a week or two at a time. I will take anything I can get
New to this site, but not new to the idea of the lifestyle. i have been curious about chastity for years, and finally have opened up to my wife about it. She's not been ready to talk about it, but i'm hoping to find a device fairly cheap so she won't be upset with me spending money on it. That's about it for now. When i have more time, i'll fill in more. Of course, if you have questions, feel free to ask me.
Welcome to the site. I am pretty sure you will find what you need on here in terms of good advice. Have you thought about trying an honour system based start just to see how you both get o0n with the idea? Devoces don't come much cheaper than that! Bear in mind, for the future, if this goes well for you both, you will be in it a long time... the best advice I can offer is get the best you can and don't rush any purchases, we waited a year before going to a custome made device. I think the CB ranges offer an excellent compromise and adjustments.
Owned and loved by Celtic Queen. Her perception is my reality.
I agree about the honor system. That is how Jnuts and I started. It also helps to take some of the "kink" factor out if your wife is having trouble wrapping her head around MC. I know I did!
celticqueens_sub wrote: Have you thought about trying an honour system based start just to see how you both get o0n with the idea?
I started off on honor system. My biggest problem was that I just didn't have the self control so I slipped up a lot, which resulted in a lot of punishments, which my wife really didn't want to do. After about 6 months we bought the Curve and then things were easier on both of us.
I will say, however, that if the wife is not interested in chastity control in general then the honor system isn't going to work.
For me, it took a fairly major upheaval in our relationship to get my wife to consider anything outside of she considered "normal". I don't want to go into a lot of detail but we were having problems, we were seeing a marriage counselor and we got to a point where divorce was being disussed. Sex, or the lack thereof, was a major issue. Once my wife accepted the fact that the status quo was no longer going to be maintained she opened her mind to suggestions, and then she was able to consider the concept that there is a "win-win" solution here with chastity control.
Hello world! I am a first-time chastity wearer as of yesterday having received my CB-6000s. I am a married, crossdresser with a loving wife. I have introduced chastity to our marriage to curb my 'self-play' which has caused me guilt and lack of focus (partly as a result of my crossdress fantasies and high labido). My wife is the KH and has been surprisingly open to it, if a little concerned at first what it might do to harm my 'winky'.
Everything has gone really well with the fit and use of the device the last 48 hours and I am off to a great start, having read a lot of tips on this forum and various blogs / websites. I am enjoying being in chastity and I hope it will continue to grow on my wife. I feel really settled and recomitted to her, and the device itself is really quite snug and almost 'nice' to wear dare I say it.
A couple of initial sore spots (to be expected) but I am settling in gently. Look forward to sharing my experience and learning more from all you other veteran wearers!
- Nikki(Married & Chastised UK Crossdresser)
Wearing: Custom Steelworxx.de Steelheart1 <3
Also owned/worn: CB-6000s (genuine), Jailhouse (replica)
