A different twist on chastity

[asw_35]

A little about me: late 40s, been married twice before, once to a vanilla lady, next to a kink-tolerant lady. First ended in divorce, second I was widowed after 7 years. She died in 2004, after a year of feeling sorry for myself, I began to explore me sexuality. I have been a switch, but mainly top. It is very hard to meet single ladies of quality if you are middle aged, don’t computer date well, and don’t have a lot of time. I met a few ladies and played on the bottom for a few years. I developed an interest in chastity and forced abstinence and decided to purchase the most logical and secure device I could find, a Ms. Lori tube. I had it made shorter than I was, to hinder erections. I ordered the tube, then got a PA piercing. The device came, and I had to wait a month until I was healed enough to use it. It was heavy, and frankly, it hurt the piercing to use. I was bummed, and shelved it for a while. About a year later (the piercing had healed completely), I found it and tried it. Using it with tight underwear for support, it was tolerable. I would wear it for the day, but would generally give in and take it off to “take care of business”. I played with mailing myself the keys, that was fun, but without a partner, less than fulfilling (actually, it was annoying). I found a regular play partner, and showed her the device (she was a Domme). She had me put it on, and things were great for a month or so. I would wear it between visits (usually 4-5 days), then we would get together and play. One time, she had me in it and we had to cancel our session. I asked if she could take it off until we got together again, and she said no. I am not a sub, but have played on the bottom. This was a little (ok a lot) frustrating for me. Not so much the lack of masturbation and relief, but being told no. Guess I am just not wired that way. Anyway, I got with her in another 3-4 days, now I had had it on for 8 days, and I was ready. She had a bit of a sadistic streak in her. When we got together, she tied me securely and took it off. She washed me, played with me, got me close, then put it back on. She hid the key and sent me home. I was actually pretty ticked. I was ready for it to come off. And being a bottom for play only, didn’t like my everyday life controlled. Next visit she took it off and I requested that we take a break. She agreed and I left with the tube off, and we never got back together.
I had a few girlfriends for the next few years, but all subs. I was happy in the top role. None of the girls were going to work out on a permanent basis, so the search continued.
In July of this year, I met the perfect lady. She didn’t know it yet, but she was a slave. I had trained one girl prior to her, and once we got together, everything was perfect. Our relationship grew by leaps and binds (yes, that was intentional), and we decided to get married. Life was perfect. She is the perfect slave for me, and I am perfect for her. She does not have a dominant bone in her body, and I am extremely happy as her Master.
We have a December wedding in just under 3 weeks and we could not be happier.
Mid last week, we went into our Jacuzzi and the next day, she developed a yeast infection. She was itchy and in pain, and I felt terrible. The bromide floater had run out, and the spa was not clean.
She didn’t tell me about it, and avoided sex (which is very unusual for her). She pleased my with her mouth a couple of times, and when I went to take her, she told me what was wrong. I felt terrible. I kind of felt it was my fault, and her being my shave, I am responsible for her. She was in pretty bad shape (not medically serious, but damned uncomfortable).
She treated it, but it looked like it would be 5-7 days until she was back to normal. I oversee every aspect of her life (manage her money, diet, time, cloths), and she loves it. We are perfect together. The only problem is e are so attracted to each other that when we are in bed, things develop, and I wind up in her somewhere. We tried to control ourselves, but after two days, we slipped. The next morning, I felt awful. She went to work, and I was at home with a big problem. I take care of her in every way, and I was afraid that having sex with her while she had the infection would make it worse, or at least delay the healing. I was miserable. She loves every kind of penetration, and could not do anything. I, being a typical male, will resolve my sexual frustrations y myself if they get too bad. I felt bad for her pain and frustration, and felt guilty about her pleasing me and remaining frustrated. I also did not want to feel guilty by taking care of things myself, when she is neither allowed to do that, nor could she in her condition. We could not keep our hands off of each other, and when we are together (we live together), things happen.
I have not played on the bottom for a very long time, and have no desire to with such a perfect slave. In a fit of frustration, I dug out my Lori tube and locked it on the other morning when she was at work. I kept it on during the day, and made a decision on what to do.
I had showed her all my toys a few months ago, she knew about everything, including my chastity device. I wrote her an Email explaining what I was feeling and told her that when I picked her up from work that afternoon, she was to take the key and put it in her desk at work, and leave it there. She works in a controlled building that is locked after 6 PM, not opened until 7Am the next morning. She did, and we went home.
We talked a LOT that evening. She felt that my actions displayed such a love for her she cried. I wanted to share in her frustration, and a little of the pain, while protecting her from the two of us losing control.
We had a magical evening together, and the next day she was instructed to not touch the key. It would stay there until she was completely healed.
This is very hard for me. I am not a sub, and am not interested in playing on the bottom now. She is not dominant at all, and does not want to top. However, I am locked into the tube, with the key at her office. It sounds a little strange, but it seems to be the best solution for now.
I put the tube on Monday morning, and this is Thanksgiving week. Her infection is getting better, but still itches and will likely be another 3-4 days until she is over it. She works Wednesday, then off until Monday. It looks like she will have to leave the key there over the holiday weekend. That is a real bummer, but I think the infection should have time to heal, and we would not of her symptoms went away.
I have not had this thing on for years, now it looks like it will be over a week before it can come off. I feel different about it now, as I chose to put it on, and also chose to put the key out of reach. We talked most of the night. We hugged and kissed. I tied her up. We played. It was very special. The intimacy was much more intense knowing it could not go any further.
I am just over one day into the 7.5 day time, and things are a little bit sore, but not bad. If things get bad by tomorrow at 5PM, we will have to do something else, but I think it will be OK. Once she leaves work on Wednesday, we cannot get the key until Monday.
Interesting predicament…..
I will post more later.

[Whizbang]

In regards to the Lori's, was the problem you initially had with the device that the piercing was still newly healed or is there continued stress on the piercing even now despite your device's tube being short?

I'm trying to decide between a device with PA security or just a standard device. I was thinking that a short tube would mean that any stress the lock placed on the piercing would be minimized but it sounds like your experience contradicts that.

[asw_35]

My piercing is several years old now, and it has healed completely. I think it takes about a year for it to heal.
The PA piercing devices are more secure. The Lori's tube is excellent, but it is very heavy. I do recommend it though. Most devices (plastic, etc) are a lot like toys, the Lori device is now. You know it's there, and it would be very hard to cut it off.
You are correct, the shorter length does minimize stress on the piercing. I have found it very important to keep the area warm (thick underwear and jeans or heavy sweats), and avoid getting cold. When things get cold, things shrink and there is a lot of stress on the piercing. This time around, I have no problems with the piercing. She is still symptomatic for her infection, and it is Wednesday, so I think I will have to tell her to leave the key at her work, and I will be in it until Monday evening. Long weekend ahead.
Good luck, if you have any more questions on the Lori device, let me know.

[asw_35]

Wednesday mid day. The soreness is gone, and I discovered a neat trick (I am sure this is old news to many, but...). I tied a piece of soft nylon cord around the base ring, and around my waist back to the ring. It holds the weight of the device completely, and makes it a LOT more comfortable. Moving, sitting, walking, and bending are not without discomfort.
L and I talked a lot last night, For over 4 hours. She is a slave, and will do as I tell her. Out sex life to date has been wonderful, until her infection. Using chastity, we have discovered a whole new faced to our relationship. She misses penetration as much as I do, but the infection makes it painful, and I would not think of making her hurt. We agreed that not having the key at home is the best solution to keep us from playing while she heals. She has her instructions to leave work this afternoon, without the key. Once she gets home, we are stuck for the next 5 days (until she leaves work Monday afternoon).
We are also talking about remaining abstinent until our wedding, on the 10th of December. We will discuss that further over the next 5 days, and see what we decide. She will do as I say, but in this I am seeking her input to make my decision. She thinks a period of abstinence before the wedding is a great idea, but neither of us are sure that 19 days will be doable. If we decide to do it, we will mail the key to a kink-friendly couple that live out of town and are coming to the wedding. We will just tell them it is kink related, and please to make sure it gets to the wedding. That is a huge step for us, as we are both very used to having a lot of sex.
I am sure many here have remained locked up for 3 weeks, I would appreciate some info on what to expect during sex after a period like that. Anyone?
Thanks, A

[kpb57]

Since starting with MC, I've had 2 "longer" periods of abstinence (I AM a short-timer ). One was right before last christmas, lasting close to 2 days, and one was quite recently (see "A trip to Heidelberg" in the Member's Lounge), going for 4 days.

In both cases, the experience during and after was great.
Be prepared to somehow deal with you being excited to a point where you find it hard to hold anything back. We usually do this by her riding me, that way it is easy for her to achieve an orgasm without making me come prematurely.
OTOH, you may find that your refractory period is quite short and you can (and want to) go for a second (third, fourth, depending on you) round much earlier than usual.

Preparing for the celebration of an important date by staying chaste has worked out great for us.

K

[asw_35]

Thanks for the replay. We are deciding over the next few days weather to take it off or last until the wedding. It has been on for 3 days so far, and the initial adjustments are over, no real soreness or problems. With the key at her office, it will be on until Monday at least.
We talked for hours this morning about it, she of course will do whatever I tell her, but this needs to be a mutual decision. If we elect to do it, December 10th will be a very interesting night.
Thanks again. Any other experiences you would like to share would be great.
A.

[Atone]

Any other experiences you would like to share would be great.

I don't have any relatable experiences to share but I love reading about the dynamic of a "dom" being locked in chastity by their "sub". I know there is at least one other that posted here a while back. I'm not sure what it is that is so interesting, maybe the fact that I can relate to being locked and denied but not at all to what it is like to be a "dom" and this turns what little I do know upside down.

Anyway, thanks for sharing.

-A

[Celtic Queen]

I am sure many here have remained locked up for 3 weeks, I would appreciate some info on what to expect during sex after a period like that. Anyone?
Thanks, A

About three seconds?...

[poor]

As a rubbish Top (way too little care or control) I have a long held fantasy of a reluctant 'Top' being withheld satisfaction until he satisfies the needs of a deeply masochistic partner. This would unwind to tacit permission to take Chatelaine by force anytime that I was unlocked. (Which really didn't work for us in the past).

It's much easier and a lot more fun to 'gosub' IMO. You get all the sensation, you can really let go and you get to be hugged afterwards. What's a couple of sore days compared to that?